Have you ever met someone you personally found more beautiful than any actor or model you’ve seen?
There’s a man I used to work with who is almost unbelievably physically attractive. Even when I see vids of actors and models widely considered the most attractive men of all time, I still find him more attractive. I know beauty is subjective, but I’ve never had this strong a reaction to someone’s appearance before.
It makes me wonder how many people we’d find exceptionally beautiful are just living ordinary lives, with no interest in acting, modeling, or being famous.
Has anyone else experienced this with someone they knew in real life? Did that sense of them being uniquely beautiful fade over time? My fixation has become painful, and I’d appreciate hearing from people who can relate.

*edit: i'm talking about physically, not personality, like you think they're are semi objectively have got to be one of the most attractive people on earth

Is it size, technique, emotional connection, position etc? Is there any hope of an average guy getting you there?

I'm curious about women who had a pretty strong idea of what they wanted in a guy, whether that's height, looks, body type, lifestyle, or whatever else, but ended up falling for someone who didn't really fit that description. Especially if it was something you once considered a dealbreaker. What was different about him? Was there something about his personality or the chemistry between you that made you see him differently, or were you physically attracted to him right from the beginning despite him not being your usual type? And did that experience actually change your preferences, or was he just an exception? I'm genuinely interested in hearing how that happens in real life.

Last weekend I (67m) invited a new friend (45f) to my bedroom. As we were leaving my condo my new friend told me that, initially, she thought I was gay. I asked her why and she said because my bed was made. She said straight men do not make their beds. Is that true? Do you make your bed every morning?

i’m a woman myself, 21 years old. i get my hair done at a salon every 2-3 months. so a bleach, colour, cut and blow dry. i refresh the colour at home every couple weeks, and i can go longer between appointments because im naturally blonde and dye my hair orange, so my roots aren’t that noticeable.

lately, i’ve been seeing videos and hearing stories from other women saying that they pay between $300-$500 to get their hair done! is this an american thing, or a city thing? i’m from the uk, and i live in a small town so i genuinely don’t know. i usually pay around £110, so the thought of blowing 500 or more on a hair appointment is crazy to me! so now im curious, how much do you all pay to get your hair done (if you do get it done professionally)?

I had an accident and condom broke, i took pregnancy pill like 20 minutes after that (also my partner didnt finish). I was chill until now bc my period is late 12 days. I was at gynecologist and she told me my endometrium is 17mm and i should get my period soon or im pregnant. I watched my ultrasound qnd i really didnt see any dot or anything, but my doctor recommended me to go do PA test if i dont get period at the end of the week. I have pain in my stomach (cramps) and every hour i get such a pain i get hope i got my period but its nothing. I dont know should i do that test bc im really scared and at the same time i dont know if i should bc i dont really have any pregnancy symptoms just that endometrium and late period(also i need to pay to do test and im broke student who is scared to tell her parents about situation). Im really stressed this past few days so it might be it but i need advice from someone that does this more often bc its my first time drinking that pill and this situation happening in general

How's the difference between kissing a guy or a girl who have piercing in his or tongue from a person who doesn't have piercings?? How the kiss feels different??? Actually i was thinking of getting piercing in tongue.

I posted this in another subreddit but I figured I’d post here too and see if anyone could help. For some context I was born with Spina Bifida and have a neurogenic bladder.

Do any other woman in this sub also suffer from chronic UTIs and BV? I’ve always struggled with these things and now that I’m older it’s just becoming embarrassing. I am in diapers pretty much daily and due to me being over the road in a semi truck finding time and places to get to a bathroom is not easy so sometimes I am holding it too long or having to use my diaper. We (me and my partner who’s the trucker) try to shower every other day but sometimes that doesn’t go as planned either so I do sometimes have to have a little lack in hygiene. I have tried to stop drinking so much water in the truck due to fear of not having a bathroom but that’s obviously making my kidneys upset too, and on top of that no matter how well I wash myself I still have BV and some not great discharge/odor at times.

Does anyone have any advice on what I could do? I know in most cases people say unscented washes is best but I don’t know what is the best one to use, do I buy a bunch of AZO as well to help?? I’m tired of feeling so gross and bad. I’m not a dirty person I just am not sure of how to handle this.

