One thing I’ve noticed at my college in engineering is how comfortable some students are with making other people feel stupid for not understanding something or struggling academically.
A little background about me before the rant, I’m an EE student with a 3.7 GPA, so I’m not attacking those who do well in engineering at all, just the negative attitudes that can affect others mental health.
I literally don’t understand the obsession with comparing grades, GPAs, or how quickly someone can grasp a concept. We’re all here to learn and some students act like asking questions, failing an exam, or needing extra help somehow makes you less intelligent or less deserving of being in your major.
There’s a difference between being academically successful and having some sort of superiority complex because of it. Just because something comes naturally to you doesn’t mean everyone else is going to understand it at the same pace. And honestly, you never know what someone else has going on outside of school. People have jobs, families, financial problems, mental exhaustion, and other responsibilities. Some students are genuinely putting in their best effort just to get through the semester.
What bothers me most is that a lot of this judgment comes from the very people who are supposed to be your peers. College is already challenging enough without other students contributing to an environment where people feel embarrassed to ask questions or admit they’re struggling. Being able to pass a difficult class doesnt automatically make you smarter than everyone else and struggling in one doesnt make someone incompetent.
I wish more students understood that academic success doesn’t give you an excuse to look down on others. You can be intelligent, accomplished, and still be humble. Offer to help your fellow peers instead of shaming.
Here are some examples that I hear on campus:
"How did you fail that exam? It was easy."
"You only got a C? I barely studied and got an A."
Constantly reminding people how little they studied before getting a high grade, especially in a class environment talking extremely loud “OH YEAH I’M GOOD BECAUSE I GOT A 90 ON THE TEST HAHA”.
Other students going around campus telling everyone about another student’s low test score.