Sry if I sound like a chud here but I haven't talked to a girl for like 5-6 mins in like 2 yrs.

I have recently joined clg and have been assigned to a group presentation with a girl group (I am the only boy in the group) but

Unfamiliar people + girls ------> MORE stutter

The girls have no idea that I stutter 💔 because I control it really well in class while talking to my friends.. Also this is my first presentation in clg so my anxiety is really worse. I am having nightmares and sleeping issues 😭 just thinking abt it

My mother is absolutely idiotic. She thinks that when I was 7 I used to stutter on purpose and that’s why I stutter till this day. She never took me to a speech therapist and completely neglected my speech problems. She is convinced that it is my fault until now (I am 21F).

It just feels so damn stupid because it takes 2 minutes of searching on google that it is a complex neurological speech disorder and it can’t happen like she is convinced. It feels completely ignorant that for years she couldn’t even educate herself about this problem. It makes me feel so isolated. It is already difficult to live with and now people who are supposed to be the closest to me are basically making it out to be my fault. I don’t even know anyone personally who stutters and I always feel like everyone is judging me :(

I’m 24 and just moved to Logan square and need some friends! I moved with my boyfriend from utah. Im having a hard time putting myslef out there in regards to my speech! If you’re close to the area and wanna meet up lmk :)

Hi. I've had speech therapy in the past and I believe a big portion of my stutter is mechanical and rooted in anxiety. I also have a nasally voice and chronic nasal congestion.

I was practicing a speech and held the tip of my nose up and not only could I breathe much more clearly, but I could pronounce words more clearly, the physical sensation of my nose vibrating when I spoke reduced (thus a less nasally speech), and my stuttering disorder reduced (not significantly, but I felt more in control of my speech due to the above). I have a slight plunging nasal tip (tip of nose has a lower angle drop than average), so I plan to talk with my doctor and get more information on if this is a real possibility.

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I don't want to get anyone's hopes up or have them obsess over if this will "cure" them, just thought it was interesting. I do think it'd be useful to list two things that I've done years ago in speech therapy that have helped me:

1. Over-articulation.

I spend a couple minutes throughout the day speaking slowly and out loud when I read or write something, making sure to enunciate each syllable and really feel it in my mouth, tongue, and facial muscles. This has helped me with mumbling, clarity, and conscious motor habits. It's important to not do it all the time and give your face a lot of rest. I just read a random article in the morning and practice as soon as I wake up.

1. Exposure therapy.

Anxiety overloads the brain and makes stuttering more prominent. If you have chronic anxiety like me, you NEED go outside and make yourself feel uncomfortable.

Before I practice, I write down what I expect my brain to think and do, then I do the practice, then stay in the moment and observe how people actually react. Afterwards I right down what actually happened

First, I'd start very easy to get a good base line: Greet a minimum of 3 strangers while walking. Once I've felt like it was too easy, I'd ramp it up: Have a short back-and-forth with a minimum of 2 strangers on my way to work. Once I tried it on the bus with someone who did not want to talk to me. I accepted how awkward I felt, then took a step back and analyzed how it's not a big deal, then I turned to someone else and chatted with them. Not the end of the world. Each step had to make me feel the slightly bit of discomfort at the very least.

The most uncomfortable one for me was when I intentionally made myself trip and fall (SAFE AND CONTROLLED FALL!) in a public area. Even tossed my keys. I got up, stood there, and observed how people reacted. I didn't try to walk away from the environment, just let myself feel that awkwardness. Most people didn't notice, a few looked then kept walking, and one person helped me get my keys. I gave my brain evidence that it's not the end of the world, and continued on. I showed my amygdala (emotional response center of the brain) that things happen, and it's okay that it does.

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These aren't fool-proof. Again, they won't "cure" anything. But if you're like me it may help. It may not help everyone reduce their stuttering, but it may help with other areas in your life!

I'm curious how many people use this technique? during a block, take a big breath of air and say the word as you exhale. like speaking during a giant sigh. for me, it's basically foolproof, it's impossible to block or stutter when you say it like this. the downside is that it still sounds different, it sounds like you are annoyed but it beats blocking for 2 minutes.

i discovered this several years ago and it basically changed my life, not having to worry about really long blocks. i've always been curious if it would work as well for everyone as it does for me.

i got the idea from watching a video about the "costal breathing technique" which is basically where you say *everything* as you exhale. you don't stutter but you sound like you have some other speech issue. maybe eventually it trains fluency, idk. i didn't like the idea of using it all the time but i realized you can just use it for getting past blocks.

My son is 5 years old and in kindergarten. We started noticing a stutter late last year, usually only when he was very excited. At first, if I got him to take a breath and slow down he could get his words out and was fine. I mentioned speech therapy to my wife, not to make excuses but life's been hectic and it just didn't happen. Since he's been in school I've noticed the stutter is getting worse. He gets hung up on his first word and sometimes really struggles to get it out. What worked early on doesn't seem to help anymore. He's more receptive to his mother, he gets very angry and upset with me. He is going to be working with the speech therapist at school, but it's going to take up to 60 days after his initial evaluation to begin. She is going to work with him about 10 minutes a day until then.

I'm just at a loss on what we can do at home. He comes home in a bad mood and doesn't want to talk. I ask him if he had a good day at school and he tells me to stop asking questions. A couple of the tips the speech therapist gave us at his parent/teacher conference don't seem to help, especially with me.

I think I mostly needed to vent, but any advice would be much appreciated. I know you can't necessarily "fix" a stutter, I just hate seeing him struggle and having such a hard time and I feel helpless.

I have the same exact problem to the milimeter, including the overbite one