A while ago I saw that my ex had been commenting sexual remarks on women’s nudes and on roleplay posts while we were still together. I don’t have a problem with my partner watching porn but leaving actual comments doesn’t sit right with me. I’ve asked some friends about it and some of them considered it cheating while some didn’t. I can’t really figure out how I feel about it so I’m hoping for other people’s perspectives.

This is kind of complex, but I'm a femboy man who enjoys presenting as a woman and experimenting with my gender-presentation. When I first started embracing this side of myself, it made me a little bitter because I noticed people would treat me differently when I presented as female versus presenting as a male, for example: some women would be kind to me when they thought I was female but then change their tone and back off when they heard my masculine voice. This led me down a pretty deep rabbit hole of seeking out other femme guys and crossdressers who were angry at how women treated them and were envious that women were treated better.

I know it was stupid, but I eventually found a group of women who accepted me for who I was and would invite me over for girls' nights, shared make-up with me, gave fashion advice, etc. But my brain was still too deep in the alt-right pipeline that I treated them like crap, like sexist jokes or complaining about how they have "female privilege" (I know, I cringe so hard now...) and all that. They talked to me about it and I apologized, but of course I didn't truly learn from it. Eventually after my behavior didn't stop, they cut me off.

I've spent the past few years educating myself more and pulling myself out of that pipeline. Now I feel extremely bad about the women I've wronged in the past and how dumb I was to fall into that manosphere-esque rabbit hole. I especially feel bad about my group of old friends, and I really want to get back in touch just to apologize. I don't even want them to give me another chance or anything, I just want them to know I'm sorry. But at the same time, I'm pretty sure some of them just never want to hear from me again and I'm not sure if it's a good idea to re-open the wounds.

Would you appreciate it if you were in their shoes and I reached out to give a sincere apology for my misogynistic behavior before? Or should I just keep my mouth shut and admit I have to live without the closure?

Okay, so like, hear me out.

I was born a woman, and raised as a woman, I am now 20 years old. My girlfriend kinda thinks I might be intersex though.

Her current points are that on hormone tests, it says I produce more androgens than I should, I can’t orgasm at all (I have tried legitimately EVERYTHING, that’s not exaggeration), I have very small breasts, I have a somewhat masculine face and a deeper voice, and that I just simply do not have periods more than like once a year.

My counterpoint: it’s probably just PCOS, my mother is a nurse so she probably would’ve realized if I was intersex when I was younger?

But we’re talking the other day and apparently it is unique to me that if I’m in the mood, I feel it more in my ass than I do by my clitoris or vagina. Like, up my ass, it’s a sort of pleasant buzz. Similar to the clit but a little stronger. She thinks maybe I have like a prostate or something and wants me to get it checked out so I know if I need to have cancer screenings there too.

so like… ladies?? does anyone else experience this??

edit: hello folks quiet addendum to address the two frequent non-one-word replies

1.) why haven’t you gone to a doctor

I’m collecting data to see if I need to. I don’t like doctors and try to only go if I absolutely need to. i wasn’t really concerned prior to a few weeks ago so I’m still in that “is it really a big deal” phase.

also I did NOT know that PCOS has to be monitored omg I haven’t gone to the ob/gyn in six years

2.) why is your gf so caught on this, is she questioning your gender?

nope!! her concern is that I will be more prone to cancer in one reason or another and wants to make sure I am covering all my bases at checkups. My bloodline is absolutely riddled with cancer and her mother died from it earlier this year (diagnosed at stage iv) so she’s just kinda paranoid about the idea that we could miss something and she’ll have to go through all of that again. She has assured me that even if her hunch is correct, nothing has to change at all, she just wants to make sure I don’t have like.. a secret ticking time bomb prostate that’s gonna magically grow instacancer or something

What is a question that changed how you thought it felt or where you felt like you were able to contribute something unique? Or, what is your favorite question that you've seen for any reason.

Imagine a world where pregnancy lasts 9 months if you're having a boy, but 18 months if you're having a girl.

Let's say you can choose the sex of your baby, and both pregnancies are equally safe. The only difference is how long they last.

Would you choose to have a daughter under these conditions? Why or why not?

