I’m a woman in her 20s who hasn’t really felt true love from a man. But I wanted to know like what are the steps to making a man a fall in love? Or is it just something that happens?

What’s your ‘there are no coincidences’ moment?

It should be reversed. Good people should have good karma and badf people should get what they deserve. But now we have all these ugly super rich people and politicians and so many good people who are struggling to make ends meet... Why is it so? And is it fair?

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I've been thinking about how not every loss is something other people can see or understand. Sometimes it's not a person passing away or a relationship officially ending. Sometimes it's a friendship that slowly faded, a version of yourself you don't recognize anymore, a future you genuinely believed you were going to have, or a time in your life you didn't realize would be the last of its kind.

You can still go to work, laugh with people, make plans, and carry on with your everyday life while privately mourning something that nobody else even knows you're missing.

I think those kinds of losses can be especially difficult because there's no real closure. Nobody brings you a card, nobody tells you it's okay to be sad, and sometimes you feel like you shouldn't even be grieving because, technically, nothing was taken away from you.

But it mattered to you. And sometimes that's reason enough.

It could be a person, a relationship, a dream, a childhood memory, an old version of yourself, or even a life you thought you'd be living by now. If you're comfortable sharing, what made it so hard to let go?

Same as title

PLEASE READ BEFORE COMMENTING: If you’re religious, I ask that you read the entire post before responding. This is about the consequences of religious beliefs, not a personal attack on everyone who believes in God. Please address the actual arguments instead of reacting to the title.

At what point do we admit that religion has caused enormous harm to humanity, and that continuing to protect it from criticism only allows that harm to continue?
We live in a world where people question scientific discoveries, political systems, and social traditions. Yet billions of people are taught from childhood to accept religious claims as absolute truth, often before they’re capable of understanding or questioning them.
Think about that. A child is born knowing nothing about the world, and adults immediately tell them which God exists, which religion is true, what is sinful, and what happens if they disobey. In some religions, even questioning these beliefs can bring fear, guilt, rejection, or threats of eternal punishment.
Is that really faith, or is it conditioning people to believe something before they can think for themselves?
And what happens when these beliefs become laws, traditions, and expectations that control other people’s lives?
Look at women throughout history. Religion didn’t invent misogyny, but religious teachings and institutions have repeatedly justified and protected it. Women have been told to obey their husbands, cover their bodies, control their sexuality, remain submissive, and accept that men have authority over them.
Even today, women in some societies face restrictions on their freedom, marriage, clothing, reproductive choices, and independence because of religious interpretations.
Why should a woman have fewer rights simply because someone believes God intended her to?
If a rule is discriminatory without religion, why does attaching God’s name to it suddenly make it acceptable?
Then there’s morality.
I’ve seen religious people argue that without God, humans would have no reason to behave morally. Some even suggest that the fear of divine punishment is what stops people from murdering, stealing, raping, or committing other terrible acts.
But think about what that argument actually implies.
If the only thing stopping someone from hurting another person is the fear of punishment from an invisible authority, what does that say about their morality?
I don’t need the threat of hell to understand that hurting an innocent person is wrong. I recognize that other people experience pain, fear, and suffering just as I do.
Empathy, compassion, and concern for others do not require religion. And the existence of religious criminals and compassionate atheists should make that obvious.
Religion doesn’t automatically make someone moral, and atheism doesn’t automatically make someone immoral.
Now consider the idea of an all-powerful, all-knowing, perfectly loving God.
Every day, innocent children suffer and die. Women are raped. People experience torture, starvation, war, and unimaginable cruelty.
When someone asks why a loving God allows this, the answers often become: “It’s a test,” “God has a plan,” or “We cannot understand his wisdom.”
But these explanations don’t actually explain why an all-powerful being would need to allow such suffering.
If a human being knowingly allowed a child to suffer when they could easily prevent it, we would question their morality.
Why do we lower our moral standards when the being we’re discussing is God?
And how is it just that someone who lives a compassionate, decent life could deserve eternal punishment for rejecting a religion, while someone who commits terrible crimes may receive divine forgiveness through repentance?
Why should belief matter more than someone’s actual actions?
Another problem is the belief that humanity is somehow the center of the universe, created for a divine purpose, constantly watched, judged, tested, and ultimately rewarded or punished.
There is something deeply self-centered about the idea that an unimaginably vast universe revolves around human obedience to a supernatural authority.
We have discovered that Earth is not the center of the universe. We understand evolution, disease, and countless natural processes that people once explained through supernatural forces.
Yet many still treat ancient religious claims as unquestionable truth, even when evidence challenges their interpretations.
And whenever religion is criticized, the conversation often shifts from examining the argument to defending the believer’s identity.
People say religion provides comfort, gives life meaning, encourages charity, or helps people through suffering.
Those things can be true.
But something making you feel better does not make it true. And something doing good does not erase the harm it can also cause.
People can build communities, find purpose, help the poor, and comfort the suffering without believing that an ancient religious authority should determine how everyone lives.
I’m not arguing that every religious person is harmful, that religion caused every injustice, or that humanity would suddenly become perfect without it.
I’m questioning why we continue giving religious beliefs special protection from criticism when those beliefs can directly affect human rights, education, scientific understanding, and personal freedom.
If a religious belief is true, it should be able to withstand serious questions. If a religious practice causes suffering, it should be challenged. And if a tradition violates someone’s freedom, its age or supposed divine origin should not excuse it.
Humanity should not have to wait for permission from religion to become more equal, compassionate, or free.
We have spent centuries learning more about the world around us.
Maybe it’s time we became just as willing to question the beliefs we inherited.
Because no belief deserves more protection than the human beings who suffer because of it.

