r/LADating • • 2d ago

r4r Weekly R4R Thread - October 19, 2026 NSFW

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This is the weekly r4r (Redditor For Redditor) thread. It's a chance to introduce yourself and tell people what you're looking for. Be respectful, be honest, be safe. Protect your privacy, meet in public, and trust your instincts.

Feel free to browse and reply to others, but keep all interactions consensual and kind!


r/LADating • • 3h ago

First Date 27F anyone want to hang out tomorrow?

18 Upvotes

just looking for someone to hang out and have fun with tomorrow or friday. I will send pictures after you message me because people on here can be so rude and mean for no reason lol.


r/LADating • • 4h ago

First Date LET ME THIRD WHEEL ON YOUR NEXT DATE — KCRW

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My name is Vahini Shori, I'm a reporter at KCRW. I'm working on a story about dating trends and want to speak with daters all around the city -- across age, ethnicity, neighborhood, gender, and sexuality. I'm extra interested if you've go on dates often and with different people.

Thank you so much for your consideration, I'm excited to hear from you.

For more information please reach out to [vahini.shori@kcrw.org](mailto:vahini.shori@kcrw.org).


r/LADating • • 20h ago

Green Flag 41M4F single. Living in the valley but love the beach and nature! Let’s enjoy life! 😌

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42 Upvotes

41 m single, winter’s coming, ready to meet someone and see where the wind blows. Let’s make unforgettable memories!! I love nature, movies, star gazing, deep talks, music, arts of all kind, bbqing…and loads of other interests! Let’s connect! Reddit do your best! Lol


r/LADating • • 1h ago

Event Going to LA this weekend anyone up?

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Touring, if you’re familiar with the area that’d be great. Open to clubbing, anywhere nice! I’m jook 20yo male! Quick photo for any takers


r/LADating • • 2h ago

Discussion 35 [M4F] #orangecounty

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Dating apps haven’t worked out too well for me. Shoot me a DM with info and a Pic, we can exchange.

Love fitness, sports, movies, music. We can get internal that later. This is my last effort haha


r/LADating • • 6h ago

Green Flag Anyone up for a date in Lahore?

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Hey, I'm 28M from Lahore. Honestly, I just wanna meet someone, go on a date, grab some coffee, talk about random things and see how it goes.

Nothing complicated, just good vibes and getting to know each other. If anyone's interested, feel free to DM


r/LADating • • 3h ago

First Date 41 [M4F] #Gardengrove - FWB. Southern California.

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I am looking for something casual and fun to blow off some steam every now and then. I work a lot but luckily I am in control of my schedule so I can usually make the time with a little bit of heads up.

When it comes to what I am looking for, I am pretty open, however, I am not looking to jump into another super serious relationship or marriage. In the short term, I would love to have regular sex again and that's honestly what I am looking for with this post. Things typically develop from there and with that I like to keep things casual and let things flow naturally.

When I am involved with someone, to me, respect is the absolute most important thing. I will always show you respect and will always act kindly towards you. I don't believe in yelling, voice raising, or big arguments. I understand the physical power imbalance between a man and a woman and I think it is a man's duty to always make sure that his woman feels safe. In exchange, I expect the same in return and will walk away if I feel you are not living up to this agreement.

In the bedroom, I am very dominant and love being in control. I am always happy to lead our interaction and all I expect from you is to do what comes naturally to you. You won't ever have to initiate or worry about what pleases me. What pleases me most is you making yourself available to me and once there, I know where to take things. I very much care about the pleasure of my partner and will always make sure you feel good and feel taken care of.

I am 41 years and have no kids. I have my own place about 10 minutes from the beach. I am 5'10 and weigh 158 lbs. I am white with brown hair with a touch of gray, hazel eyes, and a fit/muscular body type. I workout several times per week, and always try to take care of myself.

STD free.


r/LADating • • 6h ago

Discussion SEEKING GLUTEN FREE LESBIANS FOR MY 24F FRIEND

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ARE YOU A GLUTEN FREE LESBIAN AGED 23-26F IN THE LA AREA?

