Any ladies in the bham area that looking for a friend hit me up.

Hey, sometimes you marry someone who turns out not to be the right person for you — and you only realize it too late. Now you can’t leave — at least not for a few more years. Life hits hard, and you find yourself trapped. Sounds familiar? Everyone has their own reasons to stay — it could be kids (in my case), shared finances, expat issues like visas, property, and so on.

So, will you let the next five years go by feeling trapped, or will you look for an outlet — a little fun and connection on the side with someone who understands? I’m looking for that person. I don’t expect much from Reddit, but I’d still like to take my shot.

I’m a 40-year-old man — decent looking, self-made, with a good career — stuck in a marriage I can’t get out of. Please be married too; if you have kids, even better. Message me — I’ll share pictures early on.

Thanks.

The week starts again, life spins on, and you slip right back into your roles — partner, mother, professional, peace-keeper, planner. You do it well, maybe too well. You laugh at the right moments, fold the laundry on autopilot, pour coffee like muscle memory… but who pours into you?

Maybe you’ve caught yourself in the mirror and wondered when you stopped being looked at. When touches became routine instead of reverent. When your voice became something he hears, but doesn’t really listen to.
You still have that glow — you just haven’t had anyone reflect it back.

I want to be the person who notices.
The softness beneath your strength.
The way your mood shifts when you feel seen.
How your body responds to attention that actually means something.

I’m a 6'0 slim redhead, thoughtful married dad — grounded, affectionate, *notabot, a little romantic in the quiet ways that count. I’m not chasing chaos or drama; I’m drawn to connection that feels like a warm hand around the heart. The kind of spark that isn’t loud — it’s steady, slow-burning, undeniable.

I want the voice notes you record under the covers when the house is finally still.
The messages that start playful and turn into something neither of us planned.
I want to talk until we forget the world exists — not because life is bad, but because we feel alive.

You don’t need rescuing.
You don’t need rebuilding.
You just deserve to be seen — every curve, every thought, every hidden fire.

Maybe you’ve been waiting for someone to notice you again.
Consider this me noticing.

If you’re craving connection that feels like warmth instead of noise, presence instead of duty — message me. Let’s see what happens when someone finally pays attention.

Hey there! I am a married, 33-year-old guy, looking to find a genuine connection that turns into something meaningful and long-term.

Me: Medium length brown hair, 5'10, green eyes, 170 lbs, muscular body as I've been working out for years, skin is tan now that Ive been spending a lot of time outdoors, I'd say I'm pretty handsome as well.

I consider myself a blend of an adventurer and a bit of a history nerd, and I am really hoping to find a woman who is open to something long term.

Travel is a major passion of mine, and I have been lucky enough to explore 15 countries so far. Being trilingual definitely comes in handy during my adventures, and I am always looking forward to planning the next passport stamp. When I am not exploring a new country, you can usually find me out on the water riding jetskis, or winding down at home getting lost in a history documentary rabbit hole on YouTube.

I am looking for a partner who is looking for that spark we all want. If you enjoy exploring new places, learning about the world, or just want to share your favorite YouTube finds, I would love to hear from you. Slide into my messages and tell me the coolest place you have ever traveled to! If you havent travelled, what do you enjoy watching, reading, or doing?

I’m currently travelling and away from home. Given the time zones, l miss the companionship of my wife. I’m 6ft, 175lbs, dark blond, blue eyes. I’d love chatting with you :)

Settled in to my place in The Gulch. Brought some toys with me. :) Would love to meet up while I’m in town this week for some fun. :)

6’2” 200# attractive Dominant type who loves everything from sexual Domination to cuddles and snuggles. . .

First things first, I would love to make this an ongoing thing. I want to have those butterflies I used to have when I was younger, I want to look forward to a text message either in the morning or evening. I’m looking for a romance in a place that shouldn’t have any.

I’m about as nerdy as they come. This might shoot me in the foot, but that’s who I am. I love Star Wars, I love Marvel movies, I go to comic con often and I love being a comic book fan. I am into all things, nerdy and geeky and enjoy it with as much love as anyone can.

I’m an artist, photographer, and professional IT. Discretion is a must because of my profession and also some of the connections I have in the community in the area. Being from Connecticut, I love a good hike every now and then, a good brewery, and a good fire pit as well. I’m not sure how far we can get considering the situation we both would be in, but we can always try.

As for my description:

I am 6‘2“

tan skin

long, black curly hair and beard

a few tattoos.

I am often confused with being a wrestler.

I will not lie to you, I am a little thicker than I would like to be, but I am working on that. I am trying my best to lose 50 pounds by the summer. Maybe we could be workout partners, I have another fetish involved with that if you would like to listen.

