Now fangirling has its own fair share of criticism. Im not gonna deny that. But this is too far.

Just found this post somewhere and it broke my heart 💔

Both my dad and brother are feminist, and many of the men in my life are too, online also seeing a lot of the same case. I know some people will say it's the bare minimum but seeing how men are now, I'm happy. I hope you guys can find men like this in your life as well

I was talking to a colleague when he started telling me about his sister. He asked if I could learn eBay from her because she is very skilled at it. Then he went on to say that he believes women are naturally giving and that sacrifice comes easily to them.

He spoke about his sister with so much pride. According to him, she manages all the household chores, takes care of family members, cooks, cleans, works on eBay, and even teaches her brother-in-law’s children whenever they need help. Despite having so little time for herself, she somehow makes time for everyone else just to keep her family happy.

He was so proud of her, but honestly, my reaction was completely different. I was thinking, Why are you celebrating a woman for tolerating so much? She barely has any time for herself, yet instead of questioning whether she is overburdened or whether others should share these responsibilities, he presents her sacrifices as something admirable simply because she is a woman.

Then, one day, I had the chance to speak to his sister myself. During our conversation, she told me, “Don’t get married. Enjoy your life.” That statement really stayed with me. It made me wonder whether her own experiences had shown her how much women are expected to give up after marriage.

What struck me most was the contrast between the two perspectives. Her brother seemed proud of how much she could sacrifice, while I found myself wondering who was taking care of her. Does anyone consider her needs, her happiness, her dreams, and the fact that she might also want time for herself?

What bothered me was not that he appreciated his sister. It was that he seemed to admire her ability to put herself last. And I couldn't help wondering whether he would want the same kind of wife, someone who takes care of everyone, manages the household, pursues her own work, and constantly compromises her needs without expecting much in return.

There is a difference between appreciating a woman's kindness and romanticizing her exhaustion. A woman can love her family, care for others, and make sacrifices without being expected to give up her own life in the process.

Why is a woman's ability to endure so much often celebrated more than her right to rest, receive support, pursue her dreams, and live for herself, too?

Philosopher John Gray argues that moral progress is easy to lose and that history reveals a cyclical pattern of ups and downs rather than the linear improvement we so much want to see.

No matter which shape of history you prefer, progress can indeed be lost. Feminism and gender equality are no exception, with countries like Afghanistan and Russia showing in real time how 100 years of moral and political improvements can be destroyed right before our eyes.

I most certainly have no easy solution for geopolitical dilemmas, so my goals with this article are much more humble. First, I want to discuss what kind of feminist messaging on social media can better reach men and remind them of the benefits of gender equality. Second, this aims to encourage men to learn from the successes of feminism.

I've been on reddit since I was like 17. I'm 30 now. I swear that for awhile there, the general misogyny on reddit was improving. It felt for awhile like things were beginning to steady out and that people were starting to be less constantly aggressive and talk like people to each other more.

The last 3 years I wasn't online much, and the 2 before that I was mostly elsewhere on the internet. So in coming back on Reddit for things like mom subreddits and whatnot now that I'm pregnant and starting a family. Google provides terrible search results nowadays due to AI, and I thought real people would be easier to talk to.

Oh. Oh no. Huge mistake. Not only that, but even in predominantly female [assumedly] spaces now - it feels like things like victim blame/shame, "do it my way or you're wrong"isms, nuance generally has vanished. But it's only ever men towards women OR women towards women, and rarely do I see men towards other men or women towards men act like this. I feel like I'm going insane, but I swear at this point I can basically script what responses I will get ahead of time if it's a predominantly male or gender mixed sub versus a predominantly woman sub, and...both are bad? The reason I bring it up here, in ironically the most female possible sub, is I thought maybe it has something to do with recent politics and some sort of internalized shame in being a woman from those exterior forces, then sort of aggressively vented out at other women.

But idk. Thoughts? Maybe I am insane. Maybe the internet is all bots. Truly I'm not sure anymore.

Edit: for an addon, I swear the most comment male led responses I get are "what does this even add" whereas the most female led ones are "Get help/You need therapy" towards anything they don't like/get weirdly left field vitriolic towards. Sometimes out of what seems like truly no where.

Hello everyone! I recently uploaded an episode on my podcast about Women in STEM and if you are interested, please do check it out and support it.

i have a patient perspective, who has been brushed off by multiple doctors and who was told “chronic pain is normal for women in their private areas”.

what can i genuinely do? not necessarily for my own health struggles lol but for the systematical problem?

write articles, give feedback to hospitals, are there any big organizations in europe?

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as a very young woman this has been a total shock to experience such treatment in medical world. i know only so much can be done, the research is slow and hard in all diseases and the situation is: doctors genuinely do not know what to do with most of women chronic pain. but it’s because it’s not viewed as important and studied. and being in a position as a patient and be told to “wait” “calm down” “try herbs” “there is nothing wrong” “drink a lot” is crazy to me.

Watching The Mummy tonight, the best one with Branden Frasier and Rachel Weis, and the part right at the start where Anuk Sun Amun says 'My body is no longer his temple'.

I was young when I first saw it, but understood the context. Years (decades) later and I still find that statement powerful.

"The real question is whether she believes herself, especially when the alternative is acknowledging how far she has drifted from self-knowledge."