My friend is seeking gluten free lesbians aged 23-26 who are looking for someone with a similar lifestyle! I know it is a rarer demographic which is why I am using reddit (She does not have reddit). She is a femme lesbian and really cute and very friendly and she likes all types of women

If you fit this demographic and are struggling with gluten free dating, please reach out to me with some details about yourself and I'll tell you more about my friend!


r/LADating • • 2h ago

First Date 52 [M4F] #Orange County - Partial to Asian women who prefer Caucasian lovers

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I dated a married Korean woman who had never been satisfied by her husband. She wanted to try sex outside of her marriage.

She and I dated if you can call naked encounters dating. It was fun. She got what she was looking for.

And our connection left me wanting to date Asian women.

Handsome rugged Caucasian man seeks gorgeous Asian woman.


r/LADating • • 21h ago

First Date [M4F] Looking for older BBW in SoCal – casual / ongoing

6 Upvotes

5’10 Athletic build, Italian background, Looking for an older BBW for casual, ongoing fun.
Prefer women 40+ who are confident, curvy, and enjoy themselves. Not looking for anything serious — just good chemistry, low-drama, and mutual enjoyment.


r/LADating • • 16h ago

Question 20 [M4F] LA, CA — Looking for a FWB and someone cute to vibe with 😉

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20, 5’11, black hair, brown eyes, athletic build. I work out regularly and am looking for a cute girl to vibe with, flirt, and hopefully become FWB. We can DM, exchange pics, and see if there’s chemistry. If we click, I’m down to meet up in person 😉


r/LADating • • 13h ago

First Date m for f

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Funny, open-minded, and always up for a good conversation about anything and everything 😄 Looking for something real with someone who connects with my mind before anything

I love cooking, making people laugh and keeping good vibes alive , love music art and science you can find me the craziest and wiser at the same time 😂(as my friends say)
So, if you want someone who can feed your soul, your stomach, and your sense of humor, we might just be a perfect match! 😉
also love cats 🫣


r/LADating • • 17h ago

First Date M4F 23

1 Upvotes

i’m in the 818 and wanna go on a date Ooo


r/LADating • • 1d ago

First Date 38F | Calabasas | Seeking intelligent & affectionate man | your looks do not matter to me

33 Upvotes

Hi! I’m 38F looking for a LTR. I am a sapiosexual / demisexual and therefore super open on (your) looks. What I am most attracted to is character.

About me:

- Enjoy hiking, entrepreneurship, being social, working out, spirituality, restaurants, real estate, Pilates, travel (20+ countries), family time

- 5’3” Athletic / hourglass body type

- Professional career

- Confident, thoughtful, emotionally intelligent (therapy/self work)

- Enjoy all of the love languages, but I mainly give with physical touch & words of affirmation

- Very into interior design & home renovations

- Diverse friends group

- Previously married, have kids 50% custody, & great relationship with ex husband

I’m looking for:

- Kind, emotionally intelligent, confident, capable, intelligent

- Growth oriented, accountable, great communicator

- Caring, affectionate, intentional, supportive

- Chivalrous, takes initiative, attentive

- Professional career, driven, focused

- Mature, level headed, handles pressure well

- Left leaning

- Age ~28-53

Happy to share pics and/or verify upon connecting (I will kindly ask you to do the same)

Out of respect for both of our time, please don’t message me if you’re not willing to meet for a date IRL within a week of connecting. Thank you :)


r/LADating • • 17h ago

First Date Fun, Smart 43M Seeking Female

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43M4F Only. I’m Single, 5’9” love to cook, dance and clean up behind myself. Getting back into the gym 💪🏽 I got My own place, a car and I have a career. Plus looking into some business ventures. I’m living in the Bay Area, CA. Love to do all sorts of fun Appropriate things lol!

Yes I have Baggage but at least it’s well maintained.

Wasted a few good years with someone who didn’t appreciate me, respect me & used the crap outta me and ended up sleeping with her ex. 🫠

So now we’re starting over Fresh and I am very Spiritual like into Bible studies. I think Faith is so important in this life. So that’s the first thing for me. If you like Traditional roles and letting the man lead who can lead, Protection and prayer Then let’s chat or worse come we can make a new friendly connection!


r/LADating • • 20h ago

Question 20M [M4F] LA — Looking for a Casual Hookup

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20, 5’11, athletic build. Looking for a cute girl who’s attracted to me and wants something casual, no pressure or expectations. I’m big on mutual respect, chemistry, and making sure we’re both comfortable. If we vibe, let’s see where things go. Feel free to DM me 😊


r/LADating • • 1d ago

First Date 41 [M4F] #Westminster - Seeking younger woman for dom/sub relationship in Southern California

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I am looking for a relationship where both man and woman have established roles and boundaries. We both share the same mindset when it comes to our dynamic and are in tune with each other.