I do hope to hear from someone, and again keep someone on the regular if possible who is very close by.

Hope to hear from someone and if not, good luck on all your journeys

Early 40s healthcare professional here looking to add some fun and spark to both of our lives!

You: Down to earth, good sense of humor, somewhat local (within an hour of Richmond would be ideal, or a frequent visitor), sensual, drug free, and of course very discreet.

Me: Friendly, respectful, laid back, drug free, love to laugh and enjoy life, a little nerdy, white, 5'7, average build (160ish, in the gym 2-3x per week), short dark hair, light eyes, also very discreet.

My ideal relationship would include regular secure messages/emails, although I would not expect high volume chats or daily contact. We would also meet up every so often for conversation and fun, anywhere from monthly to weekly, depending on schedules. Our conversations and meetings should always satisfy but leave us both wanting more...

Message if I have piqued your curiosity; Happy to send a couple of pictures to gauge interest!

Hi! I’m 53 from the San Fernando Valley in Los Angeles looking to meet a fit, insatiable young woman interested in a casual fwb scenario. I’m fit, athletic, kinky, and love to pleasure. I’m 5’8” 150lbs, about 18% body fat. I lift, swim, rock climb, and ski and looking for someone who takes care of their body similarly. If this resonates with you, and you’re interested in meeting and having a great time together regularly, I’d love to hear from you!!

Fair warning..I hope that I get stuck in your brain too!

I'm 6'2" and around 230lbs. Clean-cut, married and in my mid-40s. Mixed European background, lightly olive skin, a sleeve tattoo on my arm with more to come eventually, short brown hair, green eyes, and a mostly silver beard. People have called me attractive and while of course I’m a little biased, you can be the judge.

I’m a pretty active guy. I’ve played hockey year round for years now, I love to ski out west, hike, and take long walks. I’ve got no problem chasing the good food and drinks. No interest in getting abs or being a gym rat though.

I work a hybrid role in a client facing position in the banking world, which allows me flexibility and to travel around pretty freely. Pretty settled life with a good home, teen, and wife who I get a long with really well. Great team really. Intimacy and passion left a loooong time ago and we’re more like roommates at this point. Very familiar story for anyone reading this I’m sure.

I’m definitely not looking to blow up my marriage or yours. I just want intimacy back in my life and maybe some excitement and if I can have both that's even better.

I know what it’s like to have a connection like this, and it worked really well. We both were discreet and sensible about practical stuff, very low drama, and I appreciate that while being sensible about this stuff, we kept our lives separate. It was a long term thing and worked really well.

Chemistry is important to me, and if we jive, I can be playful and flirty, and will usually take the lead. I'm not a dom, and BDSM is not for me. I'm typically in the minority on that, according to Reddit.

I’m looking for someone who is confident, funny, smart, emotionally mature and has her own life going on. Feminine and active is a big plus. Smaller or athletic build tends to be my preference, although I like curves too. I’m not expecting perfection, and I'm not pretending to be perfect myself.

Discretion is important. I’m not looking for dates at restaurants, shows, or anything else where we’re regularly out together in public. That doesn’t mean I want this to be purely physical...quite the opposite...but I’d rather keep the two worlds separate.

Daytime is usually easiest for me, although I wouldn’t call that a hard rule. We can figure out the logistics if we get that far.

If any of this sounds familiar and you’re looking for something fun, uncomplicated and genuine, say hello. We can see if there’s any chemistry before worrying about the rest! 

Just like a lot of other people here, I’m missing some intimacy and enjoyment in my life. I’d like to find someone to get to know, build trust, and go from there. Obviously this needs to be discrete and private and I will respect the same for you. I work from home so I usually have availability in the weekdays. Not too much other than that.

As for what I’m looking for, I’m pretty open. Definitely someone over 30. A good sense of humor and smile are appreciated. As for me, I’m 5’9” and about 180lbs, brown hair, green eyes.

I would like to start slow and build from there.

Him: tall 6'1 190 lbs white blonde hair blue eyes broad shoulderedl

Me: 5'6 brown skin 174 lbs brown eyes short black hair curvy

Why is it so hard to find someone true to fulfill a dream of mine? It's heartbreaking when you get ghosted. What I want is simple. I've always had a dream of another woman being with my husband. You be friends with me, we get to know each other, hang out and all that jazz, meanwhile you get extra close to him. I'm terrible at talking about myself or anyone else or explaining myself. But I'll give it a shot.

yes he is a willing participant

We are polar opposites of each other.

