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I think life would be significantly better if we all treated it a little more like an open-world RPG and a little less like a series of obligations interrupted by scrolling.

Hi! I'm a queer, genderfluid nerd in the Atlanta area with the general demeanor of an eccentric professor and the impulse control of someone who just discovered an obscure Wikipedia rabbit hole.

My interests include writing, cooking, fashion, music, tarot, political rabbit holes, religious history, and collecting oddly specific pieces of knowledge that will eventually become relevant in a conversation nobody expected to have. I'm getting into journalism, exploring new creative projects, and generally trying to make life a little more interesting.

My ideal afternoon could involve exploring a weird corner of the internet, wandering around Atlanta looking for something interesting, getting coffee and accidentally having a philosophical discussion, or dressing like a Victorian dandy who got lost on the way to a contemporary art gallery.

What am I looking for? Friends, romance, a queerplatonic relationship (QPR), or some unexpected combination of the above. I'm open to seeing what kind of connection develops rather than trying to force every human interaction into a predetermined box. I care more about compatibility, affection, communication, and enjoying each other's company than following a conventional relationship script.

A little about me:

I'm queer and genderfluid, and my fashion philosophy is somewhere between Southern belle, art professor, and gender is a suggestion.

I love conversations that take unexpected turns. We can start with a movie and end up discussing whether civilization was a mistake.

I'm interested in politics, culture, food, philosophy, religion, and the strange ways people construct meaning out of being alive.

I want more adventures, more creative projects, more spontaneous plans, and more stories worth telling afterward.

I'm a sucker for people who are kind, a little weird, intellectually curious, and comfortable being unapologetically themselves.

I'm especially interested in meeting fellow queer people, creative types, curious nerds, and anyone who has ever become disproportionately excited about an oddly specific subject. Local Atlanta connections would be lovely, but I'm open to online connections, too.

I appreciate people who have strong opinions but remain open to changing their minds, who can be silly without being shallow, and who have at least one interest they could talk about for four hours if given the opportunity.

If any of this sounds like your kind of person, tell me about something you're obsessed with lately, a belief you changed your mind about, or a ridiculous adventure you'd love to have.

Bonus points if your response gives me something more interesting to work with than "hey, what's up?" We have the entire internet at our disposal. Let's use at least 3% of its potential. 🖤

I’m Paige, 23, in the Oregon area. I was diagnosed with autism and add earlier this year, so if you can’t handle that it’s best not to message. While I’m not intellectually or verbally impaired, I’m very sensitive to smells and noises, among other issues. Some days all I can do is lay in bed. I’m trying to be better. I’ve also struggled with depression for about 10 years.

I love my kitties and my tortoise. I enjoy digital art, eating a nice bowl of pho, and watching cartoons/anime. Episode 1000+ of One Piece baby!!

I live in the Milwaukie area, and ideally I’d like to move in with someone. I’ll probably be in my first studio by summertime, at least that’s the plan. I don’t plan on leaving Oregon any time, since my whole family lives here. Right now I live with my sister and her bf.

I’m looking for someone mellow like me, who enjoys a cozy night in. I like to think of myself as gray aroace, though I don’t have much dating experience I just know that some things make me uncomfortable.

I’d love to see a selfie of you if you’re interested, I like to know who I’m talking to. My age range is around 20-27. This is kind of my last hope. Thanks for reading!

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I suppose I ought to begin with the conventional introductions, though I have never been particularly good at them, but, well, in the spirit of getting the boring stuff out of the way right away (cue: me), I am a writer, poet, academic, lecturer, scholar, scientist (physicist, to be more precise), and AI engineer/scientist (I am, if I may add, absolutely terrible at more than half my jobs). I’ve spent most of my life in Europe, and am probably the coolest and funniest person you have met today, unless you’ve seen a raccoon doing yoga, in which case, fair enough, I simply can’t compete with that level of comedy.

The truth is that I have always found introducing myself rather difficult, there is something strangely artificial about trying to reduce a person to a paragraph, as though we were all tidy little collections of interests, accomplishments, preferences, and carefully selected adjectives.

I am, I fear, a rather poor exhibitor of myself, the moment I am asked to explain who I am, something in me seems to retreat into a corner and refuse to cooperate. I have thought about this far too many times, and after twenty-two years of living, I remain quite confidently the worst person I know at introducing myself. It is a curious deficiency, I can talk for hours about some obscure historical event nobody asked about, become unnecessarily invested in the moral character of a long-dead philosopher, or spend an afternoon following some completely accidental question down a rabbit hole from which there is no respectable return, but ask me to describe myself and suddenly I am reduced to, "Well... I like things." Marcus Aurelius wrote that "very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking." I believe him more on good days than bad ones, but I keep the sentence nearby regardless.

