I am 45yrs Bi male I like Going Swimming,reading doing to the cinema solo trips and solo theatre trips.I like going to the gym its at Gym group ,

I like going to my local Comic con

I have learning difficulties special needs and Epilepsy

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I like day trips to edin or glasgow

Well, I never thought I’d be making this post, but as I’m rapidly approaching my 30th in the next few months I figure let’s see what happens!

The TL;DR is: I have many acquaintances I’m polite with and on friendly terms with, but no real “close/best” friends and I’m actively looking to change that, the sort of people you hang out with multiple times a week, do activities together with etc. Ideally around my age and in central Fife, but you know what I’m open minded.

Longer version:

Really I’m looking for someone who we can say hey “let’s make an effort with each other” and see what happens. I wouldn’t go as far as to say I’m desperately “lonely” because I’ve always been quite weird in that I like my time alone, but at the same time definitely some close friends/human connection would be nice as I leave my 20s. I always feel like I’m imposing asking people if they’d like to hang out.

I’ve tried in the past to go to various clubs, groups etc and although I enjoy them, and build up more acquaintances I’m far too awkward to jump to the “let’s be friends” and meet outside this scheduled weekly interaction, I don’t do ambiguity, or new introductions well so I’d rather just cut the crap and make intentions clear from the outset and try to make sure someone is on the same page kinda.

In terms of what I’m in to, honestly I’m a homebody, I like board games, watching TV, playing games on my computer (occasionally the ps5), I like going to see films but I’m very much not a film critic, I’m one of those people who will watch a film everyone says was rubbish and say “yeah that was ok, entertaining way to spend a few hours” rather than critique the directors intention. I am into DIY, making things, programming, solving puzzles - anything that requires me to engage my brain is always fun - probably my programmer career that has done that to me!

I am absolutely not a fitness freak, I can be convinced for the occasional walk or hike, but running, jogging, gyms, rock climbing, parkrun etc - all the usual stuff people recommend I do not have the fitness or patience for. I wouldn’t be opposed to taking part with someone but not immediately for sure. Board game clubs and societies too, I'd definitely like to take part in some, but I really don't like starting new activities, meeting loads of people etc, so I'd rather go with someone once we already get on, if that makes sense? Hopefully something that transcends a fixed weekly activity.

If you can’t tell by the immensely detailed wall of text, I’m both autistic (vaguely maskable) and ADHD (absolutely not maskable).

If you’re wondering how I got into this situation, of having absolutely 0 close friends or a best friend, or if you’re trying to gauge if I’m a massive red flag of a human, honestly who knows! I’ll leave my thoughts on it here so you can decide yourself.

I went to uni 10 years ago, made a lot of friends with those I lived with and went to societies with, but elected to drop out and pursue a career instead, I was really career focussed, moved away, had a mild break down stress wise and honestly probably wasn’t the best at keeping in touch with people. Time moved on and my friendship circle got smaller and smaller until after COVID destroyed any remaining social life I had, only a few remained, and I ended up making the decision to step away from those for reasons that were tricky, but I’m comfortable I made the right decision. I have tried to reach out to uni friends etc, old friends but I can’t help but feel everyone has moved on, has new friendship groups etc and isn’t really in the mood to widen the circle, which hurts - but I get it!

If any of that sounds like you, even if you're 50/50, please, feel free to drop me a DM - happy to start chatting and to just figure something out to see if it leads anywhere

UPDATE FOUND SAFE AND SOUND

Small border terrier/whippet dog lost at Cairnsmill Caravan Park, named Lola. She's very anxious but not at all aggressive. May be hiding under caravan /mobile home. She managed to slip her tracker collar and harness.

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Thank you

Been trying to explain to my kids what murmurations are - this tends to be the easiest time of year to see them; are there any surefire murmuration/starling roosting spots where we can see some in Fife?

We stay on the South Coast but can drive wherever.

Thanks!

What it says on the tin. Curious about costs in the past couple years to do a habitable loft conversion (I.e. planning all sorted) 🙏

Lots on reddit is more London based to hard tl get a read. We're also relatively open to a few different options (while a full back dormer and ensuite would be the ideal, we'll also need to be reasonable with costs so could see us going for a deluxe conversion too). Will look at getting some quotes etc... but always helpful to hear some word of mouth experiences.

There has been a presentation at the September's Burntisland Comunity Council meeting to turn the Evolve Printworks into a Tesco Express. Have posted the link to the minutes.

I heard about it today and was totally unaware.

Just thought I would share here for anyone interested to know more.

I've got a Scottish welfare fund cash out voucher for some basics but shops with pay points keep telling me no one does those vouchers anymore? I'm in Glenrothes but have fuel to get to KDY. Anyone know of any place that does them?

