A good number of female patients have asked for such a sterilization procedure and faced resistance by doctors and nurses who tried to say they shouldn't for just in case or for some future husband.

If you have wanted that procedure and medics tried to prevent it, were you able to get it anyway? If so, what did you need to do to get it? And were you able to get the refusing doctor punished for the sexism?

its my first time stinking so bad and i do not understand why is that.

for context since june my sleep schedule has gone worse, i was not able to sleep before 4am and due to it ig I missed my periods on june and july and got it back on august - the flow was nice and fresh just like how it used to be on my teen days.

September, i again missed my periods and since 10th of october im stinking so bad? i sweat but i have never had terrible odor like this even when i exercise. got my period yesterday and guess what my period stink w the same smell as my sweat. WHAT!?

whats more weird is that its my right underarm which more odor than my left underarm.

i dont apply deodorant directly on my skin rather apply lotion.

i have not checked myself up for diabetes or PMOS/PCOD so let me know if you guys dealing w it which caused the same issue as me.

My wife has been a D or DD cup for our 20 year relationship. When she describes her mammograms to me, it literally sounds like they’re squeezing the whole breast in an industrial panini press… she places her breast on a shelf, basically hugs a big awkward machine, and then they mash it down, and it’s uncomfortable. I’ve asked her how smaller chested women get mammograms when there is not enough tissue to “place it on the shelf.” She doesn’t know. I suggested that she ask the imaging tech. Her answer was basically, “no way, dude— you can go ask Reddit.” So here I am, supplicating myself before you. I know some many of you are out there saying, “oh Gawd, such a guy thing to wonder about” or “why is he asking on Reddit? Why is he wasting our time with this crap?” Im just a guy wondering how a basic and important diagnostic tool that is essential to women’s health is accessible to everyone. Thanks

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I deeply appreciate all the responses and hearing about your experiences. Thanks for validating my question and educating me. My wife is reading the responses with me and she also appreciates the solidarity and is learning new things as well. Her follow up question is “ok, if this sucks for everyone, where are the engineers who can make a better boob panini press?”

Ladies what is an ok amount of time for you not to hear from a guy you are in the talking phase with, before you consider it ghosting?

I personally feel like a couple days is okay in the talking phase but beyond that it's time to block and move on. Curious what everyone else thinks?

I'm currently at 36 hrs of no response but he doesn't owe me anything at this point, we're not committed. At what point do you rightfully get annoyed?

I have DDs at 16. (DD34 to make it clearer) I've had DDs since I was 14, and it doesnt get any better. I hit puberty at around 7 and everything grew in too quick. Im 5'2 and everyones hitting puberty around me and growing. Even my sister (whos 14) is taller than me. My back (ontop of chronic pain) hurts constantly. I need to know if I'm being dramatic.

So I went out drinking with a group of friends, including this girl I’ve been getting to know. We were getting pretty handsy with each other throughout the night, and eventually we all crashed at a mutual friend’s place.

The next morning, our friend had to leave for work, but we were both hungover and stayed behind watching movies.

We ended up cuddling for a while, and it wasn’t exactly innocent cuddling. She had her head on my chest, with her hand on my stomach, and sometimes around my neck. I had my hands on her legs, stomach, etc., and occasionally her inner thigh. There was definitely a lot of physical affection going both ways.

But I never tried to kiss her or escalate things toward sex.

So I’m curious. When you’re being that physically affectionate with a guy you’re attracted to, are you generally hoping he’ll make a move? Or are you sometimes perfectly happy just enjoying the cuddling?

And if he doesn’t escalate, would you take that as a sign that he’s not particularly interested?

I'm 28 years old (about to be 29 in December) and i'm a late bloomer in almost every aspect in life.

I didn't learn how to drive until I was 26 and it took weeks and I finally got my driver's license at 27.

My first clubbing experience was in las vegas at 27.

My first plane ride was at 27.

I didn't drink alcohol until I was 21.

I didn't move out my dad's house until I was 27.

Didn't have my first kiss until I was 28.

And just last week, I had my first sexually encounter with a guy i've been dating for the past few weeks.

But unfortunately i'm 28 and still very much a virgin.

All that to say is that when I reach milestones, no one seems excited or happy for me.

I wanted to talk about my first kiss and sexual stuff I did with the guy and none of my "friends" care.

All my friends have kids at this age (25 and up) and have been dating/sexually active since their teens, so it's not a big deal to them.

I just feel so alone.

Here I am walking around with a grin on my face snd they look at me like i'm childish.

When I finally learned how to drive and got my license, no one cared.

On Instagram I got "about time" messages.

