I have been an assistant coach for the last two seasons with our (now 12U) team, I have been around baseball and softball for over 25 years.
When I first joined, the H.C, mentioned to me that his daughter only pitched 2 innings all year. I've heard of daddy ball before but didnt think it would be this bad. We are playing rec ball and it should be about developing all of the girls, the problem is, is that she can't hit the broad side of a barn. I used to pitch fast pitch softball and have some knowledge, but he will not take my advice. Complete walk fest and he refuses to pull her and has her throwing a change and fastball. Her release fluctuates and she then over corrects and chaos ensues. I've mentioned to him that she just needs to work on her mechanics first then start introducing different pitches, he disagrees. He also places her in the 3 spot in the lineup and will not move her from that spot. She hasn't had one hit all season (6 games played, has struck out 5 times) and we have girls who get on base more and score more runs. Again, refuses to move her.
This year introduced a new wrinkle, he decided to draft a catcher. Her parents mentioned that they left the league they were previously in because she didn't get the "Starting" time they felt she deserved. They also decided to sponsor the team this year (in my experience has never worked out well). H.C. and our other assistant kiss the parents ass and develop her skills as a catcher and teaming her with the H.C. daughter/pitcher.
Now, this is where my issue comes into play. My daughter played her first season last year of softball (played baseball previous 3 seasons). She wanted to play third base and H.C said that we have a 3rd basemen and decided he wanted her to play catcher. The issue with that is that he threw her in the last 2 innings of the last game. Very raw and I was a 1st basemen so I don't know the first thing about the mechanics of being a catcher. So in the off-season, I got my daughter someone to teach her how to play catcher. She has incredible speed and can catch the ball but when the ball gets is in the dirt she is unsure on blocking and hesitates. But was making progress.
Now, the H.C and assistant will not play her and I'm not sure what I should do at this point. Make it our last season or continue to stick it out. I've talked with both of them and it's blowing smoke back to me. But when it comes to their kids, they make sure to start every inning and bat in prime spots.