I’ve seen a warehouse role at the Dunfermline site, but it’s full time. How flexible are they if you want to do part time instantly. Can I apply for the full time and let them know I want to do part time?

Hiya! Looking for these lovely plants to work on a photoshoot with, they turn a gorgeous vibrant red in autumn so desperately trying to find some!

Cheers :)

Hello all, I work on a paper machine here in Canada. My wife’s family is from Scotland so we always toy with the idea of moving to Scotland and me getting a job at the sapphire mill.

Anyone on here work at that mill? Would love to pick your brain a bit. Thanks!!

I am practicing for pumpkins after dark in Edinburgh and decided to do one of the cats.

Located NW of Auchtertool, Hallyards (Hall yairds - "the yards at the hall") is reputed to have been Malcolm Canmore's hunting seat, then residence of the Bishops of Dunkeld until 1539.

John Knox wrote about fighting there between French troops and the Lords of the Congregation. In Feb 1560 it was reported "clean overthrown". James Hamilton, 3rd Earl of Arran escaped via bedsheets to get there before meeting Mary Queen of Scots at Falkland Palace.

Now Planning Ref 26/01243/PPP for the £5bn Cato data centre proposes to build directly over it. HES refused listed status per The National on 2nd Oct.

We walked and flew it last week so there's at least a record. Photo from the flight attached, full video here - https://youtu.be/ml6TwgC2fb8

Planning portal: planning.fife.gov.uk (26/01243/PPP) / Project site: cato.ili-energy.com

Hi I am so so nervous to post this, I’ve been under cmht west for years, a long long time and I’ve had more bad experiences than good, like it’s honestly been awful at times. I’ve been on upwards of 25 different medications, had therapy, been hospitalised a few times (but not for years), although bad experiences I have never felt the level of neglect I am having right now, I have been dealing with so much this year with my mental health, in and out of low lows and high highs and not much rest in between, at my last appointment in spring my psych decided I was to come off most my meds gradually, apparently would see me in 3-4 months, in August my gp was so worried about me he asked them to see me urgently, cmht / psych decided it wasn’t needed despite not speaking to me more than one phone call (at the time) - which was with a nurse who told me I needed to do a distress tolerance book I’ve done online about 3 times already, that I didn’t need to be seen and have instead booked me in for NOVEMBER. I’m at the point I have had to do my OWN medication tweaking to settle things, I was on an agitated high and self concluded I needed to cut down antidepressants, I am at a loss because now I am feeling agitated low, but they won’t see me so I don’t know what to do, I’ve phoned up multiple times and they tell me to do relaxation etc, I don’t think they get it that sometimes we are past that. I’ve also worked in third sector mental health I know the proven stuff that works, to an extent, I’m past that and I am holding on by a thread. I don’t know what to do honestly, does anyone have any advice? And is anyone else in this boat, I honestly feel alone and like they just do not care. I have NO support and phoning the duty line makes me worse at this point. Pls don’t recommend local charities etc due to professional background.

Hi! I(32M) moved to Thornton a few months ago and would love to meet some new people around Fife and maybe even make friends.

It would be great to find out about events, communities, groups, clubs, etc. around the local area and Fife in general as well. Any suggestions?

Hi! We just moved to the area - pretty much halfway between Perth and Cupar. We have 2 large breed dogs and are looking for a great dog groomer. Any recommendations are appreciated, thanks!

Hello, as the title says, I’m looking for a good roofer for some minor repair work. I’d rather reach out to ones that anyone would recommend on here. Any help would be greatly appreciated!

I visited from Perth on Saturday and hadn't been to the main town in ages. Had a lovely walk on the beach with the dog and lunch at Balgove Larder.

When we went into the actual town, it was mad to see how busy it was - great in a way but traffic was mental! I can't believe the amount of cars everywhere and in the car ourselves driving at snails pace and impossible to get a parking space. My mother was driving and she's disabled so couldn't park and walk in.

Seems a shame that it continues to be so car centric, when there's really no space for all the traffic that was there. It felt noisy, smelly and overwhelming with the amount of cars and I wondered if there were plans to have any low traffic streets or introduce measures to make it more accessible with public transport like trams etc.

It would be so much more pleasant and safer if a big bit part of it was pedestrianised or had public transport only.

There was also no internet connection in the centre of town for any of us visiting, probably due to the amount of people? Was nuts though! I couldn't move money in my bank account to pay in shops that didn't accept cash.

Looking for somewhere central fife to live, somewhere relatively nice as i have a son

Hi, I'm looking to host a bigger garden party celebration in a year or so and would like to hire a food truck for the evening meal. Would anyone have recommendations for who to approach? The location will be near Leven.