This post is mainly venting, however I am also looking to some guidance.
So I have been dancing for a couple of months. All the dance classes I go to are intermediate or intermediate(followers say they are basic... well maybe for them because they dont have to lead as they only need to recognize the move). The beginner classes are not easily reachable for me as they are in a different city 2 hrs away. So I am stuck with intermediate.
I find it hard to follow some of the classes...well most of the classes. I finally learned a few moves that I can use in dances but rarely do I mach them well with the beat. The followers almost never refuse a dance but I can tell things are not going well because the follower just tries to read my next move even though I never wanted to do it that way. Then at times I tell the follower playfully thats not what I was going to do but there are times I redo the move and do the move as they tried earlier on. From what I understand I shouldnt resist if a follower is not picking up my suggestion and just change to basic side step for the rest of the song then thank them for the dance and move on.
Some teachers teach the saidas already linked up to another basic move. I think thats why some followers try to follow instead of just listening to my lead.
Anyways, I want to master this dance because I like both the music and the connection during the dance... not for the wrong reasons one might think but the appeal of going on a short journey on the beats of a song whwre we understand eachother without saying a word about whats next. This is one of the reasons I enjoy jazz music too, however its not much of a dance to music.
What do you suggest I could try to do when followers cannot let go and follow my lead? How to do better during intermediate classes? Any other suggestions are wellcome.