I am normally the loud bubbly one who tends to be the life of the party. He tends to be a little more introverted. But that doesn't make him any less fun.

Both of us share interests in scary movies and anything horror, Video games, outdoor things, Intellectual challenges, food, anime, random trivia, and fun outings, especially metal/rock concerts

I'm a big big reader and will talk to you about book boyfriends all day long. He loves helping me write. I also subject him to listening to what I'm reading.

He's an occasional not often drinker. I drink when when the occasion calls for it.

We absolutely both love a good road trip if we're able

(Ask us both about where we've been)

For two days in a row, we have both met Matthew Lillard

literal dream come true

Anything else, feel free to ask me 😊

Mature clean cut down to earth retired professional type. I am 6’2” 250 ladies have described as broad shoulders BHM dad bod.

I would like to meet a lady in my similar situation that’s not getting her needs met at home. I’m not seeking to change anyone’s situation but hopefully we can both enhance each others when our busy lives allow.

Would prefer to meet someone that has daytime or early evening availability. I can travel to lay parts of New England during the week. I’m open to all types so don’t be shy in starting a conversation😉

based around Orange County and Los Angeles… annnd i hate that im back here but alas… life can be bitter sweet.. *notabot

i wont waste too much of your time so ill save the deep conversation for private messages…

about me.
-physically im tall (6ft).. about 215lbs… a sprinters body.. muscular and lean. drug and disease free. i drinks socially… maybe one or two a month? one parent is irish .. the other is from the south of spain… but can pass for north african. i was born in the states and have been in socal my entire life.. im left leaning politically and have traveled a lot.. so im a lover of all cultures and peoples. i do have my bachelors (finance) and have a stable career. not making a ton of money but the job is recession/lay off proof.

my desires- i dont care about age, size, ethnicity, fashion etc… personality is everything to me.
id like to meet one person, i can connect with who actually has a PULSE. someone with personality… hobbies… a high libido… someone who is positive and humerus… a person to match my energy and who i leave feeling better about the day after communicating or spending time with .. someone who can carry a conversation, who can make small talk and banter but who can also get deep at times

… my free times to hang in person are usually any evening after 5pm… im local to the los angeles and orange county area (i dont mind driving)… and i can stay out as late as needed..texting and communicating is ok with me all day long…

im big on mental health and being a good human. im not here to play games, waste time or energy or lead anyone one. if i find someone who i click with.. im all im. effort, attention, accountability.. and im looking for the same effort in return

if you would like to know more or exchange pics dont hesitate to message

So I posted on here a couple of weeks ago and it surprisingly actually got a really good response. Spoke to some really nice women in the same boat as me, but didn’t quite find anyone who fits what I’m looking for. So i thought I’d post again and be a bit more specific about what and who I’m looking for!

So beside the standard things I’m missing from my 10 year LTR (the chase, the anticipation, the desire to be desired again, some downright sweaty hot sex) I’m looking for someone who has the same perpetually unresolved fantasy as me.

And I’m sure there’s plenty of people out there in the same dead bedroom as me, thinking you won’t ever get to experience organised sex parties, orgies, group sex, threesomes (MMF or MFF), swinging, whatever you want to call it. I Dno maybe I’m weird but It just feels like a very natural thing to want to explore, and im not entirely comfortable with the idea of never getting to have those experiences.

I’m not in any particular rush so I’d rather take my time and build with something that feels worth the risk. I work professionally in central London, so I’d genuinely be happy starting with a coffee or lunch, (laptop out so it looks like we’re colleagues), and just have a proper chat to feel each other out. Then a few 1 on 1 hotel meets to check “Compatibility” of course

I’m 6ft tall, white, muscular build, fit in shape but not insane gym shredded, handsome face, strong short beard/stubble, with piercing blue/grey eyes. Im the "emotionally intelligent" one out of my mates (apparently) and can certainly hold a conversation (Was a bit of a playboy before my 10 year LTR). 

Looking for married or LTR women under 45. Feels a bit wrong putting down appearance preferences because vibes are always no.1 but it’s much better than chatting for a couple of hours and finding out there’s no attraction there.

No height or ethnicity preferences but my only real preference is to be in relatively good shape. Not necessarily a gym body, just in proportion. Overweight just isn't for me unfortunately apologies!

If you think we might be an item. Shoot me a DM! If not, all good and I wish you all the best in your search!

You'd think it would be easy to find a local affair partner, but .... it's not. I'm a white married male trying to survive a lonely, sex starved marriage. I'm looking for a discreet, romantic, erotic FWB relationship with one local woman. A connection beyond just the physical. Preferably long term and with someone in a similar situation. I'm 6'3", 220 lbs, brown hair, brown eyes, fit, non-smoker, non-drug user, choose a single barrel bourbon over beer/wine, a dog lover and I'm V-Safe. I'm driven, smart, sane, reasonable, successful, kind, a little kinky and discreet. My availability is mostly weekends but can get away some week days as well. Interested? Send me a message and let's chat.

