so as the title says i'm 18(i just turned 18 last month) but i don't have a job, car, license, anything. i only live with my mom and i have distant family in other states but it's really just us and it's such a toxic environment. i've always said that i would move out at 18 but the economy suddenly got so bad and i didn't have a job/ am struggling very hard to get one because of my current situation and even if i were to apply for a job, i have no proof of identification besides a copy of my birth certificate supplied by my school counselor because my mother lost the original. i have a 4.0 GPA and definitely qualify for scholarships and financial aid so getting away by means of schooling could definitely work, but i need money and i have no idea where to start. i've been applying to and looking for jobs but even if i get a job it is a real fear that my mother would
"sabotage" me and my work in a way, esp bc she's my transportation and my lack of ID would require her to be over my finances. is there a way i can earn money behind the scenes online or something at least so i can try to have some assets to get away from her? or somewhere i can look for some resources?

I want to make a short list of questions to ask before I book. So far I have: are you licensed and insured, is the quote binding, and what happens if something gets damaged?

i finished college this year and have been working at my first full-time job for two months now. i make $56/hr in southern california (SD county area). most 1 bed 1 bath apartments ive seen are 2000 to 2500 w/o utilities which would be a little fine to me if i didnt have a 1100 student loan payment .. im just wondering if its realistic / possible for me to move out and how much i should save if i do plan to go through with this.

monthly expenses (loan, dental, health, car insurance): $1389.75 .. im not sure how much groceries would be monthly but im a single person that doesnt eat much. im also unsure average utilities cost would be; i researched and it said around $250 (+ $70 for internet) but im not sure how accurate that is?

i know the smartest thing to do would be to stay at my parents and pay off my loan, but its not the best environment.

So I moved into a place with my exes (boyfriend at the start) parents

He lives in a separate state not here with his parents

And I'm trying to make a better life for me and my daughter so I've been working on getting into transitional housing because this was supposed to be temporary

Well right now his step mom is very sick and the dad is emotionally struggling and I'm very attached to the dad

I love his parents but this place hasn't been the best on my mental health it's been an amazing stepping stone compared to where I was before but it's also taking a toll on me

I'm in a room with everyone's storage so I don't really have space to call mine

The dad keeps telling me I can stay if I change my mind

But I know this transitional unit is the best option for me and my daughter in a lot of ways

I just feel so guilty especially with the timing where the step mom just went to the hospital a week or two ago

How do I feel less guilty about this

I know rationally this is a good choice and I need to focus on my daughter but I just feel like I'm letting everyone down

Also if the step mom passed at the hospital the dad isn't even sure how to keep up with all the bills and I don't want to feel uneasy when I have a child to look out for

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I moved out of my rented apartment two months ago. My parents were meant to come home to our hometown but they stayed. When I moved out the first time I was so excited about starting my new life a 1000km away that I did not feel any sad feelings. I did not look back and even filmed my room for a couple of seconds just so I had something to remember. But I did not think I would ever need it. I was leaving my apartment and had no idea that I was also leaving behind part of my life which I would not get again.

When I moved back everything was exactly the same. The dogs barked, the kids played and studied, people were chatting outside and the trees got darker. The only thing that had changed was me. I realised that the world had still been going around me and all these normal things were happening. However, I am leaving again tomorrow and this time I know I will never come back. In 5/6 months I will be going to my hometown and someone else will be living in my room. They will be looking out of my window, hearing the dogs and most likely moaning about the noise.

I never thought I would write a funeral for my apartment! The first time I moved out I did not even look back. Now I am struggling to find the right words. It's weird how I filmed my room for a couple of seconds to remember it and now I feel like I don't have anything left. The first time I did not feel any fear because I was just leaving somewhere. This time I knew I could come back. But now I realise what I'm losing and there's no way I can change it. Tomorrow evening will be the same as always. The dogs will bark, the kids will play. The world will keep going on but this time I won't be here.

I'm (30M) planning to move on my own for the 1st time, from Denver to Chicago by next year but I don't know anyone and all the roommate finder websites and apps are extremely scammy and full of spam and have had no luck on any. I've also been looking on here in apartment finder subreddits but there's also a bunch of spam/flaky people after many attempts of reaching out to a lot of people in said subs.

