r/Dhaka • • 7h ago

Seeking advice/পরামর্শ bleeding after sex for a few days. Looking for a non-judgmental gynecologist

29 Upvotes

I'm really worried and need some advice.

My partner and I had sex a few days ago. During the first round, after some penetration, she experienced some pain and burning, followed by a little bleeding. Her vagina sometimes becomes dry during sex, so I'm worried that friction may have caused a small tear.

We continued having sex a few more times that day, but there was no further bleeding during those rounds. However, she has continued to experience occasional light spotting over the following days. The bleeding has decreased significantly, and she currently has no pain or burning.

We used a condom, and it didn't break.

I'm worried about her health and want to get her checked by a gynecologist asap. We're looking for a doctor In Dhaka that is non-judgmental, respectful of privacy, and affordable, especially for unmarried couples.

Has anyone had a similar experience? Could you recommend a trustworthy gynecologist??

I would really appreciate genuine advice or recommendations.

Thank you.


r/Dhaka • • 20h ago

Seeking advice/পরামর্শ I want to write a novel.

27 Upvotes

I'm 18 and I want to be a novelist in Bangladesh. I'm actually serious about this. I don't want to live my life on this nor I want to be super famous. But all I want to do is to write my name on the list of prominent novelists of our time. See I live by this phrase "you only live once" and that's why I try to do everything I want and writing a novel is one of them. Let's say I have a draft of a novel. Now what do I do with it? And what if my every attempt go as failure? We do not see any popular novelist at our time at all. I'm anxious but also excited. Please anyone with valuable advice?


r/Dhaka • • 21h ago

Discussion/আলোচনা Some "unsolicited" advice for SSC/HSC students

26 Upvotes

I see a lot of posts here from SSC/HSC students, particularly the 2026 and 2027 batches, asking about universities, subjects, careers, and what they should do next.

I wanted to share some general reflections. I finished my HSC about 20 years ago, completed my PhD a few years back, and now work in academia and research. Looking back, I think our schools and colleges do a pretty terrible job of career advising. Most students make some of the biggest decisions of their lives with very little information.

Here are some broad things I would suggest.

1. Public vs. private university? Think about the financial cost first.

I see a lot of questions about whether public universities are really that much better than private universities.

My opinion is that unless your parents are financially very comfortable, a good public university is still a better choice in many cases. Just getting into one means your undergraduate education is almost free.

You don't have to depend on your parents for several lakhs of taka in tuition fees. That itself is a huge liberty. You can make decisions about your future without worrying as much about recovering a large educational investment.

Of course, some private universities have excellent departments and opportunities. But don't underestimate the economic value of an almost-free education.

2. Your university and department matter, but not necessarily for the reasons you think.

I studied at Dhaka University, and I will be honest: I was a pretty unhappy undergraduate student. I didn't particularly enjoy my interactions with many teachers or classmates. I found the environment quite toxic at times.

But looking back, I realize that being in a top department at DU gave me exposure to information that many students elsewhere didn't have.

We had alumni who came to give talks. We learned about graduate schools, research opportunities, and how academic research worked internationally. I knew about career paths that many of my friends in smaller departments or universities had never heard of.

That exposure was enormously valuable.

So when choosing a university or department, look beyond the name. Find out where graduates end up, what opportunities students have, and how strong the alumni network is.

3. Figure out what you are naturally good at.

This is probably my biggest advice.

As you grow older, you will realize that there are certain things you can do better than other people. Your job is to identify those things and build on them.

If you are naturally creative, find a field that allows creativity. If you enjoy programming, explore computer science. If you enjoy numbers, finance, accounting, economics, or statistics might be interesting. If you enjoy understanding people, institutions, and society, social sciences have plenty of opportunities too.

I knew people who studied computer science at BUET, graduated with CGPAs around 2.7, and never developed much interest in computer science.

They were intelligent people, but that subject was not necessarily the best use of their abilities.

Don't just ask which subject has the highest demand. Ask whether you can actually become good at it.