Same thing when I move out of my dad's place, no congratulations, just "about time you live on your own"

When I confessed to my friends that I wanted to go clubbing, everyone said no because they did it ehen they were younger and are partied out now.

I love go clubbing! It's fun as hell. But i've been told i'm too old to keep going.

All this to say: how do I deal with the fact that i'm a late bloomer with people who aren't? That i'm finally catching up in life but it's like i'm forever behind.

Why can't people feel excited for me?

Will this carry on all throughout my life?

Marriage?

A baby?

Getting a college degree?

Am I too late in life for people to care?

(I live in Europe) I wanted to know which brands of hygienic pads are good and which are not, since I want to buy a pack or two for my job's bathroom.

hi everybody! i'm coming on here to ask about the basics of hygiene—like things you think are common sense—and any tips for hygiene when you have adhd.

i'm a teenager and was raised by a mom who was never taught much about her own body and self care, so she didn't really teach me much. over recent years, i've learnt through the internet that i've been doing everything wrong. wiping after you pee, brushing your tongue, shampooing twice, no dry shaving, etc. are all things i was unaware of until recently. i didn't even know that most people use wash cloths and other things in the shower, and usually have a combo of a bar of soap and body wash. it's made me wonder how much there is that i don't really know, and i feel too embarrassed to ask the people in my life since this all seems to be common sense.

i also just have trouble following routines, especially when they have a lot of steps, since i have adhd and have been trying to implement tricks to help me stay consistent with that. i wash my hair and shower consistently but i falter when it comes to the smaller things like flossing, washing my face everyday, doing a whole shower routine where i use multiple products, etc.

if you also have skincare tips, that would be really appreciated! i've struggled with bad skin ever since i hit puberty and although the pimples have mostly gone away, they've left me with pitted acne scars (which i know will probably need dermabrasion or something), dry skin, and discolouring on my face. i've already spoken to a family doctor and have been referred to a dermatologist, but there's a long waiting list, so i'm wondering if there's stuff i can do at home in the meanwhile. i know with skin like mine, i can't completely "fix" it without professional help, but i know i can do better.

and finally, hair care tips are also appreciated. i grew up thinking i had straight hair but once again, after puberty hit, it started becoming really frizzy and eventually wavy. i have some trouble with the frizz, and i also tend to have greasy hair, despite washing it 1-3 times a week.

thank you so much to anyone who takes the time to read and respond!!

It could be wise, rude, hilarious, or just bizarre. Where were you, and how did you react?

I have heard some horror stories and just wondering if they are exaggerated or it is truly extremely painful. I will be having one soon and was told it would only be “somewhat uncomfortable” by my doctor so no numbing or sedation will be offered.

just as the title said. is it shameful to admit one watches porn to their significant other? my partner has said he has no need to watch porn, and gets offended when i suggest that he does do that, saying that hes satisfied with me and we even have our own material that we made, so it wouldnt make sense for him to watch porn.

one thing is, i helped him set up his email account when he lost his phone, im logged into it on my phone and the other day when i was helping him reset his bank account for his new phone, i came across an email that said he logged into a porn website with his email. he has denied this and said it wasn't him, but who else was it then? i really dont get it.

i told him i dont care, because i myself sometimes give in to the temptation, but somehow the fact hes lying about it hurts a little. as if hes also lying about being satisfied with me. i dont know. i dont actually care as i said just that he is lying. any advice?

Just as the title says, in two relationships in my past when we got broken up with, I bargained and pleaded to get back.

I thought this was normal. I thought everyone losing a relationship would ask and beg for a chance, essentially.

According to the subreddit, that’s actually abnormal and a sign of abuse.

I last had my last relationship three years ago.

I didn’t realize this whole time I was being abusive and condemnable. There was one time on a dating app when someone said they didn’t want to see me, and I “accidentally” texted them six months later, which led to us having another conversation.

But I thought it was normal to try to repair a relationship when someone was ending it. I didn’t know it was considered coercion.

Per previous comment: I begged to get back with a lot of “please” and “sounds like you think we can make it”

I did point out I didn’t want to move out the second time she wanted to break up, which could make it coercive. That was toxic.

One gf admitted I did convince her to try again even when hesitant to give it another chance.

Am I like those Cornell creeps?

I have four childhood friends that I consider close as sisters (we're all 32 or 33F). We live about an hour from each other near NYC, except for one who moved to Europe. I'm the only one not originally from NY, and moved there partially to be closer to them. I'm married but none of the rest have partners or kids.

