r/myevilplan • u/mangotango2220 • 15h ago
husband cheated on me in the most vicious way
Hi everyone, I met someone 4 years ago who was the love of my life. We met and spent every single day together, became best friends and eventually fell in love. At the time, we were both working dead end jobs but found solace in having each other.
His dream was always to be in the military, peruse a life his grandfather had put before him.
I followed him, waited for him, gave up my career to be with him through this journey. I supported him every step of the way, even when we were just working small jobs.
I gave my life to him, which is my fault.
We got married a month before he left for BC, i spent time alone, traveled to see him, wrote him every day. When he got out we were able to finally live life as a married couple, I strived to be the best wife and partner for him every single day.
We finally moved to our first duty station, starting my life over i was introduced to new people; one of those being his coworker who at the time i grew close with and was a shoulder for her to cry on during her divorce. As the months went on, i noticed them being very comfortable with each other and like and normal person would do i brought it up, not accusatory but to have a hard conversation about if i am being left in the dark.
6 months of my life as his wife i cooked, cleaned, worked, provided and loved him while watching him let another woman take my spot.
all while being away from my friends and family, isolated to watching this happen in-front of me.
he brought this woman on our anniversary trip, under the guise of friends joining and while supporting our marriage financially and emotionally they took every opportunity to be together when i wasn’t around.
eventually he grew to hate me, and would tell me every day that i needed to get better or less insecure about them or he would leave me. both of them convinced me i was insane which caused me to go into a deep depression, all of which i got up every day; cooked, cleaned, loved and worked for him.
finally, he told me one day that he wanted to divorce me; i was a terrible wife and would be a terrible mother one day. he told me he hated me, couldn’t stand that i was insecure about her and that most of all he was leaving me for causing fake scenarios about him; that i was too sad and could never be helped. that was 3 months ago.
so i left, moved my life and restarted back home all under the assumption that i was a terrible wife, a horrible person who nobody could love because i sabotaged my marriage with the love of my life.
yesterday, i found out that they had been sleeping together since march. and that everyone around me knew but never told me, they watched me become a shell of a person, watched me suffer for their own pleasure.
they are now together, living a life they built on my misery.
i am not the vengeful type of person, especially when i thought i caused the collapse of my marriage.
if anyone would like to help me, i would so appreciate it.
thank you for reading this i know its long.