Aslamu ali Kum Sarneyan

I'm in Mumbai ,and I came back a few days ago , currently struggling with accommodation.

Yaet cha kanh kashur who can help...I'm looking for someone yems saet bae share haek kerth...

Initially I don't want to do any deposits or advance.

If you have leads please help or dm your number.

Any good demat in Srinagar or surrounding areas. I am suffering from hairfall and want to get that checked. Any help would be appreciated.

i had recently taken addmision at a govt degree college (ku affiliated) for my ug degree but due to some reasons I had to cancel it, the college had taken my original document of “character and discharge certificate“ which I was given by my higher secondary school, the college authorities are now saying they will give me a discharge certificate of college so that when I have to take addmision again I can use that instead. Will colleges accept that discharge certificate in future when I have to take addmision again for my ug degree? Since for ug you need to have discharge certificate from school.

Is this the highest number of shaadis ever this season in a calendar year in kashmir?

Hello everyone! Assalamu Alaikum to my Kashmiri brothers and sisters.

Let me share a little story about how this interest began.
During the COVID period, I had the pleasure of meeting several Kashmiri students in Bangladesh who were studying MBBS at the time. I genuinely enjoyed their company. Their manners, the warmth with which they treated people, their way of speaking, and the respect they showed towards others left a very positive impression on me.

Life, of course, had other plans. After COVID, family responsibilities and business took me abroad, and gradually everyone became occupied with their own lives. I’m still in touch with one of those friends, who is now in Australia.

Interestingly, even later, when I travelled to Saudi Arabia, I happened to meet a few more people from Kashmir. Once again, I found them pleasant to interact with, well-spoken, and courteous. Perhaps it’s simply been my luck to meet some wonderful people, but over time, Kashmir has developed a rather special place in my mind.

And that brings me to the slightly unusual reason for this post: I’ve started thinking seriously about the possibility of marrying a Kashmiri woman.

Before anyone asks, no, I haven’t suddenly decided to book a flight to Srinagar with a wedding invitation in my pocket! 😄 I understand that liking a culture and actually becoming part of a family from that culture are two very different things.

That’s precisely why I’d love to hear some honest advice from native Kashmiris.

How are marriages with Bangladeshis generally viewed in Kashmiri society? Would a Kashmiri family realistically consider their daughter marrying a Bangladeshi man, or would nationality and cultural differences be a major concern?

How important are family background, social status, financial stability, and profession when a Kashmiri family considers a marriage proposal? For context, I work in business.

What are the usual expectations regarding marriage customs, family involvement, and compatibility? Are there cultural differences that someone from Bangladesh should understand beforehand?

How do Kashmiri families generally approach intercultural marriages?

And perhaps most importantly, what would a Kashmiri family want to know about a prospective groom from Bangladesh before seriously considering him?

I want to be clear about something: I’m not assuming that all Kashmiris are alike, nor am I looking at marriage as a way to fulfil some romantic idea of Kashmir. My experiences with a few people have simply sparked an interest in learning more about the culture and the possibility of building a genuine, respectful relationship with someone from there.

I also understand that marriage is not just about two individuals liking each other. It involves families, values, expectations, and the willingness to understand each other’s worlds.

So, if you’re Kashmiri, married into another culture, or have experience with such marriages, I’d genuinely appreciate your perspective. Please feel free to share the positive sides, the challenges, and even the uncomfortable truths. I would much rather learn from people who know the reality than build expectations based on a few pleasant encounters.

Thank you for reading my rather long introduction! And if nothing else, perhaps this post will help a Bangladeshi man understand Kashmir a little better before he starts daydreaming about a Kashmiri wedding. 😄
With respect and warm regards from Bangladesh. 🇧🇩❤️

Hello! I (23M) am visiting Kashmir for the first time! My parents are Kashmiri Pandits, and I have heard so much, but I was born in the US and have only been to Jammu. I was wondering if anyone has advice or recommendations on what I should see or do in Kashmir beyond the big tourist spots. I won't lie and say I am not a tad nervous, but I am really hopeful and really excited to visit!

Thank you :)

why tf does this subreddit feel so “forced” when it comes to kashmiri content?? half of them speak english/hindi?? yett cha kesher luk kin kheeli wannabes? yet ti mah chu bjp it cell walyun kye safa wafa kormut?