Hi!

Fall is here and I’d love to find someone to have some hot fun with.

I'm looking for a lady, 40+, married or otherwise, smart, funny, cute, can hold a conversation and communicate, looking for an emotional and sexual connection, enjoys outdoor activities, someone who has time to build something and may have done this before. Location and scheduling are always big factors so someone in the Denver, south Denver burbs or North Colorado Springs and who actually has time to break away to meet.

Key traits…

Willing to do this..

Able to do this..

No cold feet

Can make time to get away

I'm 55, married, professional, respectful, good communicator, funny and may be one of the nicest guys meet. Physically, I'm 6'4", 225, gray hair with some brown, brown eyes and strong hands.

I'm a runner, love to exercise and love to fill gaps in someone’s life. I enjoy trying new things and being outside. Having a connection is big item for me

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Life's an adventure, let's have some fun together and create some sparks.

As Goku would say: “Yo!” lol I mean who doesn’t love Dragon Ball? 

Obviously from saying that, it’s one of my favorite things in this crazy world we live in. But what I love more is being able to talk to someone and be locked in on the conversation. The excitement of receiving a text or a call or whatever from a special someone is something that just fills the soul. You know what I mean? Like just being able to be yourself with another person is one of the best endorphin releasing feelings on the planet. 

With all that being said, we both know why we’re here. I’m married, you’re married, but something is missing. Maybe we want to leave our situation and don’t know how, or maybe we just don’t want to and desire something extra along with what we have. Maybe we just miss the deep conversations and the simple things like laying in a truck bed with a blanket and watching the stars, or a movie night on the couch with no interruptions, or even a sudden “let’s go hop in the car right now and just drive somewhere” moment. Either way, I’m cool with it. I’m a very simple man and I am probably the most understanding person on the planet, or at least I feel like I am lol. Too much negativity in this world. Anywho, a little about me before I start rambling on lol:

Brown hair

Tan skin

Green eyes

I wear glasses because my eyeballs suck lol

Average build, currently working on making it athletic

I’m almost 6 ft but missed it by an inch haha

I’m into a lot of nerdy stuff like Star Wars, obviously Dragon Ball with that opening statement lol, sci fi movies, horror movies, things like that. 

I love to be outside (when the sun isn’t trying to bake me alive) and make the yard look decent or even work on little projects. Beach or mountains is ideal for me because I’m not very picky, I can appreciate both. 

I like to work out, play video games, drive to the store and look at stuff I don’t need that would probably go on a shelf anyways lol, I like to ride a bike but I currently don’t have one which totally sucks 🙃, eat food, and just vibe. Oh and SLEEP. 

I do have a couple kids so hopefully you do too lol. 

I drink occasionally but I try not to. I used to smoke cigs but don’t anymore. 

Ummmm anything else just ask lol. My DMs are open anytime. Thanks for reading 😁

Are you out here? That funny, clever, flirt of a girl? Maybe life’s just gotten in the way and you don’t feel those things anymore?

I’m looking for a friend. Possibly more. Someone I can talk to. Someone who is kind, smart, disarm me with a smile or your wit. I want someone who is genuine, and knows who they are.

I am a big bearded teddy bear. I shave my head bald. I have deep hazel eyes. I am a big guy (300ish pounds, 6’ tall), but I’m very strong and I am working out daily. I have one of those faces that draws people in. I’m the type of guy a stranger can walk up to and strike a deep meaningful conversation. My girl friends say I’m handsome.

I don’t like talking about myself 🙃. But I am smart. I’m kind. Very empathetic. I have high emotional intelligence. I am professionally successful, I have built my career for lots of flexibility and work life balance.

I am happy to stay in a read a book. I am happy to go out to a nice restaurant and have a night on the town. I like fires and hanging with friends. I have a wide variety of interests. I love hockey. I love gaming with friends. I enjoy a good board game.

I am lean more of the extraverted sides of the spectrum.

Maybe life is hard right now. Maybe you just need a friend you can talk to ground you. Maybe you are looking for more. I hope we find eachother.

Hi there Reddit!

I’m 44, married and open for the last 8 or so years. I’d love to find a new online BFF. I value the vanilla relationship just as much as the dirty, and I much prefer an ongoing connection. Compassion and empathy are key, and connection is critical.