4. Focus on your skills, not just your degree.

Once you choose a field, try to understand what it takes to be among the top students or young professionals in that field.

What software do they use? What technical skills do they have? What kind of projects have they completed? What do employers or graduate schools look for?

If you are interested in research, try to work as a research assistant. If you want to work in the corporate sector, find internships. If you are interested in programming, build projects.

Even if an opportunity is unpaid, it may be worth considering if you can afford the time and it gives you meaningful training or experience. But don't work for free indefinitely.

Your undergraduate years are a great time to experiment and build skills.

5. Find mentors and learn how to communicate professionally.

This is something I think Bangladeshi students don't pay enough attention to.

Find people who are a few years ahead of you. They can be senior students, alumni, professors, or professionals working in your field.

Ask them questions. Learn from their experiences. You don't need to have a very close personal relationship with someone to learn from them.

Also, learn how to write a professional email, request a meeting, ask for advice, and follow up politely.

These sound like small things, but they matter enormously in professional life.

And please remember that mentorship is not the same as asking someone to do everything for you. Do your homework before approaching people.

6. Join clubs and learn how to organize things.

I think university clubs can be genuinely useful, especially if you take some responsibility.

Organize a seminar, manage a budget, coordinate an event, invite speakers, or work with a team.

You will learn things that classrooms often don't teach: how to communicate, manage deadlines, handle disagreements, and get things done.

These are valuable skills in almost every profession.

But don't join 10 clubs just to collect certificates. Join one or two and actually contribute.

7. The idea that university students don't need to study is completely wrong.

There is a strange culture in Bangladesh where students work incredibly hard to get into a university and then suddenly decide that studying is no longer important.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

You have already invested years of effort to get there. Why would you stop working once you finally have access to higher education?

I am not saying everyone needs a 4.0 CGPA. But grades matter, particularly if you want to pursue graduate education, scholarships, or competitive jobs.

A CGPA below 3.0 can close doors, especially early in your career. A high CGPA alone will not guarantee success either.

The point is to take your education seriously. Learn the material, develop skills, and don't waste four years simply because getting admitted felt like the final achievement.

8. Your friends and university social life are probably less important than you think.

At 18 or 19, friends, classmates, campus culture, and social life can feel like everything.

But 10 years later, most of these things will have very little influence on your professional life.

What will matter more is what you learned, what opportunities you had, and how much market value your undergraduate education gave you.

I am not saying friendships are unimportant. Some university friendships last a lifetime.

But don't make major academic decisions based on where your friends are going, where you think you will have the most fun, or what will make you popular among your classmates.

9. Learn to collect information. It is one of the most underrated skills.

One major difference I notice between students is not necessarily intelligence. It is how well they collect and use information.

Many students don't know what opportunities exist simply because nobody told them.

Learn to search for scholarships, graduate programs, internships, research opportunities, and jobs.

Look at LinkedIn profiles of people who graduated from departments you are considering. Where are they working five or ten years later? What skills did they develop? Did they need additional degrees?

Also, learn English well enough to read, write, and communicate professionally. You don't need a fancy accent. But being able to understand complicated material and explain your ideas clearly will help you in almost every field.

You have access to far more information today than my generation did. Use it.

10. Think about the market value of your education, not just social prestige.

We have a strange obsession with prestigious subjects and universities in Bangladesh.

But getting into a difficult subject is not the same as building a successful career.

A subject doesn't become economically valuable simply because it is difficult to get into or difficult to pass.

Eventually, you will have to explain what you can actually offer. What can you do that other people cannot? What problems can you solve? What skills make you valuable?

This doesn't mean everyone should study business, engineering, or computer science. There are excellent careers in social sciences, humanities, and many other fields.

But you need to understand the opportunities and limitations of whatever you choose.

And remember, your career will probably not be a straight line. Your interests will change, the labor market will change, and new opportunities will appear.

One final thought:

I think one of the biggest failures of our education system is that we teach students how to compete for seats, but not how to think about careers. Career is not equal to Certificate.

We spend years preparing students for admission tests, but very little time helping them understand what different professions involve, what the labor market values, or how to identify their own comparative advantages.

