This is one experience of many through my life of women controlling other women under the guise of good intentions.
Many years ago, I was 22 years old and dating this sweet gorgeous blond with green eyes she was a big butt track athlete before the BBL craze of fake butts we see today. She was girly, sweet, kind and had fallen for me.
We were so madly in love, I remember spending hours with her alone together looking at the stars at night and falling asleep with her on top of me.
But things changed, she started telling her girlfriends about me, first it was good but then after a few months she started nitpicking me.
One day it was her birthday and I had to use the restroom bad, I couldn't hold it so I told her I gotta go and sprinted to the restroom mall it was far away, took a piss and ran back to the theater to meet her.
She laughed and said you should have been on the track team. We enjoyed the movie, we had a meal sang happy birthday held her hand walked her to the car dropped her back home.
Next day on Monday, I went back to college and she walks right passed me, didn't even say hi.
She finally came to me only because I called her over after school. I asked her what's wrong she said why didn't you hold my hand at the mall on my birthday? I said what I had to piss bad and couldn't hold it. I held your hand after.
She then tells me her girlfriends told her that if I really loved her I would have held her hand, and that was wrong on her birthday.
A week later she gives me a ultimatum list, she said this is what I want, you visit me at work, we do this and that etc. I thought it was a joke and laughed and said what if I don't do those things? She said than I'll find someone that will.
We dated for a few more months until she finally monkeybranched.
I was crushed, we were so madly in love until she started telling her girlfriends about me. She went to the. For advice and I never met any of them for the 8 months we dated, but they spoke for me. Why would she ask them what I'm thinking instead of asking me?
She cried on the phone when we talked, she said her girlfriend told her I was weak and she deserved better.
They were pairing her with the guy they wanted her to be with. He was boring and had no charisma but she went with him because her girlfriend approved.
3 years Later I run into a mutual female friend of ours, and I told her what happened between us, she said her girlfriend were jealous of us. She said from what she sensed these are frenemies her ugly friend would gas light her and plant seeds of doubt because they were envious of the passion we had. They saw how much she loved me and didn't want her to have it if they couldn't.
Our mutual friend told me after a year, that my ex she missed me bad and her girlfriend told her to stop crying and don't you dare apologize and trying to get with him he will see that and exploit it and that guy is probably with another woman. They were telling her I was no good for her, and guilt tripped her with we were sisters first before he came along.
I was shocked that women seek approval from outside sources. As a man I've never needed the approval of my peers, and my guy friends never tried to break up my relationship.
No wonder that female divorce attorney said the majority divorces are due to girlfriends convincing them to divorce or they deserve better
Do women even realize other women do this? Even in media you see them bitch and moan about age gaps, writing 500 articles a year from various female writers bashing age gaps as predatory but ignoring Madonna and cher.
Why do women like to control everything thing yet never take accountability and claim men are controlling women? I never seen 500 articles by me telling old women not to date young guys, we don't care.