i’m 26 and i’m very scared like i feel threatened and exposed by life lol idk how to even continue living

I know how they do it, especially when theres a reason. But for the people who do it simply because they think they know the future, How do you do that. Like my cousin who i just spent the last 5 years talking to every day, I treated her with such love. Although to be fair shes 36 and had almost no actual deep relationships her whole life, so she may not even know whats good and whats not.

But i know for a fact that she must have really liked me. So how do people do that. And then block them everywhere... I have to imagine that eventually shes going to feel bad and thats putting it lightly. I know if I did this to someone it would follow me my whole life and I just dont get it. Are these people just psychos? it creeps me out how easily ppl do shit like this and how little poeple even understand its abuse.

Like ppl.... ITs abuse! So many ppl using the excuse of "I dont owe anyone anything" yea you dont, but doing it makes you a gross human being bro. Ghosting people, giving them silent treatment CAUSES ACTUAL MENTAL DAMAGE. Theres countless studies on it and I feel like our whole society is just going around breaking ppl bc theyre so stupid they dont even know that what theyre doing is simple abuse.

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I’ll go first:

You can be a good person and still be the villain in someone else’s story.

You can give someone years of your life, help them when they need you, and genuinely care about them… and they still might not see your worth.

One thing life has taught me is that not everyone will understand your intentions, and you can't spend your whole life trying to prove that you're a good person.

Imagine you somehow knew that you had only five years left. Would you start doing things differently, focus more on the people you love, take more risks, or stop worrying about things that don’t really matter?
Or do you think you’d eventually go back to your normal routine and live pretty much the same way you do now?
I’m curious how people think they’d react to something like this.

Anyone make sense of this

Not necessarily anything illegal or controversial. Just something everyone seems to accept without questioning it.

I’m curious how many things we all just go along with because that’s how the world works.

With anything you desire, you do have to put forth effort. Whether it be wanting a relationship, pursing your education, staying healthy, etc.. With that being said, I always struggle with knowing how much effort something I want deserves before I say something isn’t for me.

If I hope to find love, I do have to put for some kind of effort in putting myself out there, working on my appearance, working on myself internally, you get the idea. But, at what point would I need to draw a line of “I’m forcing this, I need to stop and let God/the universe/time do it’s thing”. Same with other goals that we hope to reach. If you keep having doors not open, keep getting rejected, or things just don’t seem to be working out, is that a sign that the thing you want/are working towards it isn’t for you?

How do you determine whether something is worth putting in continual effort for vs realizing it just isn’t for you?

I'm talking anything from a childhood belief that makes absolutely no sense to something you confidently argued about for years before realizing you were the idiot. 😂

Funny, embarrassing, mind-blowing, whatever. What's the moment you found out, and how long had you been wrong? Let's hear some of the most ridiculous ones. Thanks Everyone!

Has anyone had someone in their family who made them think that its bad to have ”too many”good things in life. Like they suffered growing up so they want you to suffer as well. They make you feel bad for wanting things even if they do it subcinciously. They missed out on things so they cause you to miss out on things and call you a weakling or pussy or whatever - for wanting normal things, stuff, experiences, cash and other things. And if you are like around 25 or older and have realised that you and that person depraved you from having things that are normal because someone told you, pretty much - lies. Does this make sense? This mindset is common in people who grew up poor I believe.

Can anyone relate to this and how did you move on ? Besides realizing that you can and should have good stuff in your life.

What’s according to you the worst thing someone taught you directly or indirectly ( how you should live or behave) that you had to unlearn and move on from?

Share the story you’re convinced no one would believe. The stranger, more unexpected, and harder to explain, the better. 👀