"Hakeemo" (Raiez Khan's version) has always fascinated me.. there's something about the calmness in his voice and the clarity with which he sings each word that makes you pause and think about the meaning behind every line

are there any other songs with a similar feel that I might be missing? Here are a few I know:

• Nigaaro
• Dilshad
• Maayi Chani
• Jhelum
• Tamanna

what else would you recommend?

TL;DR: I'm a Sunni Muslim man from India, who wanted to marry a Sunni Muslim woman from Kashmir. Our relationship came under family pressure in June after her sister-in-law discovered it. It is now October, and despite initially giving her time, our communication has dwindled to almost nothing. She says there is nobody reasonable in her family who would support her choice, fears the consequences of challenging them, doesn't feel mentally or emotionally strong enough to go through it, and has repeatedly asked me to move on because she sees no hope. I'm struggling to understand whether there are realistic, safe and legitimate options for women in similar circumstances, and how to accept the situation while respecting her decision.

Detailed Context

I'm an adult Sunni Muslim man from India, and I fell in love with an adult Sunni Muslim woman from Kashmir. We were involved for a few months, discussed marriage, and developed strong feelings for each other. I genuinely wanted to build a future with her through a proper, halal marriage, rather than continue a secret relationship indefinitely.

I'm posting here because I'd like to hear from Kashmiris and people familiar with Kashmiri family dynamics. I want to understand her circumstances better, not portray all Kashmiri families as the same or assume that one person's experience represents an entire community.

1. What happened and why things became difficult

The situation became much more difficult in June, after her sister-in-law discovered our relationship. From what she told me, the pressure that followed became increasingly difficult for her to handle. Eventually, she decided to end things because she could no longer see a way forward.

It is now October, and this has been weighing on both my mind and my emotions for around four months.

She has repeatedly told me that her family is extremely conservative and rigid, and that there is nobody within the family who is reasonable enough to support her choosing her own partner. According to her, approaching another relative to mediate would not help because everyone shares essentially the same outlook.

She has also seen her cousin beaten and mistreated by family after a relationship came to light. The man involved was reportedly financially established and Kashmiri himself. That experience seems to have reinforced her belief that even if a man is considered suitable in other respects, a woman's family may still react harshly to her choosing him.

While travelling in Kashmir, I spoke to a few local men who described how difficult a love marriage could be for a woman in certain family environments. I understand that a handful of conversations cannot represent the entire region, but they made me take her fears more seriously.

She believes meaningful changes in these attitudes may take a generation or two. She has told me she cannot fight her family, does not have the courage or emotional capacity to endure the consequences, and cannot imagine a realistic way out.

As far as I understand, she is also not financially independent, which may make the prospect of challenging her family even more frightening.

I sometimes feel that she has lost hope, but I know I cannot fully understand her internal experience or assume that I know what she truly wants. I can only go by what she has told me and the decision she has communicated.

2. What I wanted and what I was willing to do

I was serious about marrying her. I was willing to learn her language and culture, relocate to Kashmir if necessary, and approach her family respectfully if she wanted me to and it was safe.

I wasn't expecting her to abandon her family or make an impulsive decision. I wanted us to find a way forward that respected our faith, protected her safety, and gave us a chance to build a life together.

I've struggled with the thought that perhaps there is a legitimate path we haven't considered. I've wondered whether a qualified Islamic scholar, a suitable mediator, or another established process could help a woman who genuinely wants to marry someone but faces unjust family obstruction.

I understand that Sunni legal schools differ on certain aspects of marriage, including the role of the wali, and I don't want to rely on simplified social-media claims. I would want any marriage to meet the relevant Islamic requirements and applicable law.

I've also thought about whether an independent marriage or leaving home could ever be an option if a woman genuinely wanted to marry but faced serious family opposition. However, I don't want to romanticise elopement or overlook the risks involving safety, housing, finances, retaliation and legal complications. Her free and informed consent would have to be central.

I also understand that a legitimate option existing in principle does not mean it would be safe, appropriate, or wanted in our particular situation.

3. What has happened since June, and where things stand now

This is the part I find hardest to accept.

When things first became difficult in June, my initial approach was to give her time. I thought perhaps the immediate pressure would ease, she might feel less overwhelmed, or we might eventually be able to discuss our future calmly. I didn't want to rush her into a decision or ask her to take risks she wasn't ready for.

But giving it time hasn't led to a way forward. Our communication has gradually dwindled to almost nothing.

She doesn't talk to me on calls. The few times I've tried to reopen a conversation through emotional text messages, she has reiterated that she sees no hope for us. She has told me she cannot fight her family and doesn't feel mentally or emotionally strong enough to endure the consequences.

