( I am posting this for my friend who lives in PA, specifically the Lehigh Valley )
Hello my name is Robyn Q. I’m a biracial, trans, autistic 21 year old. I live in Allentown but I’m further out from inner city and public transit is for the most part unreliable. This has made it harder for me in the past to apply to jobs outside of a 15-20 minute distance due to having no vehicle. I worked a position that damaged my physical and mental health, and worked tedious hours on a consistent basis for lower pay. I worked at this position for eight months and had earned nearly 4k in savings whilst working there. I unfortunately had to sacrifice those funds due to circumstantial finances.
I desperately need help, I do not have any support and this situation has been making me increasingly depressed and helpless.
I am mentally unwell, and experience chronic pain from scoliosis and joint disparities. I have been hospitalized for attempts and ideations as a youth which put me nearly two years behind in schooling, I haven’t been able to settle down and apply effort to my academic career and finally obtain my GED. During covid my situation became far worse because I had dealt with on-going domestic violence despite having CPS involved with my case. Due to that neglect, my parental figures were forced to apply for health insurance and monitor my health after years of refusing to acknowledge it. After my abuser had left the household, the one I grew up in, I applied for an independent insurance and have been independently insured for 3 years, followed up with going through court to get my name legally changed to remove his last name from mine and finally going on hormones despite going against my primary parental figures wishes.
My mother owes the government over $22k and is a delinquent taxpayer. She has severe untreated ADHD and is unreliable. I have been working on moving out for months but can’t do that without a flow of income and roommates to cover the other half of rent.
The house that I live in, a house me and my sibling were born and raised into, was bought off the market. It’ll be only a matter of time until we are all collectively on the street, despite my best efforts to prevent that from being my reality. My mother refuses to compromise with me in anyway, and refuses to consider/settle on any of the homes I show her, she says she will not live in them for miscellaneous reasons that are not all sound considering we will be homeless.She says that me, my brother, and her are all going to live in a hotel until she finds the right fit. She’s purchased a storage unit as well and claims she’ll be paying out of pocket monthly to hold all of our things in our unit until she finds that “right fit” and is insistent on taking “however long is necessary.” She does not have credit, is unable to build her credit. This means the areas of her choosing are not going to consider her. She is a deluded, immature, stubborn adult who is unwilling to acknowledge the irony in choosing the best when she already is facing losing her own home she neglected for decades. When the new owner picks up the deed, it will only be a matter of time until they kick us out onto the street.
We also have a family dog, she’s 15 and becoming increasingly sick and immobile by the da, we cannot afford to pay for her treatment and because of this predicament we may very well have to put her down soon. I can’t lose her just yet, I’d like to have at least a bit more time with her considering we’ve been the only family she had known since she was a puppy. She has kept me alive and her existence has been a pillar for me. If we become homeless, I will lose her too during all of this while living in a hotel with my mother and sibling, I don’t think I’ll be able to cope. I think I’ll break after an entire year of putting in the work to prevent that.
I have applied for most of the jobs in my area that are accessible to me, the interviews I’ve been offered haven’t yielded me a position which explains the lack or income. I don’t have friends able to help, nor other family who live remotely near me or reach out. I am exhausted, terrified, in and out of dissociative episodes. It’s eating away at my psyche. Allowing myself to feel everything at once, would kill me.
I understand the availability of homeless shelters, but as a biracial transgender person I do not feel safe or comfortable with the idea, especially if I’d have to be alone in a most likely unfamiliar area. I have never lived away from home, I can’t live in a shelter, I will not survive it.
I have come to Reddit for help. I don’t need kind words, I need help. I need contacts that can help me find housing that is safe and trans friendly, I can’t live with complete strangers or people in the same room as me because I’ve been a victim to DV for a large portion of my life. I need support in my area to help me find a job and funding and mental health services. This is my last resort, I do not have anywhere else to turn. I live in Lehigh Valley, and would like to stay here as my health providers are already established in reasonable distance to each other.
I apologise if this comes off as abrupt, but I desperately need the help. If you cannot help personally, please point me to someone/somewhere that can.
I appreciate it, I’ll be grateful for what I can get, sincerely.