I don’t know where to go. Summers are scary here in Italy because they are unbearable. Culturally I feel displaced. Money wise this is a loophole… I don’t want to ever go back to my home country because compared to Italy then Mexico is a fifth world country.

I feel like I’m fighting against depression everyday with this salary. Any manifestation techniques? lol

I have an 11mo old daughter and we all live in Sweden and my partner is Swedish. I speak Swedish fluently. But me myself, I come from a country where two languages co-exist harmoniously and often people speak both or speak one and understand the other (we are an ex colony so we have our native language and then the one of the colonizer). I spoke our native language to my dad and the colonizer’s language to my mom since they come from different regions where different languages dominate.

So the most natural for me is to speak both. ChatGPT says I should do what feels most natural. But sometimes I do have concerns that the lack of consistency will result in her not speaking any of them. I do try to make a stronger emphasis on my native language since it is a minority language even in my home country. So books I read only in my native language, routine phrases like lets go brush our teeth or we’re going to sleep she only understands in my native language. I only speak Swedish to her when I need her dad to understand what I am saying.

But we visited my home country last month and we were in a city where colonizer’s language is predominant and I could tell she didn’t understand much (obviously not too big of a concern at this age, i still have time to catch up). But I am just feeling puzzled and not really knowing how i can provide both at an equal degree. I probably will not be able to and one of them will give in….

Just curious if anyone else is in a similar situation where they grew up in a bilingual household and feel the responsibility to provide both languages

Has anyone here sent international wires from State Department Federal Credit Union? I’d like to hear how it went.

Background: I’m taking a 401(k) distribution from Fidelity, and Fidelity will only pay it out to a domestic checking account by EFT. No concerns over the taxes and penalty. I won’t go into why my existing US accounts are bad options. My problem is purely finding a good account to receive the money and then wire it abroad.

What I need is an account that Fidelity can link to and pay out to, and that lets me send international wires online without calling in or flying to the US. I also no longer have a US residential address, so the bank has to accept a foreign one.

Plenty of people pointed me to Schwab. Because of my foreign address, Schwab said I could only open their international brokerage account, and that the process would be smooth. It hasn’t been. Getting the account opened took repeated contacts over issues they had told me wouldn’t happen. Once it was open, linking external accounts inside Schwab kept failing, and Fidelity couldn’t link the Schwab account either, even though I entered the checking routing and account numbers exactly as given. I’m done with Schwab.

Then someone mentioned SDFCU. I joined American Citizens Abroad and applied for SDFCU accounts yesterday, and I’m waiting to hear back. While I wait, I’d like to learn from people who have actually used them:

Have you had trouble receiving a large incoming transfer at SDFCU? What happened, and how did you resolve it?

Have you wired a large sum from SDFCU to a foreign bank account? Did you do it completely online? Did it go through smoothly?

Or, have you used Wise to internationally wire a large sum? I have a new Wise account, but I feel insecure to use it, since it is not a traditional bank and not insured. In addition, if it fails to receive the 401(k) from Fidelity, the money can't be returned back to the plan.

Anything else I should know before I rely on them for this? I don’t want my money stuck somewhere, or staying up many nights dealing with their representative because of the time difference.

There’s an older thread here about SDFCU, but it’s about eight months old, so I’m starting a fresh one. Someone in that thread asked whether SDFCU blocks foreign IPs. I had no trouble reading their site or submitting my application from Taiwan, so maybe they block certain ranges rather than all foreign traffic. For what it’s worth, Colorado state sites block me constantly, and I’ve had to use a VPN just to pay bills there.

Random thought: imagine budget is completely irrelevant and you’re 20 years old.

Where in Europe (or anywhere else in the world) would you choose to live, and why?

Which city or country offers the ultimate combination of lifestyle, vibrant energy, culture, safety, and overall quality of life for someone in their early twenties?

I’m British, in my mid-30s, and moved to Oklahoma to marry my American husband. I’m now facing what feels like the biggest decision of my life, and I’d really appreciate some honest, impartial advice.

Before moving here, I had a pretty good life in England. I had a home, a career, friends, family and a social life. I was independent, knew my surroundings and had a sense of belonging. I gave all of that up because I loved my husband and wanted to build a future together.

Unfortunately, life here hasn’t turned out how I imagined.