I like small walks, I like learning something new quite by accident, especially when I have no business knowing it and consequently become far too pleased with myself for having discovered it, I like talking to people, though I think I like the moment when talking quietly turns into listening even more. There is something rather lovely about reaching that point in a conversation where neither person seems particularly concerned with keeping it going, and yet somehow neither wishes to leave it either.

I am very fond of my own company, which is perhaps fortunate, because I have had rather a lot of it. Solitude has its pleasures, one may disappear into one's thoughts without having to explain where one has gone, and occasionally return with something resembling an answer. I like sitting quietly with myself, reading, thinking, wandering about, doing very little, and somehow considering it a productive use of an afternoon, but I am not entirely made for solitude either, there is an equal and opposite part of me that wants to go beyond the familiar, to see what is waiting just beyond the little borders I have drawn around my life. I

I love evenings especially, sometimes I step outside simply because the sun is going down, and I feel that one ought to have the decency to witness it. I love those ridiculous skies where orange begins bleeding into purple and everything looks briefly more beautiful than it has any right to be. I love the first sip of tea in the morning, the sound of leaves moving in the wind, the gradual dimming of a day into dusk. I like gardens and parks, and the rather miraculous fact that one can walk among trees for an hour and come back feeling as though something inside one's head has been quietly rearranged.

I have always loved letters, too, though it has been some time since I last properly gave myself over to writing them. When I was younger, I wrote to my grandmother every day and dutifully posted the letters on my way to school. That I very rarely remembered the correct address, and even more rarely remembered a stamp, is beside the point.

I suppose what I am really trying to say is that, if you happen to be reading this, I would like to know you. Not because I have some elaborate checklist of the sort of person I hope to find, nor because I particularly care whether you happen to be interesting in the conventional sense, I am far more interested in the person underneath all that. The odd little habits, the things you know for no good reason, the memories you have never found a suitable occasion to tell anyone, the opinions you defend with considerably more conviction than they deserve.

There is something rather wonderful about writing to someone you do not know, I don't know your name, I don't know what you ate today, whether you slept properly last night, what song has been stuck in your head, or whether your day has been glorious or thoroughly dreadful, perhaps your inbox has been multiplying like gremlins left too near water, perhaps you have spent the afternoon pretending to work while accomplishing absolutely nothing of consequence, perhaps you have had one of those quiet days where the refrigerator becomes strangely prominent because you have nothing else to listen to.

I think people who stop to read messages from complete strangers are probably a little strange themselves, and I mean that as the highest compliment. Perhaps you are a birdwatcher, perhaps you collect old books, perhaps you are one of those suspiciously competent people who can fold a fitted sheet without entering into a minor spiritual crisis. If so, I already admire you, I have attempted it, and remain convinced the thing was designed by someone with a personal grievance against humanity.

Perhaps you laugh too loudly, perhaps you think too much, perhaps you are quiet and observant, and notice things everyone else walks past, perhaps you have passionately held opinions about breakfast foods. Cookies count, incidentally, I will defend this position before any reasonable tribunal.

As for me, I am kind, curious, occasionally ridiculous, easily distracted by an interesting thought, and rather fond of people who have something peculiar about them. I am probably not nearly as funny as I have just suggested, but I am willing to make the attempt, which ought to count for something.

Anyway, I shall spare you the remaining 96 pages of my unsolicited autobiography for now. If this sounds like your sort of nonsense, do come and say hello, I’d genuinely love to hear from you!

P.S. Also, the little furry creature is called Oren, and he sends his warmest regards! :)

I’ve known I was asexual for quite a while now, but honestly, it can be pretty hard to find people who are accepting of that. Whether it’s on dating apps or IRL, people tend to be pretty surprised when I tell them. So I came across this sub and figured I’d give it a shot and see if I could meet some like-minded people! :)

Hey, I’m Duarte! I’m 19 and 5'6". I’m really into music, writing, soccer (lol), Formula 1, and just meeting new people, learning about different cultures, and making genuine connections.

I’m currently studying biology in college while working night shifts, so my schedule can be a little hectic sometimes. I love cozy games like Stardew Valley and Animal Crossing, but I also play Overwatch as a support main because, y’know, gotta keep things balanced lmao.

I’m also a pretty good cook, if I do say so myself! I’m especially good at making desserts and drinks, but I can hold my own at a BBQ, too. I’d love to share recipes and maybe even cook together sometime!

I speak Portuguese and English, and I’m hoping to learn Mandarin because I find Chinese culture really fascinating.

If any of this resonates with you and you think we’d get along, feel free to shoot me a DM or leave a comment! I’d love to get to know you! :)