Please be kind to each other and don't hesitate to ask any questions.

For a backstory, I started college in fall of 2024 right after graduating high school in a typical 4 year program and plummeted from there. I became so depressed, was constantly failing due to no motivation for my pre-vet major (decided i didnt want to pursue full on vet school anymore very soon into freshman year), and even faced academic dismissal before ultimately dropping out in april of this year. i felt so stupid, lost and directionless, and even though i knew that becoming a registered vet tech was the next step i wanted to take beyond this, i faced so much criticism from my family for dropping out and didnt know how i was going to handle more admissions processes with my bad college transcript or the money situation. but now... i have found and enrolled in a program that works for me and just began my classes!!! ive already done several modules and gotten 100s on all of them. I know this is just the beginning and more challenges are to come ahead, but i feel so happy and motivated about all of this and it finally feels right for me/like I'm able to work toward the next steps of my life. just wanted to share this happy moment for me <33

Hey Mom
Wanted to let you know my boyfriend and I decided to get married today. He knows how important safety is for me esp because I have a disability and no other family.
We’re making it legal and then waiting to shop for a ring and celebrate when everything isn’t so heavy.
I don’t have many people to tell. Thanks for listening.

All my life, I've tried to prove my worth by working hard, trying to do everything perfectly, through achievements and awards. In addition to this, I spent a good deal of my life not knowing I was autistic and was only diagnosed a few years ago. I've had to mask so much, and it's incredibly taxing.

Well, now I'm nearing graduation from uni and it's all crumbling. For a few months already, I've been dealing with autistic burnout and it's only getting worse. Daily shutdowns, can't do chores, can't remember things, can't make decisions. Can't see friends, can't go to campus, can't do anything I want to or need to because I'm constantly overloaded.

The worst thing is, I never had anyone in my life who understood my autistic symptoms, growing up. I was always told to suck it up, quit complaining, and stop making things up. I just want someone to comfort me. I'm doing my best, I really am. I just always feel like no matter what I do, even back when I was doing "objectively well", I'm never enough.

Luckily I have friends, a boyfriend, and a brother who all support me, but I could use a mom's support.

Flair says support needed but advice is also welcome.

hii!
i just recently moved into my apartment and due to it being pretty small i had to get a combined washer and dryer!
it works pretty well and everything comes out smooth, dry and wrinkle free!

how do i achieve the same with my jeans?
there is no other option to dry them :(
i dont have an iron because there is no space to store it!

Hi Moms, I think I just need a virtual hug. I won't get too into the weeds here but we have had quite the journey to sell our home over the past year and were supposed to close on our new home in a new city today.

We weren't able to close due to the most ridiculous calamity of events where everything that could go wrong has gone wrong during this process. I'm feeling so down and sad and just want to close on own new home to start our new life. I feel like this is the right house and choice but jeez this isn't supposed to be this hard. I was so nervous to finally get "a nice house" and questioning if I deserved it so having all everything going wrong makes it feel like I don't deserve something nice.

I've lost so much confidence in making choices. I am someone who also learned you need to be perfect to even try so having all of our ducks in a row and continuing to work through this bonkers situation is exhausting and is making me question myself. I am just wanting everything to be okay. Thank you ❤️

Hi mom,

I went to the cinema today for the first time all by myself. Saw a really nice movie (sense and sensibility) and enjoyed myself so much! I felt like myself again for a few hours. Life is sometimes struggling but I feel so proud I did this!

i'm 27 and this is my first time in college and living on my own, i was super super nervous! but i passed my midterms with A's and 1 B! :D

Hi moms!! I’m 16f and my whole life I’ve been SO scared of driving!! I’d even get scared just being in cars while my parents drove lol. I wanted nothing to do with driving, until my best friend started and i realized I really wanted to overcome my fear. I passed my permit test first try in may, then took driving lessons and have been driving a lot with my parents. I’m not even scared to drive anymore. I love driving, and feel so happy when I drive because 10 months ago I was so scared I didn’t even want to think about it.

Now..the anxiety is back! Although I feel comfortable driving with my parents, I still have to take my real license test. I’m super scared of tests in general, especially the idea of being evaluated/judged. The driving test is 20 minutes of being judged by someone right next to you! It’s terrifying to me! I wanted to just put off taking the test and just use my permit, but in a random burst of confidence I scheduled my driving test for November 17th.

I feel confident in my driving, but not confident in my test taking abilities. I’m going to be so scared the entire time, and be completely devastated if I fail (even though I know it’s not a big deal and I can take it again, it doesn’t help much) I know I’m going to feel so much better once it’s over, but until then I’m completely terrified and anxious.

I’m not telling anyone in my life that I’m taking my test (besides my parents) because I’m so scared to fail and have to tell everyone I failed, but that means I have no one encouraging me, since no one even knows it’s scheduled :(

Lost quite a few friends I thought were family. Looking back it seems like the trash took itself out more often than not, because they were only fairweather friends and secretly envious. However, I'm a loving person and worked a lot on my own attachment patterns. I don't want to live an isolated life and wish to work with the lessons from my past and create better friendships in future. Quality over quantity as I'm my own best friend now and I don't need many people, just a handful of genuine ones who are actually happy for me would be great. Please share any words of wisdom, encouragement or what you would tell your child.

Thank you Internet Moms 🙏🌸

Hi mom. I've been feeling kind of down lately; I'm working so hard and trying to keep my grades up this year but it's difficult. I joke about it with my friends but it really hurts that I can't do well as easily as they can. I'm really struggling honestly and I really don't want to fall back into my old habits. I wish people understood. I'm trying, I really am. I promise. I hope you get it. Thanks, mom.