I work from home, have very few friends and spend most of my time alone. My husband works long hours, including weekends, and we rarely do much together. I miss having people around me, spontaneous plans, family gatherings and just the familiarity of home. I feel like my life is just waiting to start everyday rolls into one, back home I was motivated, planned, made plans here I just feel absolutely stuck and rotting away. I don’t have motivation to do anything. and it’s so expensive to travel. we don’t do much. my husvand doesn’t Earn well and doesn’t have a pension. I am really sad and torn I miss feeling happy, Christmases in England, seeing family, here it’s just me and my husband bcuz his family are toxic, I feel guilty even potentially leaving him with them but my husband doesn’t enjoy the same things as me, i walk our dogs on my own, go to the gym on my own (he used to come and it was a shared activitie, now he refuses), the only thing we do together is eat out, even markets that I enjoy he walks around annoyed.

But it’s not only homesickness.

My husband can be very irritable, and I often feel like I can’t express my feelings without him becoming defensive, dismissive or annoyed. I don’t feel emotionally supported, and over time I’ve stopped sharing things with him. There have also been some serious incidents involving anger and conflict within his family that have left me feeling uncomfortable and unsettled.

To his credit, he has recently distanced himself from some difficult family relationships, and things have been calmer. I can see that he loves me in his own way, and I know leaving would absolutely devastate him. That guilt is weighing heavily on me.

I’ve also struggled with my mental health since moving here. I feel numb, irritable and rarely experience genuine happiness anymore. I sometimes wonder whether I’m depressed because of my circumstances or whether I’d feel this way wherever I lived.

The difficult thing is that I do love aspects of America. I love the space, convenience, opportunities and lifestyle. Sometimes when we have a nice day together, I question everything and wonder whether I’m making a huge mistake by considering leaving.

But those days seem to be the exception rather than the norm.

I have the opportunity to return to England, where I’d have a home, my job, family and a more familiar support network. However, I’m terrified that I’ll get back, realise the grass wasn’t greener and regret walking away from my marriage and the life we could potentially have built here.

I’m also conscious that I’m in my mid-30s and desperately want children. I feel like time is passing, and I don’t want to spend another few years feeling unhappy and uncertain, but equally I don’t want to make a permanent decision based on what could be a temporary period of depression or loneliness.

Some friends have suggested that I should try harder to build a life here, make friends and become more independent of my husband. Others think I’ve already sacrificed enough and should go home.

I keep going backwards and forwards. One day I feel determined to leave, and the next I feel overwhelming sadness and guilt at the thought of never seeing my husband again.

My questions are:

• Has anyone moved abroad for love and eventually decided to return home?
• Did you regret leaving, or did you feel happier once you were back?
• How do you distinguish between homesickness, depression and genuinely being unhappy in your marriage?
• Would you give the marriage more time, or accept that sometimes love isn’t enough?

I’m not expecting strangers to make my decision for me, but I’d really appreciate perspectives from people who’ve experienced something similar.

I feel completely torn between the life I’ve built here, the life I left behind and the fear of making the wrong choice.

EDIT im scared I’ll regret it I don’t want to give up just because things are boring and we have no money, but I find myself having no joy in absolutely anything. I sit here looking at photos of my old life and reminiscing, basic things like watching my old tv shows with my favourite cheese on my couch, I feel warm inside. 

‼️‼️ EDIT THANK YOU for all the comments I will read each and every one. The only time I feel a glimpse of hapiness is when I look back at my old life in England. Then it goes :( I sit here looking at old photos of my old house and life and feel Warm remembering when I felt emotion, safety, hapiness. Then it disappears again. I wonder if I’m romanizing it.

Hi everyone,

I am a non-EU citizen who applied for a long-term residence permit for the purpose of scientific research (based on a hosting agreement with a Czech university).

My application was submitted on August 19, 2026, which means it has now exceeded the standard 60-day processing period. The online status still shows “Being processed,” and when I reached out to the Ministry of the Interior, the only response we got was to keep waiting and that they can extend the timeline.

I would really appreciate any advice or recent experiences from 2025 or 2026:

• How long did your scientific-research residence application take in total?
• Is it normal for this type of application to exceed 60 days, and how much longer does it usually take?
• Is there any effective way to follow up or expedite the process, or should I just wait?

Thanks in advance for any insights!

Hi all, I've lived in four countries, and I still have apps on my phone from all four. They were necessary for everyday things like transport, shopping, banking, or local services.

