r/choctaw • u/Icy-Mammoth-7057 • 15h ago
Question Tips for being respectful while reconnecting?
Sorry in advance for the long post!
So as the title says, I’m in the process of reconnecting with my Choctaw heritage, but I have a couple problems.
I know that my great grandfather and his siblings were enrolled in the tribe, but as time went on my grandfather and then my father didn’t really pass down anything about the culture and my dad along with me and my siblings didn’t get enrolled.
I started my enrollment application recently , but I hit a roadblock when I realized the official documents that I would need to collect to prove my relationship to them. I don’t have their birth certificates or their ssn or anything like that, just their full names.
Since it might be awhile before I can even enroll I feel sort of an imposter syndrome not being officially part of the tribe. I want to learn more about the culture and connect with others in my family and outside my family who are in the tribe, but I would hate to seem like I’m trying to claim a culture that isn’t mine.
I especially don’t want to seem like I’m doing it for attention, I truly just want to connect with this part of my heritage because I was never taught about it growing up.
If you saw my other recent post I am currently living in Wichita Kansas (moved from Oklahoma for college) so it’s hard to really find any events near me that I can go to and connect with other people in the tribe. Any advice, book/movie recommendations, online classes or just any ways you can think of for me to respectfully get involved would be very deeply appreciated!
(Also if I said anything disrespectful please let me know, I’m trying to learn as much as I can)