Title pretty much explains it, just feeling dumb and have no one to talk about it with. I work in healthcare so I know I’ll be okay. I guess I’m just having a hard time accepting it and that I’ll have it the rest of my life. To be honest I don’t know why I’m writing this post, Just feeling like I needed to tell someone.

I'm 19, but idk what I'm doing with my life atp. I'm not sad about it, but I'm not happy either.

When I downloaded Grindr, I thought I'd look for dates and maybe a bf. I spent more than a week rejecting hookups, even with hot guys, because I was very much a "my first should be my last" typa person. But then I soon realized that's not really how grindr or the majority of gay guys work.

So I started hooking up. In total, I've topped 2 guys, sucked 4, and received head from 3. All of them except one came, but I couldn't cum with anyone.

Idk why. Death grip? Maybe? But I'm rock-hard every single time. Or could it be that I'm actually demisexual and can't cum without an emotional connection? But then why do I get rock-hard every time?

I just can't figure out why am I unable to cum. A part of me thinks bottoming might make me cum, but I don't wanna bottom for a Grindr hookup

Idk. Any advice or similar experiences would be appreciated.

The guy I am hooking up with loves to tell me how good my cock feels when I’m fucking him and begging for me to cum inside him when I am close. Add that to his sexy moans when I am really going to town and hitting that spot and it drives me absolutely wild. Bless all you good bottoms out there!

I stumbled across it and found it all pretty cringe and messed up tbh. A lot of apparently "straight" men seeking bromance. Many are married.

It all seems very closeted. One was asking for a "big bro to go camping with" and "...do whatever with the right bro" Sounds very brokeback 🤫

I mean if it's so straight why do they need a photo? What truly straight man picks male friends by looks?

Are straight men now having sex with other men and deciding that it's straight by calling it bromance? I doubt any married man is going to tell the wife he's advertising for a bro online to have exclusive camping trips with right.

I didn't do much, I tried sucking someone off for the first time. And someone sucked me off for the first time so it was technically my first hook up. I should've pulled away but I'm so used to letting people do whatever they want.

I think its best for me not to go as I always have trouble saying no (I'm a people pleaser). Dont think im going any time soon anyway, My 19th birthday is soon

Was hanging out with some of my other gay guy friends and I brought up a story about how I worked at bass pro shops. One of my friends goes “of course you work there” and I was like “wait wdym?”. And both of my friends were like “well I mean you’re lowkey trade sometimes can’t lie”. I took it as a compliment then but I realize I don’t fully know what it means and if it’s a good thing or not. It feels a little weird to bring it up now so I am just curious what most people mean by that?

Does it just mean like straight passing? Or is it like someone uncomfortable with being gay? I don’t think I’ve ever considered myself particularly masculine so I don’t know if it means that or not.

I just made the connection that the last time I had a really bad case of Shigella was after a rimming situation during a pride sex party which is primarily how Shigella spreads. I should've known I wasn't coming home clean, I never do from those type of events. It was so bad I had to take days off from work and couldn't sleep ... it was horrible!!

https://people.com/sexually-transmitted-diarrhea-is-spreading-in-the-us-12164889

I (27 M) dated my boyfriend (29 M) for about 10 months, officially since March in east TN. We were integrating into each other's lives. I'd met his family, I was at his sister's wedding, etc. The week before, we had a great night laughing the whole time.

One ongoing issue: he regularly put off sex with me. We once went almost two months without being intimate, even though I kept trying to initiate. Usually I got "my stomach hurts." He's mentioned struggling with body image after gaining weight, which I never cared about. When we were intimate, it was genuinely good.

Last Saturday, out of nowhere, he broke up with me at dinner. He said he couldn't give me what I needed, felt he'd stopped making progress in his life (gym, goals), and that "this is how he gets in relationships." He later admitted he'd planned it. I was blindsided. For context, he'd had a really stressful stretch at his old job and started a new one about a month ago.

On Wednesday he asked to meet. He apologized, told me he loved me, then said he doesn't see himself as monogamous and wants me as his partner, but open. I said I was okay with him texting or flirting with others but struggled with him sleeping with others. We agreed to pause the sexual part for a month while we rebuilt.