2019: I invite a bunch of girlfriends to dinner for my 25th birthday. They all say yes. As I'm on the train headed to the restaurant, every single one texts me and says they can't make it. They all have some excuse -- they're sick, they forgot, their dog died, etc. I go back home and cry in my husband's arms. It sucks, but I tell myself this is just some freak coincidence that won't happen again.

We get dinner together a few times over the next several years (except the pandemic ofc), but it's never all of us together. One specific person never makes it and always has some dumb excuse (once she said "I fell out of a chair really hard and my butt hurts so I have to stay home"). I haven't seen her in person since 2019.

2022: My wedding in NY. We postponed for COVID, so they have two years' notice. Three show up, including the one who had to make the trip from Europe, but one says she is sick a few days before and can't come. If you've thrown a wedding, you know last-minute cancelations are a pain because you're paying per plate. We have a great time, but I still feel salty looking at the photos and videos seeing four of us when it should have been five.

2023: Husband and I moved apartments. We each invite a handful of friends over for a housewarming, and buy all the food. Again, all of my friends either say no or cancel at the last minute. All of his friends show up and feel sorry for me. I'm deeply embarrassed and resolve to never invite people to an event again, because it's been too many times at this point and I'm tired of it.

2024: Friend in Europe gets married there. We are told with a year's notice. I offer to pay for everyone's flights and hotels because us all being together is more important than the price tag. They all say no and I'm the only one who makes the trip. She's very happy I came, but I'm disappointed not one other person said yes to a free trip to Europe. (I haven't heard from that friend in a while but last I heard, that marriage was on the rocks.)

Now, to today. Husband and I bought a new apartment and invited all our friends over for a housewarming party. I was very nervous the same scenario would repeat itself, but they all told me they were coming (except the one who didn't come to my wedding, I don't invite her anywhere anymore because I know she won't show up). Over the last couple days, the other two both told me they're sick and can't come. They profusely apologize and offer to send a gift and arrange a time to meet up later.

My birthday is in a few months and they agreed to see a Broadway show with me. This is our favorite show that we all bonded over as teenagers. I picked my birthday because it was the best way I could think of to get them to say yes. But I'm worried they will cancel at the last minute again.

What can I do? I know people getting sick is not something you can control, but this has been a pattern for years and I'm sick of it. It shouldn't be this hard to get together a group of gals who live in the same city (exemption for the one in Europe of course, I don't expect her to show up, LOL).

I'm so jealous of friend groups who get together regularly. If your girlfriends have drinks every month or something, how tf do you make that happen? After all these incidents, how can I ever trust them again?

I've spoken to them all about this and they told me it's not personal, life just happens. So please no comments like "they're not your friend" or "they don't want to see you."

So I was in a club for the first time and just drinking in a standing table not dancing and my energy is low since clubbing isn’t my thing but I’ll spare you the details.

Some women approached me to chat and asking for cigarettes and hitting my vape and convincing me to dance and whatever. Do you women do this (if and when you do) only to be nice or if you like the person in some way?

Is it weird to request to follow an ex male coworker?
I kind of want to follow my ex male coworker on socials because I kind of like him/am interested in him. I quit last month but still want to keep in touch and I don’t have his phone number on hand. I think he may have flirted a little with me at one point and feel I am also attracted to him. I want to shoot my shot by following him, but we have no mutual followers and I don’t want to come off weird. So women, would you would you do this?

This happened a few months ago, but he just told me now. For the past months he has been ignoring me around friends, I essentially felt invisible to him in group settings and it was hurtful. I told him a few times but he said "I don't notice that, I think I do well to talk to everyone there but I will try to be mindful"

He's now confessed to me that he has been treating me this way because he resents the fact I rejected him. I didn't understand what rejection he was talking about until he told me. A month into dating, there was a weekend where I left our college town to housesit for my parents (mainly their dogs) while they went on a weekend trip. My boyfriend had asked me last minute if he could come, and while I wanted him to, I knew it was too late to ask my parents. I didn't feel comfortable bringing a stranger into their home, because they still hadn't met him. I told him this and he seemed fine with it at the time, but I didn't realize it was a deep rejection to him deep down.

I felt really bad and apologized to him, and comforted him that I would always want him around me. I wish he told me instead of silently treating me worse in retaliation though. Am I being a big idiot here? Should I have known that it was going to be an unfair rejection?

Basically I’m a 21 year old dude who just got diagnosed with hsv1 on my upper pubic area. I learned in sex Ed that hsv1 is super common and most people already have it but I just wanted to know how dating looks like for me since it is life long.

I've noticed a pattern in some businesses and organizations. When you look closely, they often seem to feature predominantly young, conventionally attractive women. It feels intentional, like the people hiring are gooners.