If I could give one piece of advice to my 18-year-old self, it would be this: Don't just try to be a good student. Try to understand what you are good at, and how you can turn that ability into something valuable.

And please don't make life decisions only because your parents, relatives, friends, or society think a particular subject sounds prestigious.

Twenty years later, you are the one who will have to live with those decisions.


r/Dhaka • • 18h ago

Discussion/আলোচনা একটা প্রশ্নের কারণে গত কয়েক দিন ধরে নিজের ভবিষ্যৎ নিয়ে খুব চিন্তায় আছি!

20 Upvotes

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আমি সিভিল ইঞ্জিনিয়ারিংয়ে ডিপ্লোমা করেছি। সত্যি বলতে, আগে আমি খুব একটা ভালো ছাত্র ছিলাম না। তবে ডিপ্লোমা করতে এসে পড়াশোনার প্রতি আগ্রহ তৈরি হয় এবং ধীরে ধীরে নিজেকে পরিবর্তন করার চেষ্টা করি।

বর্তমানে একটি বেসরকারি বিশ্ববিদ্যালয়ে সিভিল ইঞ্জিনিয়ারিংয়ে বিএসসি করছি। আলহামদুলিল্লাহ, এখন আমার রেজাল্ট বেশ ভালো এবং কয়েকবার ডিনস লিস্টেও জায়গা পেয়েছি। ভবিষ্যতে মাস্টার্স করে নিজের বিশ্ববিদ্যালয়ে ফ্যাকাল্টি হিসেবে যোগ দেওয়ার ইচ্ছা আছে।

কয়েক দিন আগে একটি পারিবারিক অনুষ্ঠানে আমার এক আত্মীয়ের সঙ্গে দেখা হয়, যিনি সরকারি প্রশাসনে সচিব পর্যায়ে দায়িত্ব পালন করেছেন। তিনি আমাকে প্রশ্ন করেন, এত টাকা খরচ করে পড়াশোনা করে কী হবে? বিএসসি শেষ করে চাকরি পাব কি না, ভবিষ্যতে কী করব?

তাঁর কথার মূল বিষয়টা ছিল, এত টাকা ও সময় খরচ করার পরও হয়তো চাকরি পাব না, বেকার ঘুরে বেড়াব এবং একসময় চাকরির জন্য তাঁর কাছেই যেতে হবে।

কথাগুলো শোনার পর থেকে প্রশ্নগুলো বারবার মাথায় ঘুরছে। আমি কি সত্যিই ভুল পথে এগোচ্ছি? একটি বেসরকারি বিশ্ববিদ্যালয় থেকে বিএসসি করে কি ভালো ক্যারিয়ার গড়া সম্ভব? আমার অতীতের খারাপ একাডেমিক রেকর্ড কি ভবিষ্যতে বাধা হয়ে দাঁড়াবে?

আমি শুরুতেই অনেক টাকা বেতনের চাকরি আশা করি না। আমি শুধু নিজের যোগ্যতা অনুযায়ী একটা চাকরি দিয়ে শুরু করতে চাই এবং ধীরে ধীরে সামনে এগোতে চাই। পরিশ্রম করার মানসিকতা আমার আছে। কিন্তু এখন এই চিন্তাগুলো এতটাই প্রভাব ফেলছে যে পড়াশোনায়ও মনোযোগ দিতে পারছি না।


r/Dhaka • • 9h ago

Seeking advice/পরামর্শ Where can a girl stay in Dhaka alone for a night?

15 Upvotes

My friend (Female) need to visit dhaka and stay a night somewhere to attend an exam next morning.

The exam will be in DU, so she prefers to stay close. Her budget is 4/4.5K.

Any suggestions for her where it will be safe and sound to stay for a night?


r/Dhaka • • 13h ago

Seeking advice/পরামর্শ How many of you use IEM

8 Upvotes

I'm planning to buy KZ ZS10 pro.It will be my first iem.Share your thoughts.


r/Dhaka • • 21h ago

Discussion/আলোচনা Should EM student apply in BUET?