What things/steps are needed in order to smoothly transition from 1 place to another in terms of getting settled and looking for a place? I don't plan on getting a car, just living in the city walking everywhere/taking public transportation. I've been very sheltered my whole life and have struggled with mental health issues since childhood and don't know really anything about adult life. Attaining any kind of insurance for health, housing, etc or how to basically live on my own but I need to start living my own life for once. Any advice?

I (25) will be moving out from home in a couple of months to live with my boyfriend. I’m excited about the move but also have a lot of a diary regarding the separation from my family. I’m going to move to a place that’s less than 10 minutes by car, but not seeing them on a daily basis is kind of scary. The person I feel the most attached to is my mom. We have a really good relationship and we get along really well. However, she hasn’t said really anything about my decision to move (not that she has to, but I really look up to her and want her approval), other than joking that we’ll only see each other on Sundays (I got sad about that comment so later we talked about it) and another time out of nowhere, I mentioned that we won’t be living together anymore, and told me not to say that because she would get sad.
Recently, I’ve been feeling the need to have her reassurance about our relationship after the move, and ask her if we will keep on making some of the plans/activities that we do together, like watching a movie and ordering Chinese, going shopping etc. I asked her about it finally, and she just said yes, and laughed it off, but we didn’t really talk about it like I wanted to. Should I talk to her again or maybe let it flow and we’ll have a conversation when the moment arises? From her answer, I feel like I’m making a big deal out of something obvious: despite not living together we are still mother and daughter and have a nice relationship.

King size bed with four drawers 180x200

Single bed 120x190

Frames are new the mattress are clean but used for 2 years.

I ordered the mattress for the king bed with a smaller size.

Location Ajman

Price 500 AED for both

Note i have to move out tomorrow

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I’m 23, graduated college last year, and currently work full-time making around $70k annually. I live with my parents, and they’ve provided a comfortable home for me. I’m extremely grateful for that.

For a while now, I’ve wanted to experience living independently. I’ve recently been approved for my first apartment, and I’m scheduled to move in next week.
For some financial context, I earn approximately $70k annually, have around $10k in cash savings, approximately $13k invested between Acorns and Coinbase, around $3k in my 401(k), and roughly $550 in my HSA.

My parents have always emphasized the importance of financial stability. My dad especially has encouraged me to stay home, save around $3,000 monthly, and eventually purchase my first property, potentially using it as an investment. I completely understand his reasoning, and financially, staying home would undoubtedly be the smarter option.

However, I’ve wanted to experience having my own space, managing my own household, and becoming more independent since graduating. My new apartment is also much closer to work, which would significantly improve my commute.

Recently, there was a disagreement between my father and me that accelerated my decision to move, although the desire to live independently existed long before that.
I told my mom about my apartment approval today. While she isn’t happy about the timing or the financial implications, she’s still supportive of me. She expressed concerns that the disagreement with my father may have influenced my decision and worries that I’m making such a major change while emotions are still high.
I understand where she’s coming from, and I appreciate that she’s supporting me despite her reservations.

My dad, however, doesn’t know about the apartment yet. I intend to tell him myself.
He actually returned from traveling today, and we shared a really emotional hug. We told each other we loved each other, and honestly, it almost brought me to tears. We still have an important conversation ahead of us regarding our earlier disagreement.

That interaction, along with my conversation with my mom, has left me feeling guilty about the timing of everything.

I know I want to move. I’ve thought about it for a long time, researched apartments, reviewed my savings, and worked through my budget. But part of me feels like I’m disappointing my parents or leaving at the wrong time.
I’m not trying to cut ties with my family. I love them, and I want them to remain a big part of my life.

Has anyone experienced something similar, particularly with parents who wanted you to stay home for financial reasons? Did you end up moving? How did your relationship with your parents change afterward? Do you regret leaving when you did?

Hey all, I (F24) managed to buy a little one bedroom apartment in my hometown, just a few minutes from where I currently live with my parents and dog. It’s still being built but I’d most likely be able to move in next summer. Context is that my country has a very bad housing crisis going on; my parents are only renting our home and are unable to purchase (my mother had cancer and is therefore unable to have life insurance, which is a prerequisite to getting a loan). I jumped at the chance to buy my own place as prices are rising at an average of 7-8% per year.