So I have a friend that I don’t really talk to anymore. But all of his images in hinge / bumble / tinder are generated with ai. He uses his own photo to generate these photos, but these ai photos still make him look a lot better and change the shape of his jawline, abs, ect. He also uses it to curate a lifestyle that is not his. He uses ai to generate photos of him with other attractive girls. And he uses it to generate photos of him with friends that do not exist in real life. He is rather successful with hookups and probably has an n count of over 100. The personality he is portraying in these apps is a total fabrication.

I imagine that a majority of these women who he hooked up with never figured out his photos were ai generated. This is partly because he is tall and good looking, so they may not be that surprised when they arrive to his apartment (he usually invites them straight over). But the kicker is that his entire persona is fabricated. AI friends, AI flings / exes, travel photos. It’s all fake. His main hobby aside from the gym is optimizing this persona on the apps.

My question is, how good do you think you are at detecting ai generated photos? How would you feel if you knew that a person you hooked up had done this? I have a feeling that a lot of people will say that they can tell, but his results seem to indicate otherwise.

I’ve always had a problem with fashion and getting dressed. I don’t want to dress according to the current trends, when I have to pick out stuff that’s never what I lean towards. But still every day I can’t stop thinking about if I dress my age, or if I look too young/too old. What people my age think when they look at me, what men think when they look at me (this is so annoying), I pick apart everything about my looks, my weight, my hair. There’s a deep desire in me to fit in.
I literally don’t know what to do anymore and it’s causing genuine distress at this point. I just wanna wear whatever I want and not think about how I look to others.
I really hate that what you wear will put you in a category. Sorry for rambling, it’s hard to put these thoughts into words.
Has anyone ever felt like this before, what did you do to accept your own style and stop overthinking?
(i’m 26)

Give me some hope guys, it must be possible.

Edit: Since I have to state the obvious, I'm not talking about perfomative men but men that actually live by feminist values and not ashamed to call themselves one when asked.

For me, it was “I don’t know if she’s the one because she has ADHD” who also said “she says I pressure her into sex but she’s mentally ill so her judgement is wrong” Right, right… /s.

Tell me some stupid shit men have said about women on Reddit!

I’m curious about situations where you already knew the guy, like a friend, coworker, or someone you regularly saw, and developed an attraction while you were in a relationship.

Did you find yourself flirting, seeking him out, or giving off signals without realizing it? Or were you consciously testing the waters?

I’m also curious whether you behaved differently in person versus over text. Were you more expressive face-to-face but more reserved in your messages?

And did any of that change depending on whether you actually intended to act on the attraction?

I went to a pretty comfortable school in the suburbs. If anybody has seen “Carrie” then it’s obvious I’m asking about Chris Hargensen. The 2026 Carrie miniseries has women posting on social media about how realistic the high school cruelty is depicted. I just can’t wrap my head around that behavior being accepted in reality. Catty bullying ok yeah …but, “let’s film the new naive girl freaking out and let’s throw tampons at her and put it on instagram” level of bullying would make any person with empathy feel disgusted. Maybe my school was too sheltered? If this happened in my HS, the girls in the locker room would have helped her. Make fun of her after… maybe. But actively shame her ? How cruel are teenage girls really ? Is it accurate ?

! I'M REALLY SORRY IF THIS IS THE WRONG SUB I JUST DON'T KNOW WHERE ELSE TO ASK !

So basically, I'm 19m, gay, and a semi friend (19f) asked me out. I'm really bad at saying no, and I just need help knowing what to say without hurting any feelings. (I know the obvious answer is just to say no, but she's really sweet and I would feel bad if I hurt her feelings/I am not good at saying no)

I'm M55. My wife stopped desiring me a long time a go. We still love each other. We still have sex, but she clearly doesn't desire me. I still desire her. A lot.

Is there something your partner did that killed the desire? Is there anything that can be done to bring the desire back?

Is it even worth it?

I told my mom that I have really bad RSD when my partner doesn't reciprocate when I'm initiating intimacy, to which she replied "yep, that's why I never initiate." WHAT?! This canNOT be a healthy answer. It just sounds miserable to me, because I we'd be intimate a lot less... Also, getting no response is SUPER painful. I wish I could describe it. I want to cry.

For YEARS, I got really used to being single and honestly, it was just peaceful never feeling this feeling.

I don't know what to do...

We haven't ever gotten to this point in the relationship before- I don't know if it's normal or a legitimate compatibility issue...

Is there any advice out there to approach this topic gently/delicately?