I know I'll never use some of them again, but I haven't deleted them.

I'm not sure why I hold on to them.

If you've moved countries, what did you do with your old apps? And if you kept them, why?

I want to live in Sweden, I speak the language already, but I couldn’t afford university there. So I ended up moving to Italy for university, but to get to Sweden I’d need to apply remotely to jobs or wait 3 years to the uncertainty of a long term European residence to move there with a job. I cannot stand every single summer here in Italy, and it’s a loophole. Careerwise? Not bad, but economically not good. So should I go back to Mexico (I don’t want to either), work there while I live with my parents and save up for rent until I can afford university there or maybe get a scholarship? What is the best strategically?

Waiting for citizenship literally will take 10 years here, and I’ve been only two years so far, and Spain I feel it’s also kinda hellish right now and if the right wing wins this November it’ll be tougher to get citizenship too. I feel sort of trapped. Also because my career sucks a bit right now… it’s UX/Ui

I'm 4 months into living abroad, and lately I've been struggling a lot with my decision to move here.

I moved to another country for my profession, better salary, and more career opportunities. I worked hard to get here, and I know there are many opportunities for me professionally. But I also left my family, my familiar surroundings, and the people who make me feel at home.

I'm finding it really difficult to build a social life here. I've made a few friends, but even though they're nice people, I don't feel that connection where you feel like you've found your people. And sometimes, the loneliness feels overwhelming.

I've started questioning everything. Maybe I made the wrong decision. Maybe I've been so focused on building a career that I've forgotten what actually makes me happy. What's the point of having a successful career if the people you love aren't there to share your life with? Maybe being close to your family and having that sense of belonging is more important to me than I realised.

At the same time, I keep wondering whether I'm judging this experience too early. It's only been four months. Maybe this is a normal part of adjusting to a new country, and things will eventually get better. Maybe I need more time to build a life here. But what if this feeling doesn't go away? What if I'm trying to convince myself to stay somewhere that simply isn't right for me?

I don't know how to distinguish between the loneliness and homesickness that come with starting over somewhere new and the genuine feeling that you'd be happier living back home.

For those of you who have lived abroad, especially those who moved for career opportunities, how did you figure this out? Did you go through a period where you questioned your entire decision? Did things eventually get better, or did you realise that being close to your family and your people mattered more to you than the opportunities abroad?

And if you did decide to return home, how did you know it was the right decision rather than just giving up during a difficult adjustment period?

I'm not necessarily looking for someone to tell me to stay or to go back. I just really want to hear from people who have experienced these feelings, because right now, I genuinely don't know how to interpret my own.

I’m a 31 year old guy who currently lives in Canada. When I was growing up, I always thought Canada was such a cool and interesting place, and I made it my mission to live there someday. I’m proud to say that I achieved my goal, and that I’m only a few months away from becoming a Canadian citizen.

Unfortunately, my dream isn’t everything that I thought it would be. I was very grateful to have this experience (and to come to Canada as a masters student), but I feel like my current situation is no longer serving me. I just feel like my life isn’t really going anywhere.

After graduating from my masters program, I’ve had a few different jobs, none of which have been very good (in terms of how I’ve been treated). Despite making a respectable income (~100k CAD), I’m still renting a basic apartment in Vancouver with no real aspiration to ever buy my own place. I do aspire to keep working my way up in my career, but moving up seems challenging when opportunities can be difficult to find.

Socially, I’ve made some connections here, but most of my friends are still at home. Despite being a pretty open and social person, making friends in Vancouver has just not been easy. It’s the same for forming any sort of romantic relationship. I haven’t really dated or anything since I moved.

I feel like it’s time for a change. I’m not sure what that looks like for me yet. Maybe it involves going back home, maybe it involves trying out a new location. Regardless, I just feel like I’ve accomplished my goal and that it’s time to explore other possibilities.

I don’t really talk about this with most people, because I feel like a lot of people become hostile if I bring any of this up. Sort of like “how dare you not like it!” Or “you must be a right wing nut if you want to go back to America.” None of that is true. I just feel like the definition insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

I’m just curious to hear what you’d do if you were in my shoes.

I’m currently in my third year of Business Administration, and I’ve decided to pursue a master’s degree after graduation.

I’m torn between Germany and Spain.