The problem is, I absolutely do not want to move out. I love my parents, they’ve always completely given me my own privacy and I’m fully independent (pay for all my own food, cook, pay towards bills, do all my own laundry/cleaning etc.) and we get on generally really well. I love our house, I love my dog to absolute death, I love our street, I love my room. I really don’t know how I’m going to be able to leave this place.

My mum isn’t a very sociable person so we’re both content to spend a lot of time together reading or watching a film, not necessarily doing anything special but keeping each other company. I hate to think of her being sitting at home alone. My dog is my best friend and I don’t know how I’ll leave him. My stepdad is such a strong presence in my life and I don’t know how I won’t have my rock a room away to help me out with something silly.

I also look forward to having somewhere which is purely mine. My boyfriend is buying his own place too as we agreed it’d be nice to have our own spaces for a couple of years before moving in together, and I can’t wait for us to experience that. I can’t wait to design every inch of the place. I can’t wait to decorate and cook and buy new bedsheets. I can’t wait to come home and do whatever I like.

I can’t rent it out for the first couple of years because the bank would then consider it a commercial property and the rates would be much more expensive. I don’t want to sell it because I do genuinely want to live there, and I’m really proud of myself for managing to purchase it to begin with. I’m just so conflicted about leaving my favourite place in the world to go to somewhere new, even if I find it exciting and rewarding. I suppose I also feel a little guilty, too.

Has anyone that has moved away from a Hispanic family and moved to a different state? Did you feel guilty moving out or was your family supportive?

I am planning on moving to a different state in the spring of 2027. My whole plan is to get a job in a new state and then get an apartment and move. I want the feeling of security before moving somewhere new.

I just moved back home 1.5 year ago from college. I lived about a 6 Hour Dr. from my hometown in college. So while I was in college being so far away from home, I had the opportunity to get a taste of independence and what that was like. After graduating I knew that I didn’t wanna go back home and live there but considering my financial situation and my circumstances, my best bet was to go home. Now, ever since being back home. I have talked to my family about moving to a different city/state.

Usually, the response is like no you can’t leave. “You have to be there for your brothers” “your brothers need you” I start to get guilt tripped and the reason why is because my mom passed away the summer before I started college, I was just 18 and my youngest brother was 13. We lost our mom really young and literally two months later I moved out to college because I certainly didn’t want to let this moment in my life affect me going to college (plus I know my mom wanted me to go to college and she would be upset if I didn’t) As an older sister having to watch over my brothers being six hours away from home was not easy, but I’ve been living at home for the past year and a half since graduating college and I’ve been enjoying being with my family and enjoy my current job.

Recently, I’ve been working my way into making my move happen so I haven’t spoke to my family about me being serious of moving out. Recently I’ve stayed silence with my family so I don’t get any negative energy. I just don’t think I want them telling me “your brothers need you” because they’re capable of taking care of themselves. I need to live the life I want to live. But, because of that mindset I feel selfish. Then I think Maybe I do need stay to be with my family, especially after a loss like losing a mom but at the same time I don’t view it that way and is why I am capable and strong enough to move out,

I just really wanna know if others have ever felt this way or related this way. What are your guys‘s thoughts? Sorry for making this long. I had to make sure my point was coming across.

So i’m gonna vent on here a little.. My dad recently found out i’ve been doing drugs, he got angry and upset which i completely understand, but now he wants to take my freedom from me by tracking everything i do, like my payments, where i go, etc.. i can’t leave my house except for school and work. He forced me to take out my earrings when i got them because i live in his house under “his rules” He gets mad at me as if he isn’t 90% of the reason i even do drugs in the first place, i was abused growing up to the point i was scared of going home, i was controlled all my life, i recently found out he’s been on a private ig account stalking my posts and stories, he’s always had access to my credit card and i just found out. (I had this card for 3 years now) I plan to run away by the end of november after i pay off my statement and save up a bit, i found an apartment with a roommate for only 500$ per person for rent and utilities. The one problem is he pays for my college, i plan to maybe ask my college for help or financial aid but i don’t know if it will work. If anyone has any advice or anything about this you’re more than welcome to share id happily take any advice this is gonna be a major shift in my life, and i don’t wanna ruin it in the process.

