So I matched with this guy on Okcupid. He matched first by sending an intro replying to one of my prompts. Conversations were good, nothing indicating he was AI, bot, or scammer, mentioning things that were local and included things he likes to do, a little bit of his work, traveling, places we’ve been too, and asked me questions about myself. We consistently talked everyday for about 5 days before he suggested moving off the app and message through WhatsApp, though he gave me the option to stay on the app. Before we moved off the app, he asked me out on a date, setting the date, time, and place (which was pretty local and a middle point from our location). Then today, the day of our date, we were messaging all day morning since 5 am and without warning 2 hours before our date, he cancelled and text this long message stating, in short, that he hasn’t dated in while, father passed recently, stating he’s been putting too much pressure on himself, etc. I see unmatched me, removed his contacts photo on WhatsApp and possibly blocking me after messaging. Was this a scammer or a guy with cold feet. I am disappointed and sad. What do you think?

I created an account on OkCupid and matched it with a girl from the Philippines. We initially started talking on OkCupid. She told me that she is looking for a relationship, just like I am, but she also said that she is not in a hurry and believes that if something is meant to happen and we both feel the same way, it should happen naturally.

She also mentioned several times that there are a lot of perverted people on dating apps, so she seems to be cautious about who she talks to.

Today, she told me that she might delete her OkCupid account soon and asked if we could continue talking on WhatsApp instead.

What should I do in this situation? Does this seem genuine, or should I be careful?

I was recently scammed by a website claiming to be OK Cupid. I don’t think the perpetrator was actually them just someone pretending to be them. Here is how it works. They have a stable of women you can date only after you get a “dating card”. To unlock the card you must send them crypto that they will refund (first sign). They ask you to do it three times. The first two are moderate, the last is exorbitant. The telegram account used was Freya Vance - certification manager. Do not be fooled like I was never provide crypto if asked. The “lady” I was texting handle was Lisa but far less details about her.

I made an account, completed my profile, began answering some of the optional questions, then sat my phone down. When I went to get back into the app just a few minutes later, I was booted out.

Customer support said my account was banned. I appealed and they said they can confirm I violated their conditions. I've read everything on their website. I've not done anything that is on their list. I didn't even talk to anybody. There was nothing sexual on my profile. I'm definitely over 18. I didn't have anything inappropriate in my bio.

This doesn't seem very fair. I liked OkCupid when researching apps because of all the in depth personality questions, including political leanings etc, because that sort of thing is important to me.

Is there anything else I can do? Any other apps that are similarly in depth?

hello, i'm not racist or anything i love all humans, i downloaded the app today, i'm a white man by the way. I got 10 messages from black women mostly from Kenya, Ouganda and got some from Haiti and i got 1 like from an asian woman. Are black women this obsessed with white men or is there something? i have no problem dating black women but i noticed it's all from south african countries and i'm from Tunisia.

hi, suddenly I started to experience a bug, most of the people who I like don’t appear on the “likes sent” tab, even when I sent them an intro. sometimes they appear and sometimes( most of time times no)

i wanted to ask if its just a glitch in the app and the likes are still being sent even that I don’t see them in the your likes tab, did it happen to someone and later they matched with someone that way?

thabks

From searching, this has been an issue going back at least 6 years, but there seems to be no definitive solution. Today I tried to log in with my phone number (which was previously authorized with them), but got an error message "that number is invalid or we can't find the account". So I tried to log in with my email and password, which got accepted... up until it wanted to send a verification code to that same phone number they claim does not exist or is invalid. I try anyway, but that verification code never gets delivered. I submitted a ticket to their legendary customer support, but has anyone successfully gotten customer service to resolve this error code associated with their phone number?

Last year when I used Passport, I had unlimited Likes to give. Now it is limited. I could not find an update that mentions this change. Is it a new change? Or was I maybe just bugged out last year when I got unlimited Likes?

I am trying to log in to my account using my phone number.

During login, I receive Error Code 5 ("Number is invalid or account not found"). When I try to verify my phone number via SMS, I receive the verification code, but the system rejects it as incorrect.