I also sent her a voice note explaining my feelings and my hope that we might find a legitimate way forward, but she declined to engage. She has explicitly asked me to move on and stop trying to discuss the relationship.

I've written many other messages and possible solutions privately, but those drafts have not been sent. They reflect the things I've struggled to express, rather than messages she has received.

Part of me still wants to reach out, ask how she is doing, and let her know that I would listen without pressuring her to make a decision. But I recognise that she has already asked me to stop. I don't want my concern for her to become another burden, and I don't want to interpret her refusal as a reason to keep pursuing her.

What makes this difficult is that I don't know how much of her decision comes from fear of her circumstances and how much reflects a decision she has reached for herself. I can imagine that both may be involved, but I cannot know that for certain, and I don't want to assume I understand her feelings better than she does.

After four months of hoping things might become clearer, I'm struggling to accept that there may be nothing more I can responsibly do.

4. My fear about her future

I worry that her family may eventually arrange a marriage for her, or that she may feel compelled to accept one because she believes she has no alternative. I don't know whether this is actually being planned; it is a fear, not a confirmed fact.

Part of me feels that time is slipping away. I worry that if I step back completely, I may lose the possibility of marrying someone I genuinely wanted to build a life with, without ever knowing whether a safe and legitimate alternative could have existed.

At the same time, I understand that my urgency cannot decide her future for her. I cannot make her feel capable of confronting her family, provide her with the courage she says she lacks, or decide what risks she should be willing to take.

Even if family pressure has shaped her decision, that does not give me the right to disregard what she has explicitly told me.

This is the conflict I'm struggling with: I want to understand whether there are realistic options for women in her circumstances, but I also need to recognise the limits of what I can do when the other person has chosen to end the relationship.

5. What I'd genuinely like to understand

I'd particularly appreciate hearing from Kashmiris, people who have grown up in conservative Kashmiri households, and anyone with relevant personal experience.

Family dynamics and women's autonomy

1. How much influence can extended family members, including a Sister-in-law, have over a woman's relationships and marriage decisions?
2. In families that strongly oppose love marriages, how do situations like this typically unfold? Are there circumstances in which families eventually become accepting, or does it depend entirely on the individual family?
3. For women who aren't financially independent and fear family retaliation, what realistic options exist when they want to choose their own partner? Are there examples of women navigating this safely, and what made the difference?

Faith, marriage and safety

1. For a woman who independently wants to marry someone but faces family obstruction, are there reputable Islamic scholars or established processes that can help? I'd appreciate informed guidance on consent, the wali, and legitimate ways of addressing unjust obstruction.
2. Where family opposition involves credible threats or violence rather than simple disapproval, what kinds of support or safeguards may be available in India?
3. What approaches have genuinely helped in such circumstances, and what tends to make things worse? I am especially interested in experiences rather than assumptions or generalisations.

My own situation

1. Given that she has explicitly asked me to move on, should I leave all further contact entirely to her? Is there anything responsible I should do beyond respecting her decision?
2. How do I accept that the relationship may be over without dismissing the difficulties she has described or spending the rest of my life wondering whether there was another way?
3. For those who have faced similar circumstances, how did you reconcile your feelings for someone with the reality that they were unwilling or unable to pursue the relationship?

I'm not asking people to validate every assumption I've made. I want honest experiences and perspectives that can help me understand the cultural realities, the religious principles, and the limits of what I can responsibly do.

I love her, and letting go has been difficult because I believe the situation may be more complicated than simply not caring about each other. I initially thought that giving her time might help, but four months have passed without a way forward. I genuinely don't know what to do with the feelings, the uncertainty, or the fear that she may eventually have to accept a future she never freely chose.

But I also know that love alone cannot make someone ready or willing to face consequences they fear, and I cannot make that decision for her.

Please be candid with me. I'd rather understand the reality, even if it means accepting that there is no viable path forward unless she independently wants one. I want to understand, not stereotype; to learn, not pressure; and to find a way forward that respects both her autonomy and the seriousness of what she has experienced.

I’ll be visiting India and had a few free days in my itinerary. Wanted to ask Kashmiris for their perspective on visiting the area? I’m supportive of Kashmiri people and against the active colonization and denial of their rights.

I want to listen to Kashmiris, support their businesses and learn. Travel is not the only way and I want to humbly ask do you recommend avoiding traveling to this area for now? If not, how can I best visit and support the area and its people? Forgive me for any ignorance.