"How could someone be so calculated and so naive at once? At one point, Elizabeth lets slip that she does not believe he would have fallen in love with her if he had recognized her from the news right away. Is this a deliberate remark to draw sympathy or a revealing off-hand remark? Is she so divorced from reality that she doesn’t realize how she comes across?"

"If those questions seem misogynistic, that is the whole point. Elizabeth Holmes has been defined by two ostensibly contradictory, equally demeaning narratives: that she is a victim of grooming, and that she is a cunning sociopath who surrounds herself with men who will run interference on her behalf in exchange for power over her. "

"The final 20 minutes of YCSE made me sob, and it is basically impossible to explain why, even in coded terms."

"Because for as ridiculous and funny as YCSE can be, I left the film absolutely gutted. Elizabeth Holmes is a pathetic and tragic figure. I see myself in her even as she remains totally closed off from anyone. She is the kind of person that cannot be known; it is even unclear whether the choice to remain at a remove from herself was made by her or for her."

This last part is what I am trying to do here, trying to swim against the inexorable tide of relentless 2d negativity. I'm trying to speak for a woman who everyone speaks for. If that's wrong, I don't want to be right.

"Elizabeth has never been able to speak on her own behalf and she never will"

Her dad, Sunny, Larry, Nathan, Don, all projecting onto this hopeful woman. Pulling the strings. Its heartbreaking.

Religion can´t be an excuse for misoginy, period.

I'm a 25F, an I left islam 4 years ago and an atheist. I'm from South India, My elder brother is also an atheist.

Here's what happened, I was planning to go out with my younger brother to hand over some clothes my mom had stitched for a friend's mother. But there was a religious dawat happening on the ground floor of our apartment, and several Muslim men dressed in religious attire were sitting around the parking area. My younger brother said he wasn't comfortable taking me out because of their presence. He told my mom, who immediately suggested that I share the location with him so he could go alone.

When I asked why I couldn't go, my mom said, "How can you walk in front of them wearing such short clothes?" I was wearing a nightshirt and pyjamas and was even willing to throw on a jacket and leave. My elder brother also intervened and agreed that my younger brother should go instead.

Honestly, I was so frustrated. Why should I have to change my plans and stay home just because a group of religious men are sitting outside? Why does their presence suddenly become my problem? Why are women always expected to adjust, cover up, or stay indoors instead of addressing the elephant in the room? I've just lost my job due to a layoff and am trying to get back on my feet, and situations like these make me want to move out even fast.

How is it my problem if they're sitting in groups? All religions are patriarchal, but Islam is one of the most oppressive, worst religion for women. Being born into Islam and having your freedom, clothing, and choices constantly dictated by religious rules must be an absolute nightmare.

The way that dildos have been thrown into the games of female NBA players is fucking insane. They are probably not gonna stop so might as well hit them with the same to get the point across. I don't care how immature it is, I believe in equality. 

PS: I can't do shit, I don't live in America

Unpopular opinion: We’ve all seen the pictures (you know the ones). Many of us have shared memes of these maga women. I’ve shared many of them. Then I started to realize that we are attacking women based on their looks. Sure their politics are at best questionable, if not toxic, but we are attacking their oddish looks. Then as I’m (trans female) getting ready for the day it pops into my head will I be mocked? Will I make someone’s meme feed? This is a slippery slope where a group of people make fun of someone but then that causes insecurity within the group. We need to stop attacking each other and focus on the real enemy.

None of his remotely new info but its been really bothering me lately how this site approaches misogyny, particularly within communities that seem to exist PRIMARILY to express hostility towards women. I would link them but I assume it might get this post removed...

Anyway like I'm sure many of you have I've come across some genuinely disturbing rhetoric on this platform, including users openly advocating sexual violence against women. Sometimes those comments get removed, which is obviously a good thing, but I find myself wondering whether simply removing the offending content is enough?

To be clear, I understand that moderators can ban users without that information being publicly visible, and that subreddit moderators don't have the authority to issue sitewide bans but I think this raises a much larger question about Reddit's responsibility as a platform because I have to ask at what point does misogyny stop being treated as a series of individual rule violations and start being recognised as a wider problem with the communities Reddit allows to operate?

I think there's a difference between a subreddit occasionally attracting misogynistic users and a subreddit developing a culture where hostility towards women is a central part of its identity and I think the latter deserves considerably more scrutiny.

What particularly concerns me is the apparent threshold for intervention. Why should we have to wait until someone explicitly threatens or advocates violence before taking seriously the kind of rhetoric that dehumanises women and creates an environment where that violence can be encouraged?

I'm NOT suggesting that every offensive opinion warrants a permanent ban. Just questioning whether Reddit does enough to address patterns of misogyny rather than responding to individual comments in isolation.

I also think it's worth examining how much responsibility gets placed on volunteer moderators compared with Reddit itself. Moderators are expected to maintain their communities, but surely the company operating the platform has a much greater responsibility to address harmful behaviour across it?

I'd be interested to hear other people's experiences with reporting misogynistic content on Reddit, particularly whether they feel the platform takes it seriously. I assume the short answer to that is no they don't...

An effort to meet this systemic issue, and others, with something useful. There’s more to come.

I’d appreciate learning from this community along the way.

Dear Jane Doe