The next day I was still anxious, so I called him. I said I'm not opposed to opening up, but asked that we start slow and do things together first (like threesomes). He knows I've been cheated on before. He said that "defeats the purpose" and removes the freedom, and wouldn't agree to any rules or boundaries.

He said a lot of open couples don't have these issues. Maybe, but they probably weren't starting days after one person broke the other's heart. I didn't trust him yet, and that's exactly why I needed slow.

He said our worldviews aren't compatible, that I couldn't handle it without jealousy, that my anxiety causes issues, and he "can't be the one to make me feel secure." I explained my anxiety comes from past trauma and I'm working on it. He also said, "If there's no freedom, what's the point of being gay?" That same night I asked to be intimate and he said no because he was tired.

So the person who said he loved me on Wednesday had avoided sex with me for months, but wanted total freedom to sleep with others, no rules, the next day. It was all about what he wants, nothing about what we need. I told him I felt like his backup for when things didn't work out with other guys. I ended it and blocked him. I was proud in the moment, but now I'm second-guessing everything.

Edit / for context on where I stand: I'm not against open relationships. In a past relationship we'd talked about possibly opening things up someday, after years together and once we were stable. I'm open to it long term as long as two things are true: the relationship stays the priority, and the terms are mutual. For me, openness has to be built on trust, not used to skip past it. The openness was never my dealbreaker. The lack of any compromise or agreements was.

**My questions:**
If I'd agreed to his terms, would it still be a real relationship, or would I just be an option?
Is "no rules at all" normal in open relationships, or do most couples set agreements?
Was it unreasonable to ask to start slow and together, right after he broke up with me? Can openness work before trust is rebuilt?
Is it a red flag that he avoided sex with me for months but wants freedom with others? Could it be more about his insecurity than me?
Is it fair to frame my wanting boundaries as being "insecure"?
Did I make the right call, or end it too fast?
How do you stop second-guessing a breakup you initiated when you still love the person?
Any honest perspective helps. Thanks for reading.

I’m traveling for work and I’m being put up in a hotel tonight. I always get really horny when I’m alone in my hotel room. I like to stay naked, take dirty pics of myself, jack off with others on webcam, etc. Who else feels this way?

I remember seeing that Gpambot video of Judy Hopps for Zootopia 2 and it made me feel like there was no glamour or camp that made it remotely interesting

As a top, I always have a mini-meltdown from the sensation of entering a bottom's hole for the first few seconds. It's the most precious feeling of all. I sometimes do wonder if I look at bit stupid in that moment.... haha

I'm 23 years old , hairy guy , I'm 5'6 tall .Like I'm more hairy before , I tried to trim my body hair . Do body hair attracts men? . Can somebody tell me about my question on this plz

I’m somewhat jock/muscular but I love me a husky man.

Hey guys, we're a couple MM (37) and we were discussing the concept of inviting a third person to spice up sexual life.

Are there any of you guys who have experienced that? Is it actually possible to do it and just keep it as a from-time-to-time activity or does it always lead to open relationships?

I took 4 loads from the same person last night and then slept with them inside me.

Is that bad?

I think it's gotta be the obsession with Top or Bottom. On the few occasions it's come up in conversation, people are shocked to find out that my partner and I are both totally Vers.

I recently got caught with grindr being on my phone. My friend saw the app and asked what app is that, i panicked and i don’t know what i was supposed to say, i just kept my silence. I am genuinely scared and dk what to do next. Should i just say something to cover it up? Idk i think its too much for me rn, and been thinking alot about this. Idk if i should address? Should i just say i used to sell smth in that app ? 🥲

I'm interested in experiences where stimulating other parts of the body (skipping the prostate for obvious reasons) like testicles or sensitive zones led to an orgasm.

Is there any r/ about it?

