I can get the ring on just fine. But as soon as it’s on it starts to grow, then by time i get to putting on the cage it’s too big and i start leaking. What are your techniques to keep him soft enough to put the cage on?

Hi everyone,
I officially started chastity training today, and I’m making this post with the hope of showing it to my wife (my new Keyholder) so she can see the potential of this dynamic from other couples who have been doing this successfully.
A Bit About Our Context & Motivation:
In our daily lives, I am a provider and traditionally take on a strong, leading role in our relationship. However, when it comes to our intimacy, our desires don't always align on the same schedule. My wife is naturally flirty and playful, but she doesn't desire full sexual intercourse every single day. In the past, this mismatch could sometimes lead to feelings of rejection on my end.
We decided to try chastity to flip that dynamic entirely.

My Questions for the Community:
Since we are right at the beginning of this journey and my wife is still learning what it means to be a Keyholder:
1. How does chastity benefit the Keyholder/wife in the long run? (Especially for wives who are flirty or enjoy romance/teasing, but don't want daily intercourse).
2. What are the best ways a Keyholder can leverage this dynamic? What tasks, gestures of devotion, or ways of exercising control have brought the most fun, intimacy, and relief into your daily lives?
3. What advice would you give to a wife who is taking on the keys for the first time? How can she make this experience as rewarding and enjoyable for herself as possible?
I would love to hear your experiences, tips, and thoughts so I can share them with her as we embark on this new chapter together!

“ I used AI to better word my thoughts”

I currently mostly wear briefs.

So uhh, when I get erect. My pp just pushes on the cage. When that happens it just advances the cock ring and the cage away from my body. A portion of my pp from the stem would be exposed. Feels a bit cheating and i dunno if thats the norm.

So, I had to get rid of my old cage due to a move and other circumstances. But after a month, I decided I wanted to be in a cage again, so I bought one. It arrived today, and I have to say—I’m not sure why, but when I’m wearing it while not aroused, it feels like it’s not even there; I never had that experience with my old one. It’s truly incredible. I think I’ll try staying caged for a longer period this time, since it just feels so good and natural right now.

Unfortunately I cannot post the image here, but I will link the post on my own profile in the comments if that is allowed. Citing materials used and where I sourced them from along with a description, comfort input, etc for anyone interested in making their own. I would love to offer these to people via Etsy or something at a very reasonable price, but due to the very fit-specific nature I found in making mine, I cannot guarantee accurate fitment in a "one-size-fits-all" style or even if you took a waist measurement i think there's too many variables in how it fits and a lot of it was trial and error for me myself.

So far so good, comfy, no give so far keeping the one or two swelling attempts I've had so far this morning at bay. Will update with info how it does in the shower and overnight after a couple days.

My wife and I have been discussing lifestyle 24/7 chastity for years. We have used it in play some but seem to finally be making steps towards incorporating it into our lives.

We've been discussing coming up with a set of rules (ultimately determined by her but that I can make suggestions on). I understand this is pretty common. We have no problem coming up with fun kinky stuff but we both agree there's probably a more practical realistic side to them.

I was hoping some people here could share some of the more practical rules they use so we can discuss it and incorporate the important ones. Or if anyone is aware of a good template to base ours on that would be great.

TIA

I‘m m28 and my wife and I bought today my First Chasity and I’m so turned on just from the thought to be locked and get teased and denied!
So my question is How Long can I wear him and I know a Little Bit stupid question, but how can I Go on toilet with that 😅
I wanna get Crazy in my Head by leaking and be a submissiv locked cock 😵‍💫

As the header already states I just ordered my First cage and was wondering if you have some tips for newbies

Me and the Misses have decided I won’t get to O in the upcoming couple of weeks. I believe we’ve landed on early december being the first time for me getting release.

we’ve been doing shorter stretches over the last couple of years and I’m very curious about how this will turn out.

I am already very worked up right now since I’ve ordered some toys to help alleviate her concerns(strap-on so I can still penetrate her/powerful wand so we can get her to O easily).

i’m curious about a bunch of stuff:

1. on short term stints of chastity sleep has been a bit of an issue. does this get better long term of do I need to learn techniques to deal with this?

