Hi, so I (29M) recently started to have some ED issues where I could not get hard when it came time to perform. It was fine before (sometimes I’d take a bit longer to get fully hard) but starting in 2025 and into this year, I had certain times where I couldn’t even get it up.
I used to be fine before and rarely struggled. However, as of recent, I started to struggle and let anxiety take over and I start thinking that I’m going to fail again like before. I’d still be to get hard from time to time but not the same percentage as before.
Due to the mental block, I checked with my doctor and they prescribed 5 mg tadafadil to get my confidence back up. It works well. I don’t get spontaneous erections but in the beginning, I did get harder from fantasizing (doesn’t happen as often now). However, I did notice I respond faster when time comes and am noticeably harder. All my recent encounters have gone well except for two for physiological reasons. Overall, my erection rate has been amazing since starting the pill.
However, I still get anxiety when I am about to have sex and fear that I’ll never get rid of this anxiety even though I’ve doing fine recently. Does anyone have any tips for this type of mental block? Recently, I just tried reframing my negative thoughts and that it’s fine for my erection to build up instead of going from 0 to 100 in an instant. I want to see if anyone has any other tips or experiences they can share to overcome this anxiety mental block.
For background, I excercise 3 days a week for 60-90 mins. I also walk ~8k steps per day. I used to watch porn but cut that out in March 2026. I do masturbate somewhat but I mainly do it when fanatasizing a former scenario. I mainly just stroke and don’t really stroke to completion. I normally stay hard until I stop stroking and then it fully goes down in a few seconds to a min.