I came a couple times by being extra focused on my body, but it takes a lot of work

Hey, does anyone still talk about the Kinsey Scale? From 1 to 6 indicates how gay you are (or how you identify). Kinsey 6 = totes gay. Kinsey 1 = totes straight. 5 is mostly gay, 2 is mostly straight. Note that there's no middle 50/50. You're a 3 (straightish) or a 4 (gayish). It was kind of a flawed study from the 50s, but still an interesting metric.

I'm a 6. Gay as gay could be. My fwb is a 5. Some of the dudes here asking "am I gay" are probably a 2 or 3. Lol

What are you?

I'm M(27) and my husband M(28) have been married for almost three years. Our daily task splits between being somewhat of a housewive and he the worker. We have 2 cats together for 2 years now. For like 97% of the time, we love to joke around and he always seem so caring and protective of me, which in return, I gave him 100% of my trust.
**Back story, so I had an anal fissure for several months when we first got married so I couldn't and didn't want to have anal sex. He wanted to really bad, and I just couldn't satisfy his needs for almost 8 months because of my fear of tearing again. This is one of the major factors as he told me when we talked it out this morning.
So early early morning today (1-2 AM), I was so worried about him not coming home from his Karol G concert. I decided to call up almost everyone I know who knows both of us, and none of them got a response since his phone was dead. This led to my calling his sister, and while we were trying to problem solve, I notice a private folder on his tablet. This folder was filled with chats and nudes exchange dated back from March 2026 to recently (not a lot but theres a timeline). I was hit with the shock that the person whom I relied on for my current stable life has been lying to me. I angrily texted him the pictures I took of the screenshots he saved and sent to him. His sister heard my cries, and we went to where the concert was to look for him but to no avail.
This morning as I was packing all of my stuff out of anger, he came home out of no where. I was waiting for myself to calm down first before saying anything. I began the conversation with "I'm sorry that I got ugly and fat after we met (as I was fit before all the happy weight)." He just laid there and took all my frustration while realizing that he was wrong (I know he only felt guilty because I found out). This is where I began questioning everything he ever said and he revealed to me that it wasn't just phone nude trades, but he went out to have sex 1 time last year on his day off (when he said he was tired). It was mostly me asking to see all of his DMs and stuff. Afterwards, I came to the conclusion of staying with him for a little while to see if he still tries to do sneaky shit or not, and he said I still loves me (which now I don't know if I can trust him). To quote two of the greats: "Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if it's broken, but you can still see the crack in that mother fucker's reflection." - Lady Gaga & Beyonce.
Did I handle that situation correctly, or should I have just left and leave no room to be fix? My biggest concern was he knew his dad cheated on his mom, and he still had the balls to do it to me. Now everytime I see him all I can think about is how he could stay hard for his side piece but never with me.

Hello, to preface and for context, I come from an extremely homophobic culture.

I am now 33 and for a very long time I suppressed any gay feelings, I've had hetero relationships before and I like it, but recently, I started exploring those gay feelings through porn, thoughts, and imagination, and I actually like it, so, I'd like to experience it irl.

However, I don't want to fall into traps, be used, or taken advantage of, because I want to be honest and clarify to whoever will be my first that I am new to this. Nor do I want to bother or hurt anyone.

So, can you please give me advice on

- Where I should start.

- What things I should be wary of, any red flags for example.

- What things I should do myself so as to not be insensitive towards said first experience.

I the meantime I am researching about PreP, and I am so sorry if I expresed things in an insensitive way, it is not my intention at all. I am just scared and lost.

I just moved to a new city and I have no friends so I was going to go just alone and I thought I’d meet some people maybe but idk if it’s wierd to go alone? I’ve never been to a gay club/bar before so I don’t really know what it’s like, if it’s a lot different from other clubs or not. I also look really young like I’m legal but could pass for high school age so idk if that would make it super awkward or something

Honestly this was a shower thought, but I was wondering if gay people flirt with their straight friends, because me and my friend (we're both straight) but we always "flirt" and make very suggestive jokes and I started wondering if gay people do the same?

I’m sure this has been asked before but, I think prefer girth over length. Yea a long dick is nice but I kinda prefer actually getting stretched out. Anyone else on the same team?