7 Upvotes

How possible it is to get chance for us in buet?btw I have like 1A*2As in a levels so I'm kinda confused what should I do?plus how's the environment?


r/Dhaka • • 9h ago

Discussion/আলোচনা Looking for like-minded folks in Dhaka to start a modern, evidence-based Islamic discussion circle / podcast & community (Bike trips, halal hangouts, and more!)

5 Upvotes

Apologies in advance for the long post, but I wanted to lay everything out clearly so you know exactly what I’m hoping to build.

A Little About Me

To give you some quick context: I’m an engineer working remotely as a CTO for a Dubai-based company. Professionally, my life is rooted in logic, first-principles thinking, and continuous learning. But outside of work, I’ve been reflecting a lot on the state of our community here in Dhaka specifically regarding how our faith is discussed, practiced, and represented.

The Problem We See Every Day

If we look around, a massive portion of general Islamic knowledge in Bangladesh comes from traditional waz mahfils featuring speakers who often lack rigorous academic grounding. Because of this, we see several recurring issues:

Distorted Social Views Topics like women’s education, independence, and rights are frequently misrepresented in ways that contradict the true spirit of the faith.

Weak Authenticity Countless weak or fabricated (da'eef or mawdoo) hadiths are circulated as absolute truths, while the actual, beautiful depth of the Prophet’s (PBUH) Seerah and Islamic history is reduced to superficial narratives.

The Romance of Poverty A prevailing narrative in many local circles suggests that being poor is inherently a virtue or a sign of superior piety. In reality, Islam encourages financial stability, self-reliance, and enterprise. How can one effectively give charity (Sadaqah), support family, or fund community initiatives without wealth and resources? Financial strength gives us the means to do immense good.

Meanwhile, if you look at Western countries like the UK, the US, or Nordic countries like denmark Norway, Muslim youth are building intellectual spaces, modern podcasts, and open dialogue formats that tackle these very topics with nuance, authenticity, and intellectual rigor. We need that exact kind of discourse here in Dhaka.

What I’m Proposing: A New Circle & Community

I’m looking to connect with like-minded individuals—thinkers, creators, professionals, or students who want to sit down, brainstorm, and launch a podcast or discussion platform centered around real, authentic Islam.

Beyond deep conversations and content creation, the goal is to build a genuine Brotherhood/community where we can enjoy life together. Too many people grow up thinking Islam is rigid or boring and that faith leaves no room for fun. We want to prove that completely wrong.

The Vision:

Regular sit-downs, intellectual discussions, and podcast recordings addressing contemporary issues, authentic history, and scripture.

Organizing road trips around the country (bike tours, car road trips, scenic getaways).

Enjoying clean, halal entertainment, hangouts, and shared meals together, showing that faith and a vibrant social life go hand in hand.

Let’s Connect

If this resonates with you—if you are tired of surface-level narratives and want to be part of an intelligent, progressive, and dynamic circle that reclaims the beauty of our faith—drop a comment below or shoot me a DM. Let’s talk about how we can start building this together.


r/Dhaka • • 16h ago

Discussion/আলোচনা The AI Boom and the Current State of the PC and Mobile Phone Market in Dhaka

4 Upvotes

As we all know, major tech companies around the world are racing to build massive AI data centers to power their services and generate revenue through subscriptions and other business models. While the AI boom has created exciting opportunities and technological advancements, it has also brought some unexpected challenges, particularly for ordinary consumers. One area where these effects are becoming increasingly noticeable is the consumer electronics market, especially PCs, laptops, and smartphones in Dhaka. Based on what I’ve observed, I’d like to share my thoughts on the current situation and offer some practical advice for consumers.