For context, I have a Digital Marketing Agency (Specialized in Personal Brands in MENA), and that’s my main source of income. So, I’m trying to figure out which country would offer a better quality of life and lifestyle.

I’m planning to settle down in whichever country I choose, hopefully for the rest of my life, and eventually bring my family over to live with me.

I thought I had it all figured out and was getting ready to put my plan into action but now questioning it. So we're starting slow travel end of December. I was going to sign up for a mail forwarding service in South Dakota and then go there and get residency and use a family member's address in WI as our residential address in the US for financial compliance.

Now when I went to look again it occurred to me that the financial institutions may issue 1099 forms at the end of the year based on an address in WI and not SD where we're registered to vote and have driver's licenses etc. The internet is giving me information overload and I'm not able to meet with a CPA for a while. How real is the possibility of this being a problem?

For added context we'll be cutting ties with NC where we've had residence and we won't be earning any income anywhere except for investment income. So, we won't spend time in WI but since that will be listed as the home address, could wires get crossed with taxes?

Hi! Curious about some perspectives on living in the UK or Ireland, especially as an expat, and maybe some advice as someone looking to do the move in the next 5 years. Hopefully this is allowed lol.

I'm a Canadian student finishing their BA (Hons) in English Literature and looking to do my MA in Information Sciences at an ALA accredited university. The goal is to move to England on a Youth Mobility Scheme Visa once I've completed that and go into the corporate sector to support a Skilled Workers Visa. Specifically something along the lines of Information Analyst, Records Management Assistant, Knowledge Coordinator, or Data Governance Officer and then transition into a mid-level position that would support the SW visa requirements. I know this is most likely not realistic, at least not fully, but I'm going to spend the next 2 years leading up to when I am roughly planning to leave to figure out logistics, part of why I am writing this inquiry.

I've always had a desire to live in the UK, anywhere really within it, but have always felt a draw to the major cities. Before reality caught up to me, the dream was uni in Birmingham/Manchester/London/Edinburgh. However, due to finances this wasn't feasible. Now with my savings I can afford the move, with a cushion to last a month or two to search for something that isn't a retail position.

My main inquiry for anyone that might be able to help is what cities they enjoy, think are promising, and any insight into the corporate industries in various cities in the UK or Ireland. I'm really open to any city with opportunity. I have specifically been focusing my research on London and Bristol as they seem to be a good fit with both lifestyle, corporate opportunity, etc.

I love every area in the UK, but tend to be drawn towards areas heavy with history, nature, and a rich creative feel, though I know that is pretty much everywhere. I am also a lover of water so wouldn't mind something close to the sea or lakes, hence Bristol, but not a deal breaker. I'm a writer with a dream of publishing my own book one day but also would love to work in a library of some kind once I reach ILR in the UK so might take that into long-term settling. I'm known as a young grandma so my habits and interest are very different from the typical style of an early 20-year old.

Genuinely open to anything at this point and could easily fall in love with any city and its prospect but would love some insight. I just want to have as much information as I can to help decide and think perspectives from those that live and work there, even in similar avenues to what I'm looking to work in, would be a major help.

If there is anything you could share, advice or experience, I would be so genuinely appreciative. If there is any other details I could provide about what I'm looking for or the sort I'd be happy to add more information.

Thank you in advance to everyone! Hope to one day be a member of the expat population!

Kindly,

'Bee'

Good morning everyone!

I’ve been working on a pet project that helps me cook whenever I move somewhere new. I’ve always found it hard to get used to the different units and the new names for ingredients.

I’m a home cook, not a chef. Finding recipes has never been the problem, but doing all the conversions and then hunting down the right ingredients in the store has always been annoying. And I love learning about cooking, so I built something that helps with both.

Right now it’s set up for Italy and Germany, mainly for recipes from the US.

Just dropping it here because I thought it might be useful to some of you. It’s still a work in progress, so any feedback is very welcome. It doesn’t cost anything and has no ads; it’s simply a free little cooking assistant.

Ive linked it in the comments.

Greetings from Germany!

Hi! I’m 21, a dual US and Nigerian citizen, graduating in May 2027 with degrees in computer science and women’s, gender & sexuality studies. I lived in Nigeria for most of my life, have interned in Cape Town, and have had several strong internships in the US through my major.
After graduation I’d like to live and work in Africa for a couple of years, ideally in Cape Town, Nairobi, or Dar es Salaam. It’s not a permanent move. I just want to explore and experience life there while I’m young and independent. My background is in ML research, software development and gender-focused community work.
Are there programs, fellowships or companies that are good entry points for new grads?
Which of these cities is the most realistic to start in?
Is moving right after graduation a good idea, or should I get experience in the US first?