I'm so excited. we're going to be moving 4.5 hours from home to make it ourselves and I'm shaking about all this, in the best way possible

I don't know the last time I cleaned under there, if I ever have at all. Out of sight out of mind? I guess?

But:

I used my rake to pull all the trash out! My arms couldn't reach far enough, so I had to get tricky :3

7 big trash bags filled and taken out to the dumpster, and there's no more trashes under the bed :D

Yay!! The trashmonsters have been conquered!

It came out really good, just on the more mild side than I thought! I left it unsalted so I could season while cooking.

My fiance and I bulk bought veggies, spent the day dicing them all up and mixing them together to freeze in gallon freezer bags, and used the scraps to make stock. Now we have what we refer to as The Mix that's easy to add veggies to all of our meals.

When I lived with my parents, I was relying on fast food constantly. I am happy to be able to make homemade meals that are satisfying and nutritious without relying on buying each and every ingredient. Today, I'm going to attempt to make sandwich bread so we don't have to buy loaves (loafs?) from the store anymore. From eating fast food for 2-3 meals a day to making my own food from scratch, what a crazy four years its been!

I got my score back for my LSAT and I got a 180 :D
Before I took the LSAT my parents told me that getting into a top 14 law school wasn't a realistic goal for me so i shouldnt even try because i'll only be disappointed. regardless of what they said ive kept it as my goal and now that ive gotten my LSAT score back and i got the highest possible score it feels like i have a real shot. Currently in the process of writing my applications and wanted to share with a mom that believes in me :)

I know most people learn this when they're kids, but I never did. I've spent my entire adult life being the person who sits on the edge of the pool and says they're perfectly happy just watching.

Six weeks ago I signed up for adult swimming lessons. I almost turned around in the parking lot before the first one.

Today my instructor asked if I wanted to try swimming from one end of the shallow pool to the other without stopping.

I told her I didn't think I could.

She said, "Well, let's find out."

And I DID IT.

I swallowed some water, my technique was probably terrible, and I was so out of breath when I reached the wall that I couldn't even speak.

My instructor started clapping. Then this older gentleman in the next lane started clapping too, which was slightly embarrassing but also made me ridiculously happy.

I sat in my car afterward for about ten minutes because I couldn't stop smiling.

The first thing I wanted to do was call my mom and tell her. We don't really have the kind of relationship where she'd understand why this matters, so I thought maybe I could tell you instead.

I'm 34 years old and I learned something I thought I'd missed my chance to learn.

I even bought myself a little chocolate cake on the way home. It's in the fridge right now.

I think I'm going to put a candle in it.

hi mom(s) 🥰 after 8 grueling years of school while managing my chronic illness, i finally did it! after i got my exam results i felt exhausted yet relieved. but now, hours later i just feel wired and on edge. can’t sleep! excitement maybe?.. with a teeny drop of grief.

my bio family is alive and we have a non-existent relationship since i refused to be the family scapegoat/therapist/emotional toilet anymore. but even though i shouldn’t care it still stings a bit. my celebration strangely feels like a reminder of yet another milestone they’re not present at. i didn’t anticipate feeling this way after such a big accomplishment though im hoping some positive feedback here can help me turn my thoughts around thank you! ☺️

Hi Moms!

After going through so much with my health and dealing with pain, and migraines, I am finally going to step away from my job and take some time off (could be 6 months to a year) to rest, and let my body go through the healing journey. It has been a long time coming, and I am definitely feeling nervous about taking a step back. Could use all the encouragement.

I did it! I found a job and got my first “Your the best!!!” from my hard to please, perfectionistic boss! I’ve been at this job 10 weeks.

Hey mom, I had a job interview today, the commute there was horrid but the people were understanding. I did pretty good in the interview! I was confident, held my back straight and gave a kind smile and held eye contact. I was able to match the energy of the room and was able to reply to all their questions, even the rather rhetorical ones. I am so proud of myself for staying strong and not showing nervousness and I hope you are proud of me too!

never been taught which one..

Hey Moms, it’s been 2 days since I’ve submitted my PhD thesis now. I literally have no one else to share this news with, other than you guys. There’s still a long way left for my degree completion but just wanted to share with you all.
Thanks for all love, strength and support you guys have given me without even knowing. Lots of love and hugs for you all!!!🤗

Edit: Sorry I won’t be able to respond to everyone here but so much grateful and happy to see all your love and congratulations pouring out here. I’m literally in tears after reading the comments because otherwise no one even bothered to check on me. Can’t express it words how much each and every comment means to me ❤️🤗🤗

I don’t have many wins lately, so this small one feels astronomically huge. $863. I know it’s not much, but it wasn’t nothing either. it’s the debt I’ve collected in my first 6 months as a single mother. it’s represents so much to me, the strength and resilience I’ve shown this year, and coming out on the other end of this really big, hard thing.

I turn 26 in two weeks and it feels like things are falling into place, finally 🩷

- M

Today grades were posted and I got an A! Im 50 and first generation college in my family. Started grad school this year while working full time. I've taken large risks in life and career to get where I am. My parents are officially becoming elderly and sharing positive things in life is progressively met with some negative comments. I don't have many (any) ppl i can share anything with.

I got an email from the school that I was elected to Phi Betta Kappa. I can’t believe it. Maintaining these grades and courses while working full time and raising my son has been anything but easy. I’m so close to graduation now and this was just icing on the cake. Work is super proud of me too, and that feels good. I’m doing it, mom. I’m actually doing it. And the little one gets to watch it all unfold. For the first time I feel like I can start to acknowledge my accomplishment