the step father of my brother who was my dad’s friend would come over and sleep with (my dads) wife while my dad was at work. He was 19 when he broke up a family. The wife ultimately left my dad for him and took all 3 kids. My dad was shot but couldn’t do anything. The reports of abuse my siblings have described over the years are horrific all while they’ve (wife and 19 year old boy) been lying to judges in family court to demean my dad and get away with the abuse. It worked. However the very same judge in question not only sided with the mother and did demean my dad but also caught sexual assault charges himself. So there’s that. My dad’s character has been stomped on time and time again for the last 16 years. He’s not the same person anymore. I always say that they took my dad away. My siblings may have been too young to see who he was before the divorce but I wasn’t. I was 10. I remember how hard he worked I remember how happy he was. I remember how protective he was of his family. I remember how much of an amazing dad he was. They took that all away by telling the courts he was the abusive one, he was the liar, and that he doesn’t care about the kids. Imagine what they tell the kids. I cannot fathom the evilness. But when the kids would come over to visit dad you didn’t wanna talk bad about their mother. That’s their mother. It’s been really difficult. One of the 3 kids, my sister, decided to stop coming over for visits when she was 9. My dad hasn’t seen her in 9 years. I haven’t seen my sister in 9 years.

I know the abuse that happened over there is real because the mother was abusive with me when I was growing up with one example being that she duct taped my arms to the sides of my body and sent me down a flight of basement stairs to continue playing with my friends while my dad was at work. I was never allowed to look up at the sky while I was thinking during homework time. “Only look down at the paper” do you know how hard that is for a kid with ADHD? When I was 16 I found out that she had told my younger siblings that I had an abortion?? I never got pregnant that young (she did though). I was never held by my neck up against a wall though.. like I said the abuse reports by the kids over there was horrific. But they had tarnished my dad’s reputation in court so bad somehow that they judge never believed anything. CPS did nothing. I think the kids had always been afraid to tell what happened. They insisted to my dad it did happen and the marks on their bodies confirmed. All of this broke my dad even more. He felt so helpless.

Right now my brother is in the hospital dealing with some very serious life altering injuries from a devastating tragedy in Wainwright. First I want to acknowledge the families impacted by this tragic event especially the 4 who have lost their family member. I am so sorry this has happened.

the mother and this step dad have managed to create an e-transfer email to accept donations from people. The posts everywhere are claiming my brother is the stepdads son and it’s just a slap in the face. “Pray for the P family” my brother isn’t even apart of that family!? That’s not his family. Also, the military is paying for EVERYTHING. A place to sleep, food to eat, travel expenses to get to and from Edmonton. Therapy. I can confidently say I do not think that money will be used in the most honest way. They’re horrible people. All of them. They are pathological liars. It’s so hard to see these posts and not say anything because I don’t want my brother waking up and feeling embarrassed for the fighting so I’m doing this as anonymous as I can. I just wanna vent. I wanna scream from the rooftops how horrible they are but I can’t. I care more about my siblings than their karma.

i mean most cases are real parental alienation but a good portion of when parents claim parenta alienation are just what i talked about in the title.

i know im gonna get downvoted but as a kid who experince the exact situation of parents being mean and crazy and being junkies and had them blame me hating them on the other parent influincing me so its a thing that happens.

Even Social security identity theft wasn't enough to get her even one day in Jail.

I suspect many of us were completely unequipped to deal with the dynamics of alienation and many of us made choices that made the whole situation worse. And I suspect many of us began forming our own “me all good, ex all bad” narratives bc we didn’t know how to defend ourselves.

What’s your story? Truly curious.

This is long....and needs some context.

I (38F) have a 14 year old daughter who I have had sole physical custody of since her birth.

Her father and I's relationship was on the rocks at the time of her birth, and he was also in jail at that time. He was present in her life on a minimal basis for the first year. Then we got back together. Then he cheated on me lots of times, even had two children with another woman while with me.

We split up for the last time in Aug 2015. I took the kids (I also have an 18 year old daughter), and left.

After we split up, he had one of the woman he was messing around with move into the house almost immediately. This was tough for me, but I maintained civility with him AND HER so he could continue to develop a relationship with his daughter. He was also very close with and basically raised my other child while we were together.

He was consistent with this for about 4 years. He and this woman had two children together, and both of my daughters spent consistent time with all of them.

Then he went to prison. For a 7 year term. He was just released in June of this year.

During the time he was incarcerated, his gf and I maintained contact for the kids. Of course all of the siblings were close and her and I wanted to maintain that relationship for them while Dad was away. This worked pretty ok for the entire 7 years. I did all of the driving, but we were able to make it work for the kids. It took a lot, and I had to swallow a lot. But I knew it would be beneficial for my child.

About two years ago, her and I got into a pretty intense argument. My older child (not his) was able to come across some information on an old computer of his, information that lead her to the truth of the cheating and the real dissolution of the relationship. Up until this point, I never told my kids why we split other then we just weren't happy together anymore. I never talked about their Dad cheating on me with this woman who they spent time with frequently. This was pretty upsetting to her, and she had a lot of big feelings about it. Things were tense between this woman and I due to this, and the civility dissolved from there, from both of us.

Now that he's out, our daughter has of course been spending a lot of time with her dad and that side of her family. But I have also been noticing some big behavioral changes in her. She's 14, so she's definitely moody. But she has been really disrespectful to me and her sister, she walks around like she hates being at my house, and has told me as much.

I also recently found out that she calls her stepmother "Mom". This hit me like a knife to the chest.