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I'm a university student from Taiwan majoring in physics, graduating next year. Every week I train with a youth football club in Taiwan, learning from the coaches as an assistant coach, and I'm also learning German.

In the future I want to become a football coach in Europe. I plan to go to Germany on a working holiday first, experience life there, and look for work at the same time. My goal is to find a full-time job so I can stay, and coach as an assistant at an amateur club on weekday evenings and weekends. Germany is my first choice, but I'm open to any European country.

My questions:

1. Are amateur clubs in Europe willing to take on foreigners as assistant coaches?

2. Which country is more welcoming to foreigners and easier to get started in?

3. What difficulties do foreigners face when looking for a full-time job there?

If you coach or volunteer at a European club, or work in Europe, I'd really love to hear about your experience. Thanks!

Hey everyone! 😊

I’d love to connect with people in France or the US who are thinking about moving abroad in the coming months/years.

Where are you planning to go, and what’s motivating you? Career, lifestyle, better opportunities, or simply a fresh start?
Would be great to exchange ideas, share experiences, and connect with people on the same journey!

I've spent several years living abroad, completing my PhD and gradually building a life that felt like my own.

It took me a long time to feel comfortable here. Learning to navigate everything independently, becoming confident in another language, developing my identity, and eventually feeling that I belonged.

And now, just when I was beginning to genuinely enjoy my life, I have to leave.

I recently finished my PhD, but I haven't secured my next academic position. Due to circumstances related to my scholarship, I need to return to my home country, where I don't particularly want to live.

The hardest part is knowing that I worked so hard to create a life I actually liked, and now I'm facing the possibility of starting over somewhere I never wanted to return to.

I'm in my thirties, and the prospect of rebuilding my independence, career, and social life feels exhausting.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Did you eventually find your way back to the country you wanted to live in, or did life take you somewhere completely unexpected?

I'm in my mid-30s, a mother to an 8-year-old boy, and three months ago I moved back to Germany after living abroad for several years, most recently in Senegal.

My husband and I had built a pretty comfortable life there. We both earned well, our son attended a private school, and we lived somewhat in an expat bubble. Life wasn't always easy, but we'd grown accustomed to the everyday challenges and learned to appreciate the lifestyle, the sunshine, beaches, friendships, and routines. Senegal started to become home despite the struggles of everyday life.

Then I discovered my husband's infidelity, and everything fell apart.

Looking back, that period feels like a black box. I couldn't imagine reconciling, and moving back to Germany seemed like the logical choice. My family and friends encouraged me, promised support, and were happy to have us back. When your marriage falls apart abroad, returning somewhere familiar, where you understand the system and have people around you, feels like the safer option.

But reality has been different.

I spent the last three months on autopilot, trying to make the transition as smooth as possible for my son. Finding an apartment, organizing everything, settling him into school, and continuing to perform well at my remote job.

My son has adapted quite well, made friends, and enjoys being near family, although he misses his father. But the school system and family environment are also very different, and there are challenges with my very religious family.

The support system I expected hasn't really materialized. Friends who promised to help repeatedly cancelled, especially during my move. My family has been more emotionally draining than supportive, with criticism, demands, and guilt-tripping. I know nobody owes me anything, but I genuinely thought I came back to a support system at least emotionally.

The one thing I felt secure about was my job, which I genuinely enjoyed. Then last week, my company announced major layoffs, affecting roughly half the staff. I survived, but suddenly even that stability feels uncertain.

And I think that's when everything caught up with me.

I've started asking myself: What did I actually come back to?

I feel incredibly lonely, exhausted, and overwhelmed by the thought of rebuilding an entire life again. I miss Senegal, our home, my friends, the ocean, and the familiarity of a life we'd spent years creating.

My husband has since expressed remorse and wants his family back, but when I think about returning, it's not really about reconciling. I miss the place and the life I had there.

Part of me wants to pack everything up and go back. Sometimes I wonder whether I made a huge decision while emotionally overwhelmed and whether I should simply accept that it didn't work out.