PC and Laptop Market: Rising Prices and Limited Choices — PC and laptop prices are already unreasonably high, and the situation appears to be getting worse. Some computer shops are becoming reluctant to sell individual components, particularly RAM and graphics cards, unless customers purchase an entire PC. The laptop market is facing similar challenges. Most new laptops now come with at least 16GB of RAM, which is sufficient for many users, but it may not be enough for those who regularly multitask, run demanding applications, or keep dozens of browser tabs open. Meanwhile, RAM and SSD prices continue to rise, making new builds and upgrades increasingly expensive. Although manufacturers in China are expanding memory and storage production, increased output does not guarantee immediate price reductions. Supply chains, domestic demand, and the time required for additional production to reach the consumer market all play a role. My advice is to avoid buying a new PC or laptop unless you genuinely need one. If your current system still performs well enough, keep using it. If you need better performance, consider upgrading specific components rather than replacing the entire machine.

Mobile Phone Market: Are We Getting Better Value for Our Money? — The smartphone market is experiencing similar pressures, particularly in the mid-range segment, where prices have risen noticeably. However, marketing can make these increases less obvious. Manufacturers often highlight improved cameras, larger batteries, AI-powered features, and other attractive specifications to justify higher prices. While these improvements can be useful, they don't necessarily mean a phone offers better value than its predecessor. A slightly better camera or a modest battery upgrade may not justify a significant price increase, especially when the overall user experience remains largely unchanged. With the growing emphasis on AI features, it's worth asking whether these additions genuinely improve everyday usability or simply make newer devices seem more appealing.

My Advice: Don't Upgrade Just Because You Can. — The same principle applies to smartphones, PCs, and laptops: if your current device still meets your needs, there's little reason to replace it simply because a newer model is available. If your phone runs smoothly, its battery lasts long enough, and it handles your daily tasks without major issues, there's no need to rush into an upgrade. Replace it when it can no longer serve your needs properly or when repairing it is no longer practical. Likewise, keeping your existing computer and making targeted upgrades when necessary can help you avoid unnecessary expenses. For consumers in Dhaka, where electronics already account for a significant portion of many people's budgets, being selective about purchases is more important than ever.

Final Thoughts — The AI boom may be driving innovation and opening up new possibilities, but its costs don't always fall on the companies leading the race. Ordinary consumers may end up paying more for the essential hardware they rely on every day. Although AI is not the only factor influencing electronics prices, growing demand for memory and other components could add further pressure to an already challenging market. My suggestion is simple: buy what you need, not what marketing encourages you to want. Take care of your existing devices, upgrade only when necessary, and avoid spending more than you need to. In today's market, sometimes the smartest upgrade is no upgrade at all.


r/Dhaka • • 14h ago

Seeking advice/পরামর্শ Just curious

4 Upvotes

Is the bronze award for queen's Commonwealth essay competition any good or do they just give that out to anybody?


r/Dhaka • • 15h ago

Discussion/আলোচনা Holy cross college

5 Upvotes

how good is the teaching quality of Holy Cross College ?


r/Dhaka • • 12h ago

Discussion/আলোচনা do you have any startup idea that you cannot execute for any problem ??

3 Upvotes

you can share with us we can see if we could help you by doing anything
we can build a community or groups to help each other grow so 1 day we all could be successful
your advice is also valuable... share your thoughts


r/Dhaka • • 22h ago

Seeking advice/পরামর্শ Need some car advice

3 Upvotes

Sorry if this isn’t the right place to ask, i couldn’t find proper subreddits for this. I'm looking to buy a car worth around 30-35 lakhs bdt. I'm looking at options for both brand new ones and reconditioned ones.

Wuling Almaz RS

Proton x70

Changan cs75 pro

Hyundai creta (overbudget but still thinking about it as well)

These are the few ones we've shortlisted by now among brand new ones. Are there other ones as well? Is Nissan Almera a good option if found officially at less than 40 lakh despite being 999 cc?

Sorry again if this Isn't the right place.


r/Dhaka • • 6h ago

Seeking advice/পরামর্শ What kind of jobs to expect with Microsoft Excel skills?