After that, I changed my password and received an email confirming that the password was changed successfully. However, when I tried to log in again, the system asked me for another verification code. It said the code had been sent, but I never received it on my phone. I tried requesting a code 5–6 times, but nothing arrived.

I have already cleared the app cache, reinstalled the app, and reset my password, but the issue persists.

I have contacted support, but I haven't received a response yet.

An AI suggested that requesting the verification code too many times may have temporarily blocked my phone number and recommended waiting 24 hours before trying to log in again.

Please help me regain access to my account.

Thank you.

I'm in a situation where i need a vpn, and my location and these idiots banned me permenantly after years. The platform used to be good, now its crap. I appealed and customer service rude and uncompromising. Whats your problem there?

I received a lovely intro from a woman, and I think I deleted it. I keep clicking on her name in my email, but it's no longer taking me to the intro.

Someone explain to me if my feeling is right or not. I feel like there are a lot of scammers on okcupid. just reading multiple profile summaries, a lot of them sound so similar, as if they were all done by the same ai chatbot. a lot of times i get a match then the "girl" somehow doesn't have instagram, wants only to talk through whatsapp or telegram. & they never reply there.
I just wanna know if these are scammers, then what are they benefitting from once they have other people's phone numbers

I'm trying to cancel my description, and I checked the Okcupid help article (https://okcupid-app.zendesk.com/hc/en-us/articles/22977442983707-How-to-Cancel-and-Unsubscribe) which says to go to the subscription settings page, but I followed their link and it looks nothing like the pictures they have, and neither the main settings page nor the subscriptions tab have an option to cancel. Does anyone know if there's a way to cancel now?

I guess I'm just going to call my bank and dispute the charges, if they literally don't give you a way to cancel now.

I kept getting general error 429 and my account got logged out all of the sudden. Am i banned? I didnt do anything wrong

I’m a demisexual woman and orthodox Christian and it’s half impossible to find a boyfriend nowadays. Why does it have to be always about sex? I’ve never understood people who made sex something casual, it’s supposed to be a thing between two people who love and trust each other. Men who say something sexual as the first thing when they speak to me genuinely give me the ick. Get a hobby, get a job, even better get a life.

Literally just matched with someone and she seems interested since she provided her phone number to me. In my head I'm like ok cool, she must be really interested if she's sharing her number. So I start texting her and giving my whole day on what I did nothing major just casual stuff but I put in the damn effort to write something up and all I get is "hope you enjoy it" or "not really". So dry and cold. Doesn't even answer my initial text question of the basic how's your night going? Has the cup runneth empty on most women these days to spend the few seconds it takes to write more than 3 words? Do women realize how cold and detached it sounds when no effort is put in a text? Or do some people just suck this badly at texting? Like damn.

I’ve been curious about that, I’m new here and I’ve realize that most people have random pics as a profile picture, my question is why? What are you hiding or what the reason behind it? Just curious, you all are free to text me and talk to me about anything interesting.

I use the OKC app on my phone and sometimes I notice that I receive a new intro and it shows the number 1 of new intros but it doesnt show me their profile in the intros page.
So I logged into my account on PC and the new intro was visible there.
If you ever have a number of new intros but they are not showing, then log in to your account with PC to see them. Not sure why they get stuck since my distance is set at worldwide.

I (F) tried this app on a paid subscription (friendly platonic dates) so I don’t have to spend too much time on the stack and just filter out the one’s who like me.

99% are foreigners who changed their profile to Manila Philippines. Im not looking for a penpal nor want to meet with anyone who are just going to stay in my country for few months. I tried checking the stack and still all are foreigners.

I edited my profile on my preference and explicitly state that i will connect with someone local or someone who’s actually in Metro Manila on a long term. I still getting likes from Foreigners like they never bothered reading my profile

I don’t think Okc is popular dating app in my country and might switch to Bumble instead.

Edit: The 2 locals who swiped right are from far provinces(Cebu, Pampanga) and not in Manila.

Not gonna complain that you can't even use the Passport because it just profiles from Philippines.

BUT WHY ARE YOU CHANGING YOUR LOCATION WITH VPN TO MINE! We have a Passport for that same reason.

This pisses me off.

We need a country block feature.

And again it is not Thailand or Malaysia it is ALWAYS Philippines...