Respect is number 1 and will always be the cornerstone of our relationship. I believe everyone should be treated with dignity whether they are a stranger in public or a loved one. I am very assertive and do not need to raise my voice or get excited to get my point across. I do not believe in verbal abuse of any kind and is something I will never subject you too. I am very aware of the physical imbalance between the sexes, and I understand that it is my duty to always make sure you feel safe, loved, and protected while in my presence.

Once respect is established, trust begins. The level of trust will be to the point that anytime we are out together as a couple your mind will be completely clear and your entire focus will be on enjoying yourself, being pretty, and just being a girl. This will be your reality because you will be of the understanding that no matter what happens your man can handle the situation. This idea that you have someone who is always looking out for you gives you peace of mind.

What I am looking for ultimately is a woman who fantasizes about the idea idea of fully surrendering herself to a man and will submit fully within the confines of the relationship. In other words, you recognize that I am the one who leads us and I know what is best for us.

When it comes to intimacy, this is not an ad seeking BDSM sex with props and toys. I don't need any of that. Dom/Sub is a mindset. I am very much a dominant and love being in control. This will be your time to shut your mind off and not think about anything. You will never have to think about what comes next as I will always lead the interaction. I very much care about the pleasure of my partner and will always make sure you feel good and feel taken care of.

About me:

I am 41 years old (no kids). I'm 5'10 160 lbs. I workout a couple times per week and am in good shape physically. I am white with dark brown hair that has a touch of gray and hazel eyes.

I'm a very simple man. My trials and tribulations have taught me to enjoy the little things in life. My favorite moments are enjoying a nice meal, having a good laugh, or just enjoying the moment with someone I truly care about.

I have a lot of life experience and would love to share that wisdom as a mentor with a new friend/lover. I will teach you how the world works and help guide you when you need it.

I love a feminine clingy woman who craves my attention, approval, and validation.

I am STD free.


r/LADating • • 2d ago

Red Flag What not to do

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47 Upvotes

Posted and then deleted because of this!

Literally what not to do!

I need a break 😮‍💨😮‍💨


r/LADating • • 1d ago

Breakup Why my ex moved in my area when he hates Hollywood?

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Me and my ex fiance had a tough ride together. Most of our time we spent apart because we’re both working a lot. But then he broke off the engagement and broke up with me because he said he wanted a fresh start after quitting his job. He also told me that my life and career is too much for him (I’m an actress). He is born and based in the UK, where we bought a house together. But after we broke up, I went back to Hollywood to be closer to work and a month later I learn that he moved in 20 mins away from me..I’m so puzzled because that contradicts what he said about my lifestyle.


r/LADating • • 1d ago

Event Renaissance Club Membership

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Any member of Renaissance Club? Is their membership worth it to find a date? Are the members all straight or are there gay members as well?


r/LADating • • 2d ago

First Date Down For Fun F30

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r/LADating • • 2d ago

First Date Down For Fun F30

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r/LADating • • 2d ago

First Date M4M - let’s talk for a bit

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Hey! Very new to the adult dating scene haha but haven't had much luck in the past (I'm 18). I'll put this out there first, I'm transgender and plus-sized. Woah! Double whammy lol. If you ignore the last two bits I'm a really sweet guy! The photo is me btw so you get an idea what I look like (wanted to reupload this post with a pic) :). I'm about to start my medical transition journey too btw, so super exciting things. A little about me is I love traveling and taking photos abroad. I'm wasian so most of my travels have been to Asia. I usually shoot digital but I just bought my first film camera! I also love going to LAFC games so if you also like them then hmu frfr. I also loveeee going to concerts haha. I like trying new tea-spots too! We should totally find one neither of us have been to. I can send my insta if you want. Anyways, if any of that sounds interesting and you're still reading please hit me up!!


r/LADating • • 2d ago

Question How am I (33M) suppose to meet a woman when couples are everywhere?

10 Upvotes

Meeting women IRL is pain in the ass because it feels like all of them are in taken already. From bars and clubs to the grocery store, I see them all with their boyfriends/husbands or even girlfriends/wives.

The only exception is singles events but they have their own flaws. I don't like the apps and don't want to go on them.