For example, there's a Korean YouTube channel called "World Friends" that focuses on language learning and cultural exchange. When I scrolled through its thumbnails, I noticed that most of the guests, if not all, were young women. I've also noticed a similar pattern in YouTube ads for the Church of Jesus Christ. I've gotten like 5 ads of them, all young women convincing me that they want me at their church. I've visited various restaurants and noticed that many seem to follow the same pattern. I saw a hidden camera show where the restaurants would tell the women to wear tight clothing and short skirts. The women were saying that they want to be seen as employees, not as a piece of meat on a fish hook.

I hope it’s okay to post this here, sorry if it’s not x

I’m in my early 20s, I’ve been on dates with guys my age and older guys. I moved abroad on my own as a teenager, did my uni, have a nice job, gone on trips with my friends, I’m active, I’m happy with myself to be fair like I think I’ve become quite confident in the past few years.

I feel like most men my age are still kids. When I speak to them we’re so far from each other. Their only idea about future is their boys trip to Ibiza next year. Their mums do their washing and their biggest weekly expenses are vapes. I want to settle down, get married, have kids. I know it’s tough in this economy but if I date someone I want to know we both share this same goal and we’re working towards it. The reactions are always like ah yeah maybe when i’m like 35. I mean I don’t blame them, it’s pretty normal, nothing wrong with it but it just makes me feel hopeless. 

I like older men but I’m scared their intentions might not be the purest or I’m gonna get used or taken advantage of because they have more experience and know what to say. Every time I see a nice older guy all I’m thinking is well he can’t be as amazing as he seems because then he wouldn’t be single at his age. Idk I just worry. But on the other hand I am much more drawn to them, I prefer them physically, it’s easier for me to find them attractive than men my age. I’d love a confidant older guy who will lead and who I can look up to but the second I’m close to meeting one I shit myself thinking he’s 100% gonna harm me in some way.

I only had one serious adult relationship, he was 8 years older and we broke up after 2 years. He never mistreated me in any major way but when we were about to move in together he pulled back and said he wants to live like he did when he was younger, go to the pub more, isn’t ready for a full on relationship and he took back a lot of promises. The exact stuff I was hoping to not have to go through if I date a 30 yo instead of a 20 yo. So along with the fear of being manipulated by an older guy I’m also worried that they don’t actually have to be more mature but they’re better at pretending otherwise if they benefit from it.

I’m not looking to date again yet, I want to have this year just to myself, but I’ve been thinking like I don’t even know what kind of men to date? I’m absolutely sick of hearing I’m a delusional child and I should enjoy my freedom, explore, date casually, experience more men, go on nights out and not bind myself to one man. I genuinely can’t. I’m repusled by the idea of any other form of dating than dating to marry. Most people don’t take me seriously, they just smile at me compassionately like I have a disability and they hope I’ll grow out of it one day. 

Do I give up dating and start again in my 30s when guys start wanting the same things I want? Or do I go for older? Do I hope for someone my age with the same mindset? I just don’t know how to date to find what I’d like to have. It’s making me overthink myself, like I know exactly what I want but I’m failing massively at looking for it. Idk what to do genuinely

I have a female friend who I love dearly she's amazing and we talk about any and everything she's one of the few people me 20M is out as bi to she goes to a all women's college she's a beautiful girl and recently the past 4-5 months she has been talking and joking and saying stuff about making out with a girl and the idea of it I said today it seems u thoght about this she said I have very timidly (,that's not normal) how do I support her and make her realize no matter if she does or doesn't the thoughts she's having is completely ok and it doesn't make her weird or less then anyone else thanks so much for any and all help

A few weeks ago, I was hanging out with a female coworker who had recently returned from vacation. She had done a lot of shopping and gotten a makeover, so she looked totally different. I complimented her on her appearance, and out of curiosity, I asked her about her hair and nails. Her eyes lit up, and she got really excited, sharing details about how much she had spent on everything.

You can imagine that this was the day I learned that there was a colour called “nude,” which I had never heard of before. It made sense, though, once I grasped the concept.

We talked for quite some time, and I kept asking questions out of genuine curiosity. From the way she described everything, I realised that there wasn’t much difference between the effort she put into her appearance and the effort I would put into building or fixing something (I work in IT), at least in terms of planning and implementation. Our conversation actually broadened my perspective and opened my mind to ways I could improve my work and approach to life.

Ultimately, it made me wonder: Do women appreciate it when their boyfriends take a keen interest in the effort they put into looking good, rather than simply telling them, “You look pretty”? Or would that level of curiosity be off-putting?