Something difficult happens, and even after it’s over, we can keep replaying it in our heads. We can’t always change what happened, but we can choose whether to keep carrying the anger, frustration or pain from it. Learning to separate the event from our response can make difficult situations easier to deal with.

Hello, beautiful lives reading beside this screen…

So, today's discussion is about: Are you lone or alone? 

Actually, since I started hitting adolescence, a sense of awareness of people came into my behaviour. I don't know how or when this started changing, but yeah, I started sensing and feeling it deeply in my heart and mind.

We expect from people… We get disappointed with people… Someone's absence makes us feel longing… Someone's presence makes us feel complete…

When we are in deep sorrow, we long for someone's shoulder that can listen to us. We know they may not be able to solve our problems, but still, we think maybe their presence is enough to give us strength.

And if you don't find people like them, then you starve for them; you eventually start to feel lonely…

But with the passing of time, you slowly start realising and sensing the truth of the environment. And that's where you start to expect less and accept more about your surroundings…

Your longing starts to decrease. You start growing your own inner self. Your emotions no longer dissipate but flow in a row. This is the moment you touch the path for self-growth & self-love…

So my point of view and understanding says:

Alone is a physical state of being by yourself, without other people present. It is neutral and can be a choice.

Lonely is an emotional feeling of sadness, isolation, or disconnection. It can occur even when you are surrounded by people.

About happenings like this in our lives, I wrote….                                                                                                                                              

जिंदगी के सफर मे    हम खुद ही के हमसफर हो गए।

लोगों से शिकवा करना अब कम हो गए।

सबर को थामने पर उम्मीद से फ़ासले हो गए। 

मैं को खुद में समेटकर जमाने के साहरो से फना हो गए।

 तहजीब - तवज्जो के अब अतराम हो गए। 

पहले कम-ज़र्फ़ थे पर अब अली-ज़र्फ़ हो गए।

 ना जाने यह फासले कब कम हुए अब में से हम हो गए।

So, according to you, beautiful people, which path is better: being alone or being lonely?

Lastly, I really want to appreciate @u/Omega_Neelay, who, from the other side of this screen, encouraged me as I took this new beginning. It genuinely meant a lot to me…

For a long time I thought confidence was something people were just born with. You either had it or you didn’t.

What changed it for me was realizing how I talked to myself. Most of us would never speak to a friend the way we speak to ourselves before a big meeting, a hard conversation or a first day somewhere new. That inner voice gets repeated so often that we start believing it.

Affirmations sounded cheesy to me at first. But it clicked once I stopped treating them as magic words and started treating them as practice. You’re giving your brain a different script to rehearse. It feels a little awkward at first, then it starts to feel normal, and eventually it becomes the voice you hear when things get hard.

A few that have helped me:

• I don’t have to feel ready to begin.
• I trust myself to figure it out.
• I’ve done hard things before, and I can do this one too.
• My voice matters, and I’m allowed to take up space.

Full disclosure: I run a small channel called Inner Pep Talk, and I made a set of guided confidence affirmations for different parts of the day. They’re free, with no sign-ups, just a calm voice and a few minutes to reset:

🎧 Main Practice (about 10 min), for when you want a reset: https://youtu.be/mWZ0to_kph4
☀️ Morning (about 5 min), to start the day on your own side: https://youtu.be/wUUt3eo4UIM
🌙 Evening, to wind down and let the day go: https://youtu.be/C0Y4vdiUVt0

If you try one, I’d love to hear how it lands, or what you say to yourself when you need a boost. And if affirmations aren’t your thing, I’m curious what has actually helped your confidence.

Be kind to yourself today. You showed up, and that counts. 💙

I noticed something embarrassing about the way I learn new things: I'm perfectly willing to be bad at something, as long as I can tell myself I'm not really trying yet.

When I started learning something unfamiliar, I'd spend the first few days experimenting. I'd make obvious mistakes, try different approaches, and occasionally surprise myself by getting something right.

Then, somewhere around day five or six, I'd start taking it seriously. I'd become more careful, compare my results with people who'd been doing it for years, and get annoyed when I couldn't reproduce something I'd managed once by accident.

Weirdly, that's usually when I'd stop improving.

I wasn't putting in less effort. I was putting so much effort into avoiding mistakes that I stopped making the kinds of attempts that could teach me anything new.

I caught myself doing this while practicing a skill one evening. I'd repeated the same section four times because I wanted to get it right before moving on. Each attempt was slightly different, but I kept returning to the version that felt safest. I was basically practicing the part I already knew how to do.

The uncomfortable part was realizing that I preferred looking competent to discovering what I couldn't do yet.

I'd never have admitted that out loud. I genuinely thought I was being thorough.

So I tried a few small things differently:

- When practicing, I deliberately attempted one variation I wasn't confident about, even if I had to backtrack afterward.

- When something went wrong, I wrote down what specifically failed instead of labeling the whole session a waste.

- I stopped repeating an exercise just because I could complete it comfortably. Sometimes I changed one condition to see whether I actually understood what I was doing.

None of this made me instantly better. If anything, my attempts looked messier for a while. But I started noticing problems I'd previously managed to avoid seeing altogether.

The counterintuitive thing I've found is that confidence can sometimes make learning harder. Once I start believing I should be good at something, I become much more selective about what I'm willing to attempt. Being a beginner feels strangely freeing because there's nothing to defend. Getting a little better can make that freedom disappear.

I'm still figuring out how to tell the difference between useful practice and deliberately making things difficult for myself. Not every mistake teaches me something, and repeating the basics still matters. I just don't want my need to feel capable to quietly decide what I'm allowed to try.

Have you ever noticed yourself getting more cautious or less willing to experiment precisely when you started caring about being good at something?

Hace bastante tiempo que estamos saturados con esto de la disciplina muy mal entendida. Explotada hasta la extenuación, llega un momento que llega asociarse con una cámara de tortura. Cuidado con estos sujetos que lo único que les interesa es ganar audiencia. No tienen ni la más remota idea de lo que es la disciplina. Buscarla en si misma no tiene sentido alguno. Lo que debes hacer es buscar algo que te guste, que te lata el corazón, que te sientas vivo por hacerlo, vamos tu sueño. Y ponte a ello, pero debe ser personal, tuyo, no el que te diga el gurú. En cuanto empieces a realizarlo verás que no te hace falta ni motivación, ni disciplina ni nada por el estilo. Pasión es lo que debes sentir, deseo, ganas de comerte el mundo y lo demás vendrá por añadiduria. Deja de perder el tiempo con esos tipos, y busca lo que desees hacer. Porque lo hay, encuentralo. Y si ya lo sabes, no te lo pienses, adelante.
Un saludo.

you still have time and you owe it to yourself to give it another shot as a late start is better than never starting at all✨

GO FORRR ITTT!