Maybe I am being unreasonable about that. I am happy that she has a good relationship with this woman and her father. I am glad that he is making an effort. But I am certain that there are things being said to her at his house that could be effecting her attitude at my house. Some sort of parental alienation.

We do not have any sort of court ordered custody set up, because neither one of us can afford lawyers and there really hasn't been a need to. He is 36K behind in child support and there have been efforts made by the court to begin collecting on that, and this has greatly upset his wife, and him.

I want to make sure I don't lose my connection with my daughter in all of this. I have always struggled with communication, and I do have some struggles with mental health.

I try to talk to her about these things but she usually shuts down immediately.

This was a ramble. I love her to my core, she's my baby. I know I need to share her. But it's just been her and her sister and I for all these years, and I don't want to lose her amidst all this change.

Co-parent refuses to enforce custody with our 14 year old autistic son. Claims son should dictate and drive the decision of where he lives. Thinking we need a mediator.

Parental alienation is a heartbreaking experience that can leave a parent feeling helpless, betrayed, and emotionally broken. The healing process comes in waves: shock, denial, anger, grief, and eventually acceptance. Some days, you feel strong; other days, the pain is overwhelming.

I refused to give up on my children. I documented evidence of abuse, neglect, and parental alienation, preserving records and presenting the relevant evidence through the legal process. That documentation became part of my court case, and I was ultimately awarded custody of my children. ❤️‍🩹

My journey taught me that sometimes you have to let the evidence speak when your words aren't enough. To every parent going through this, stay strong, document the facts, seek proper support, and keep your children's well-being at the center of everything.

Never underestimate the power of truth, patience, and a parent's love. Your healing matters, too. 🙏💔

Hello everyone,

I am a father of two teenage boys (16 and 13), and I am currently living through what feels like the loneliest trial of my life. My wife and I are going through a severe marital breakdown following a spoken divorce statement, but due to financial constraints, we are all still living under the same roof.

Over the last few weeks, the parental alienation has become incredibly calculated and intense. When I am away at work, my wife spends hours convincing the boys of my past mistakes. It has reached a point where my sons have entered a rigid "silent mode" against me. They avoid eye contact, speak only in one-word answers, and sometimes purposely rush their dinner to avoid sitting at the table with me.

Just this week, I made breakfast for my 16-year-old before driving him to his school exam, only to find out later that he had thrown the bread in the bin and poured the tea down the sink to avoid facing his mother's anger for accepting my care. The loyalty conflict they are facing is breaking my heart. They are good boys, but they are using total silence as a shield to survive the pressure at home.

I am reaching out here because I have absolutely no support network, friends, or family to talk to in real life. Walking back into my own house feels like stepping onto a psychological battlefield, and the isolation is becoming too heavy to carry alone. I am doing my best to remain calm, patient, and consistent for my boys, but I really need to connect with other fathers who understand this pain.

How do you survive the silence under the same roof without losing hope?

Thank you for listening.

She has now, not only come back in secret. But while dropping our kids off at my sister's so I could go to work. She took the spare key, went into her house without invitation. And took our kids. After 6 days of dissapearing. And won't answer me. STILL. there's no court order. We're not married. So, I may not see my kids again. Why? You obviously don't care or you wouldn't have abandon them. Is it to hurt me? Cause you knew it would. Why. Why. Why. Why. Why

Has anyone ever had their ex husband AND mother (MY mother not his) alienate them from their children? I’m so completely broken and lost I feel so alone in this. I don’t know where to turn I’m exhausted.

My ex is the definition of a true narcissist. His whole goal is to hurt me through my kids or insult me directly and threaten legal action. Thanksgiving has always been a conflict holiday, we’re supposed to trade off every other year. This year happens to be mine. My boys have the week off from school and I usually take the week off so we can spend time together. I recently found out through my kids that HCex has bought tickets for then to travel out of state for Thanksgiving for the entire week of the holiday. In addition to my day being thanksgiving day, my regular parenting time is the 2 days prior. So he’s taking 3 days without notifying me. The kids have asked me not to escalate because they would get in trouble for telling me. I am beside myself. What can I do? Even if I file something with the court system (Colorado), he has to violate the plan to even start something. And what can they do? Make him trade me time? Go to mediation? Big whooop. It’s a slap on the wrist and I think he knows it. Furthermore, I know this is just a taste of what’s to come. My kids are aging out of the parenting plan, the youngest will be 18 this summer. I know when that happens all of a sudden he’ll have plans for them for ALL the holidays with his goal to alienate them from me. I know in my gut that’s where we’re headed.

I don’t know if there is really a solution, yes ky kids want to travel for Thanksgiving. It’s a family member they really like. Then I’m the a-hole if I make a big fuss about this. But I’m just tired of always being the one to compromise and give in to what he wants. Yes, it’s for the peace of the kids, but he’s getting more and more obnoxious and bullying. I don’t know what to do. I’ll likely let them go anyway. Everything I do is for their well-being. Thanks for listening to me vent.

Child custody case was through family and children services but mother in law got permanent guardianship trying to find out what to do and how to do it to get my babies back still have all my rights judge order I can have visitation with my children at garudians discretion well she got mad because I got a car and decided I could not see them or talk to them now she’s says till there 18 any advice on what I should do about this I haven’t seen or talk to them in almost 6 months and I’m going crazy not seeing them

Someone had a post with this picture. It 100% describes my situation inc the teddy and toys on the floor. At early days of separation the kid moved over half of her room into my room and started hiding in it from the mother. Mother kept nagging her until the kid felt suicidal and then eventually she broke and got alienated. She started sleeping full time with mother and started assaulting me just to appease the mother.

Such a messed up situation…