But I'm exhausted. I've spent years adapting, moving, and taking the difficult path, and I don't feel like I have the strength to start over again. I also feel guilty about potentially uprooting my son twice in such a short time.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Returned home after years abroad, regretted it almost immediately, and either stayed or left again?

I emigrated to the Netherlands to work for an employment agency. I've only been here for two days and it's been tough. The people are rude and racist, the weather doesn't help, and the environment where I'm staying is emotionally cold. Before coming to the Netherlands, I spent a day in Brussels and instantly fell in love with the city because of the warmth and multiculturalism. The people were very friendly and polite. I felt so welcome that I even thought about visiting the city more often, or even emigrating there. I have no complaints about anyone I spoke to; they were all incredible. They even thought I was a local. At the end of the day, I forgot I had to go to Eindhoven, and I was even sad. If I had known beforehand, I would have stayed in Belgium, and now I can't stop thinking about it.

For those of you who had a choice between China and the U.S. and were truly set on America but ended up going to China to study instead: do you have any regrets? Do you plan on moving to the U.S. in the future? Have you ever felt, looking back, that you chose the wrong path, or have you ever found yourself longing for something you truly desire but simply cannot afford or attain?

We are very active and I love to surf as much as I can achieve (early mornings and after work) so beach is everything. We spend our weekends at the beach and nippers and mountain biking if beaches out.

We come from Tauranga in NZ but struggle with the long cold wet winters and lack of surf so we are keen to try something new!

I'm a 36-year-old British man from Yorkshire, currently living in the San Francisco Bay Area.

I've recently become single, and I'm wrestling with a decision that involves money, relationships, and where I want my future to be.

My situation:

• I earn $206k (£155k approximately) in a job in California.
• Doing the same job back home would pay around £39k–£45k.
• I have a US green card, held since March 2025.
• I should be eligible to apply for US citizenship around December 2029, with citizenship potentially granted sometime in 2030.
• I own a small UK rental property worth around £75k, with £19k left on the mortgage.
• I also have 11 years of NHS pension contributions. I don't have any significant savings.
• I could realistically save around $55k–$75k annually in the US, including retirement savings.

What I actually want from life:

I'd love to return to the UK, meet someone, have children, and eventually own a nice £230k–£280k house in Yorkshire.

Ideally, I'd like to have enough financial security to work part-time at some point in my 40s and spend more time with family.

My job also offers an interesting possibility. If I eventually obtain US citizenship, I could potentially live in Britain and return to America for short-term contracts paying around $3k a week and pick and choose the areas I would like to travel too.

For example, two 13-week contracts could gross $78k while only working six months of the year. Obviously, taxes, travel expenses, accommodation and family commitments would make the reality more complicated. But I essentially wouldn't need to work the rest of the year.

My dilemma:

I see three options:

1. Return to the UK now at 36, prioritize dating and starting a family, but accept significantly lower earnings and give up my visa.
2. Stay until around March 2029, returning just before my 39th birthday with potentially £100k+ in additional savings, but give up on US citizenship.
3. Stay until I obtain citizenship, potentially returning around age 40–41, giving myself the long-term ability to work in both countries.

The third option is financially attractive, but I worry about returning to Britain at 40, still single, and only then seriously beginning the process of meeting someone and starting a family.

I know men can become fathers in their 40s, but finding the right person and building a relationship takes time.

I'm also conscious that a higher salary and citizenship can become a dangling carrot, and I don't want to miss out on the chance of starting a family.

I am enjoying my time in California, but can't see myself here long term.

I'd love perspectives from people who have faced something similar:

Did you stay abroad for the money or citizenship and later regret the time you lost? Did anyone return home in their late 30s or early 40s and successfully meet a partner and start a family? Or did staying abroad for a few extra years give you financial freedom that made your later family life much better?

I'm interested in hearing genuine experiences, particularly from British expats and men who started families later in life.

Does anyone else feel happier in their expat country than home country, because of the common belief held by people in their home country are toxic? I am doing the same thing back home and in my expat country, I only feel anxious when I’m interacting with people from my home country. Even if I’m not there anymore, talking to those people can drag me back to their judgement system. In my case it’s Social Darwinism. I judge myself, compare myself and feel anxious immediately when I’m interacting with those people. While I’m doing the same thing, don’t feel any of those negative and toxic thoughts at all when I’m not in my home country. I actually don’t know what I want to confirm but…. Maybe knowing that there’re someone else in the same boat as me will make me feel more comfortable