r/lexapro • u/jrenee2891 • 14h ago
Partners low libido because of lexapro is crushing my self esteem
My boyfriend (39m) and I (44fm) have been together over a year officially. Unofficially it’s been like 3. Anyway. He’s had a really rough patch with his anxiety. After a lot of encouragement, he finally got back on lexapro. He also quit drinking at the same time. So I understand his body & brain are going through a lot of changes. But his libido has completely tanked. We’ve had sex maybe 6 times this year. He’s still extremely affectionate with me. Loves to snuggle & hold hands. But his sex drive is nonexistent. I’m extremely supportive of what he’s doing. And extremely understanding of the battle he’s going through. At the end of the day his mental health is more important to me. But it’s affecting my self esteem. He tells me all the time it’s not me. He’s still attracted to me. He just doesn’t think about sex. I need intimacy. I need to feel wanted & desired. I want him all the time. We’ve talked several times about it. And I don’t want to make him feel pressured to have sex with me. I want him to want me. I want to help him get through this. I want us to get through it. If any of you have had the same issue with your partner, how did you handle it? He reassures me all the time it’s not me. But it’s getting hard not to take it personally & internalize it.