So I know I keep changing my mind.

I’ve decided to stay a bit longer just to try to save up more. But, It’ll be harder to now because they want more from me starting in November. Unless somehow that I can convince them to let me do $50 per week for groceries instead of $77, Which I really can’t afford that and they know it. I can hopefully convince them to let me do $200 a month and not $300.

So I would only have exactly $146 per month, Only if they agree to what I have to offer.

I think that letting me keep and have $146 to myself sounds about reasonable enough, Right?

So I will keep $40 to spending, $40 for body care, So that’s $80 all together. That’s $66 left over into savings for me to move out of here!

That’s only until I can move out of here, Then, Hopefully I can either work more or to save up more as well. I now plan to move into shared living temporarily and then leave one day. Possibly in late 2027 or maybe in 2028. It also depends on what college I can get into!

Thanks for reading. I will keep you all updated.

I badly want to start living alone, so I decided to move out from my aunt's place. Been staying at my new apartment for a month and the experience is not that good. I haven't got enough sleep for a month. Most days I have really bad dreams and the times i got sick in that 1 month was more than the times i got sick in a year. Been thinking of moving out of this apartment and move back with my aunt. What do you guys think?

I'm 19, currently a college student, and lately, I've been thinking about moving out of our house because I'm honestly so tired of everything.

Hindi lang naman ako ang nakatira sa bahay namin, pero parang ang bigat ng responsibilities na nararamdaman ko. Aalis ako ng bahay na walang hugasin at lahat ng timba may laman na tubig, pero pag-uwi ko, ang dami nang hugasin at halos lahat ng timba walang laman. Nakakapagod kasi parang ako lagi yung kailangang mag-isip at kumilos para sa mga bagay na dapat hindi lang naman ako ang gumagawa.

My stepsisters can be really lazy when it comes to cleaning and doing household chores, and I'm getting tired of it. It's not even just about the dishes or the water anymore. It's the feeling na parang paulit-ulit na lang, and I don't feel like I can get a break.

I'm also struggling with my studies because of all the expenses and bills. College is already exhausting on its own, and having to deal with all of this at home makes everything feel even heavier. Sometimes, I feel like I'm getting tired of studying, not because I don't want to finish college, but because I'm mentally drained by everything happening around me.

What's making it harder is that even my boyfriend doesn't seem to understand. Whenever I try to rant or tell him how tired I am, he says, "Eto na naman," or changes the topic. I know he might get tired of hearing my problems, too, but sometimes I just want someone to listen to me without making me feel like I'm being annoying.

I'm starting to think that moving out might be the only way for me to have some peace. But I'm only 19, still studying, and I don't know if I can afford to live independently. I don't want to make a decision out of frustration and end up struggling even more.

For those who moved out at a young age, especially while studying in college, how did you manage? How much money did you need to get started? Did moving out actually make your life better, or did it make things harder?

I would also appreciate advice from people who have experienced something similar. Am I wrong for wanting to leave, or am I just so exhausted that I can't think clearly anymore?

I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I just want to have some peace and not feel exhausted every time I come home.

I’m 19 and have been living on my own since shortly before I turned 18, after graduating high school. I left an abusive relationship, got my own apartment, and was proud of myself for becoming independent. Unfortunately, this year has been one setback after another.

My apartment has had unresolved leaks and AC issues, my rent is three times what I used to pay, and I lost my entire $16k in savings after my car was totaled. Despite having a relatively high-paying job, I’m now struggling to afford even groceries. I also had to drop out of college because I couldn’t afford it.

I’m considering moving back in with my parents to save money, but when I lived with them, I was extremely depressed and desperately wanted to leave. I genuinely didn’t want to stay a second longer than I had to, and I’m terrified of ending up back in that situation indefinitely.

My other option is moving into a cheaper apartment, but since I live in a college town, that would likely mean renting just a bedroom in a shared complex with 2–6 other people. I’m worried about giving up my privacy and independence, but financially, I don’t know what else to do.

I feel like I’m falling behind everyone else my age, and I’m exhausted from constantly trying to stay afloat.

I’d really appreciate advice from anyone who has been in a similar situation.