As the title suggests, I have a ton of hobbies/interests, and I’m always looking for more of them. Some of them are cooking, cocktails, whiskey, DIY, woodworking, working out. I love movies/film, books and music is life.

PHYSICAL DESCRIPTION!

I’m conventionally attractive, 5’10”, 185lbs with brown hair and brown eyes. I like to stay in shape but don’t care about being cut, jacked or whatever. I don’t have any piercings or tattoos. My celebrity dopplehanger is Harvey from suits. Im definitely not a narcissist attorney though.

Ideally I’d like to find a stable partner, I can be monogamous in my non monogamy. My wife is aware and she does her own thing as well. If this sounds interesting, shoot me a note!

Anyone else get a sudden sinking feeling that you might be a damn fool posting here? Just me? 🤷🏻 

Posted a few weeks ago, felt like hit on start of real connection. Then back to silence. Well…maybe I’m stupid, maybe I’m crazy, but here I go again. 

Before get to rambly rambling, not my first journey down this road. While didn’t meet here I have had ongoing situationship (still a thing?) previously.

I’m a 41 year old married white man, 5’10, 200 with strong/athletic build, brown hair/eyes, large tattoo on one arm and thick, girthy 7.5 €@€% (Look, only one chance for first impression!) Professional, educated, ddf, very easy going with a dry sense of humor. Sense I get is in the handsome/good looking type…DILF status maybe? Work out 4-6 days a week - weights, bike, yoga, blah blah etc. 

Live in Ohio - Cincinnati to be specific - though do travel for work. That includes other parts of Ohio. When in town schedule tends to be very flexible as I WFH same when on business trips. While open to someone located a little further out, ideally you’d be within 20-30 minutes of city. Ultimately, wouldn’t it be best if we are able to maximize the time we have?

Not going too deep into the “oh woe life is bleak” deal. Honestly, for most part things are good.  However. There is a constant voice in back of my head that craves something…more. Let’s call it a feeling that can’t shake this pull to find someone to fill the missing pieces. Ideally an intelligent, funny, easy going and sexy woman who is craving passion and connection. 

Did any of this rant stir some curiosity or hit a shared feeling you’re having? Well then hell please go ahead and reach out! Glad to chat here/elsewhere for now. Definitely hope can graduate to actually talking/voice messages…maybe little ‘flirting’. Ideally we’d grab coffee or something similar to make sure feeling the attraction/connection. And then…

I’m 1.78 m tall, with a lean, athletic build, broad shoulders, a trim waist, short dark hair, dark eyes, strong eyebrows, a defined jaw, straight nose, and neatly trimmed dark facial hair. I tend to look serious until I smile, which happens fairly easily around the right person.

I’m rather fond of the parts of life that are better kept between two people. Discretion matters to me because I value privacy, and because anticipation is far more enjoyable when it belongs to the people actually involved. I have a calm life, a curious mind, and a sensual side that appears naturally when I’m comfortable with someone.

I’m drawn to women with depth—quietly confident, mischievous, reserved at first, or capable of turning an ordinary conversation into two hours without either of us noticing. I enjoy good conversation, subtle flirting, lingering looks, and the tension that develops when two people are both aware of it and neither needs to announce it.

Where you come from matters less to me than maturity, curiosity, attraction, and the way we fit together when the outside world becomes pleasantly irrelevant.

Tell me what caught your attention in the headline, and one thing about you that might make me want to keep talking.

I will be visiting Las Vegas on the strip and have some free time during the day on 10/23 and would love to find someone to spend some time with and have some fun.

Married so discretion is obviously required and I am unable to host.

White, 5’7”, short blonde hair, blue eyes, 190, alternate between clean shaven and some trimmed scruff, work out a few times a week and feeling good about the progress, hairy chest, one easily concealed tattoo, I have heard more than one compliment on my voice (for whatever that is worth). My profile is adult in nature if you decide to give a look. My sense of humor is all over the map so whatever you got, I’m probably good to go!

Chat is open so feel free to toss a message if you’re interested or have questions.

Discreet (as I'm married), respectful, DDF. Big on hygiene and clear communication. Looking for a compatible woman for a relaxed, zero-pressure escape from the daily grind.

6'4, tall, average build, 205lbs, big hands and feet, keep active weekly. HWP. Brown hair, green eyes, white.

We can start with drinks or coffee to test the vibe, or skip straight to a comfortable private spot for long massages, unwinding, and letting chemistry take the lead.

Zero pressure, no games, no rushing, no drama. Attentive and unhurried. I'm 6'4" and active. Happy to swap pics early.

If you're local to Los Angeles, DM me with a bit about yourself and how you like to unwind.