2. How big is the hit to fun when moving from pic to a strap on?

3. are there any problems I’ve not considered doing this longer term?

oh, one last detail: no chastity device involved!

Hello, do you have any good reference of 4-way straps (so, not thong-like, I don't want it up my ass, and not just a simple 2-way belt which doesn't hold as much as I would want it to) for chastity?

I'm especially looking for ones that do not stretch, but rather hold solidly in place and can be adjusted (with buckles for example).

If you have any experience or advice on which one to buy that'd be much appreciated !

My wife and I have been talking about lifestyle chastity for years. We've made motions towards it before but logistically there have always been problems. Ring is too big and my balls slip out or ring is too small and we can't get it on, etc.

I just purchased two different size metal cages and a total of four different hinged base rings. I'm pretty confident what we pulled the trigger on will enable full time wear. Or at minimum will be a good starting point.

I was hoping everyone here could give some advice on working up to 24/7.

In particular:

How long should we target at first?

We're talking about a set of rules (both of the fun variety and the practical). Are there any rules you've found particularly useful that we should implement.

For mistresses in particular, what do you like the most about a chastity lifestyle and what can we do to ensure she gets the most out of it?

What are some common misperceptions about the realities of lifestyle chastity that I should maybe get out of my head?

And of course, any advice in general you think could be useful would be greatly appreciated.

A few months ago I injured my testicles unrelated to chastity, I went to the ER and everything was fine but now my testicles are taut all the time and won't hang

anyone know how I can fix this?

Does anyone have any advice on the price margin, or what to look for on a cage etc before I buy one. It would be my first and I've wanted one for a while but never taken the plunge to getting one

I absolutely love being in chastity, but as someone who still has his foreskin I can find it difficult to find a small cage that i can wear for a long time with out some sort of pain or inflammation! I have the correct ring size for me just need to find a cage that is comfortable for long time wear. Any help is appreciated

I wasn't sure what subreddit to post this in, so I apologize if this isn't the correct one.

I bought a The Vice Clitty from Locked In Lust because I thought it was a high end brand, but looking through reviews and recommendations it seems like maybe it actually isn't? Has this changed in recent years, or did I waste $160?

Any recommendations on flat cages with a significant ball gap. I like wearing one from time to time for several hours sometimes but after just a little while my balls feel like they’re on fire. Prefer one I can order from Amazon but will welcome all suggestions

It’s been 27 days since he was able to cum. His ball sacks are so full that it’s making his cage uncomfortable to wear. He still has 70 days before he’s able to cum or feel the inside of a pussy. Any suggestions on how to make his cage feel more comfortable?

My wife and I want to explore lifestyle chastity and we're hoping to get advice on it. I recently posted on femdom_community talking about where we were at and asking for general advice. The responses I received were not just overwhelmingly negative but I would characterize them as hostile and cutting. "Kink shaming" does not begin to address the way they were approaching me.

I'm looking for a community that is a safe space to talk about chastity and get advice from people who are more experienced. Can anyone speak to if this is the best community for that and if not direct me to a good place? Preferably looking for somewhere mods are active.

I masturbate (well edge) too much. Most whilst driving to and from work and I'm trying to work out if it would be beneficial if I got a cage and if so what sort is best (don't want to spend a fortune)

I have a cherry keeper and the unicorn attachment. But the ring is missing the hole for the pin.

I looked it up and i got a g2 ring. But i cant find a G1 ring for the life of me.

Does anybody know how to fix this or has a link to a old g1 ring?

Wondering how you guys all use the bathroom when locked up?

My wife and I have been playing with chastity on and off for awhile and I am currently locked and we are going for a much longer lock up time. The problem is have almost every time is when I get an erection my urethral opening bulges out of the cage just a little bit and rubs on whatever underwear im wearing. When it does rub it causes a bad stinging pain. Anyone else have this or have a solution for this? Thank you 😊

I am looking at purchasing a flat cage that comes with inversion and catheter attachments. I was wondering if there are any tips or pointers I should know when deciding which one to buy. Thank you very much!

Hi all, so when I get hard my penis head will kinda just inflate like a balloon through the gap in my cage where I should pee, this is quite disturbing and painful. Has anyone experienced this and found a fix?
It’s actually mostly a problem when being fucked.