2 Upvotes

I studied Marketing at a public university in Bangladesh. However, I don’t want to get into Marketing-related jobs, so I joined a bank in an entry level position a while ago. Now, I want to change careers. To do so, I have learned advanced Excel (including Power Query, data models, and Power Pivot), and I’m now learning to design dashboards using Power BI. At this stage, what kind of job can I get? Usually, data analysis jobs in Bangladesh won’t call a business student for an interview. Should I seek parttime or freelance work, or should I look for a fulltime job on bdjobs? If I do, how do I pass the screening stage for this kind of jobs as I don't have a relevant background?


r/Dhaka • • 8h ago

Seeking advice/পরামর্শ Dentist in Dhaka

2 Upvotes

Hello,
I am searching for a good dentist in Dhaka for my mother who is experienced in dental implants, caps, root canal et cetera. It would be better to get dentists around Banani, Gulshan, Mirpur, Bashundhara. She needs a dental clinic which maintains good sterilization as well. In short, she has complex dental problems and very skeptical about how she is getting treated. Please suggest me some best dentists whose services would not make us broke.


r/Dhaka • • 9h ago

Seeking advice/পরামর্শ Suggest some resorts with a private villa and private pool near Dhaka

2 Upvotes

I'm planning to go to a resort with my gf where we can enjoy outdoor funs in private. Budget isn't an issue, but I'm concerned about proper security, as we're a young couple (both 20) and look even younger. Both of us have NID.

I found one online, called Kaalmegha. Has anyone been there? If so, please share your experience and the security situation. Does anyone have other options? Please let me know.


r/Dhaka • • 10h ago

Seeking advice/পরামর্শ Perfume suggestion NSFW

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2 Upvotes

Gulf Orchid Naseem or Oud Al Layl Midnight Edition. Which one do you prefer?


r/Dhaka • • 10h ago

Discussion/আলোচনা How realistic is it to move to Japan for a master’s in engineering?

2 Upvotes

I've always wanted to move to Japan. But I have no idea about the process. I'll be giving my HSC in 2 years InShaAllah. I'm mostly interested in engineering especially EEE or Architecture. My parents won't let me do Bachelors abroad but I can go for Masters.

Now,my question is, how realistic is it for someone to go there for masters and eventually start living there? Is language a huge barrier? Are people friendly enough? Is it too costly? I want to be practical and I know MEXT is very competitive,so I want to know what other cost friendly opportunities I can get there.


r/Dhaka • • 21h ago

Seeking advice/পরামর্শ Ordering products from china using pinduoduo

2 Upvotes

I have noticed some decent clothing in pinduoduo. But how do I order them from china to bangladesh? Anyone please enlighten me.


r/Dhaka • • 22h ago

Seeking advice/পরামর্শ My sister keeps getting anonymous calls every day anyone else dealing with this?

2 Upvotes

For the past few months, my sister has been getting a lot of anonymous calls from random number like 3 random calls every day. This has never happened before. I was talking to my friend about it, and he said his cousin was also getting these types of calls lately. Even after telling the callers it's a wrong number, they try to keep talking and continue the call. Has anyone else faced this issue?


r/Dhaka • • 23h ago

Jobs/চাকরি Quick money

2 Upvotes

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need to raise 3-4k within 3 weeks, willing to do tutoring jobs or any part time to raise the money

Thanks


r/Dhaka • • 7h ago

Seeking advice/পরামর্শ Review of British council speaking course

1 Upvotes

Hey guys, I am wondering how did the british council fuller road help you to improve your english speaking skills...please share your experience


r/Dhaka • • 7h ago

Seeking advice/পরামর্শ OFFLINE or ONLINE

1 Upvotes

Currently I am studying in Adamjee Cantonment College (HSC28, Engineering Aspirant). I am suffering to choose courses, Firstly i tried ACS, but there class is way longer!! Which is not suitable for me because I'm studying in a strict college. Some seniors said ACS FRB is good to complete HSC syllabus, is it true? In other hand i have HSC27 Udvas h's academic course. And which chapter i should learn deeply, and which from FRB(I mean should not give much time like big chapters). I will start my academic preparation with FRB if its actually good for my AC to AD. Otherwise I will go for offline!!

Currently I am doing Physics, Math offline from a BUTEX bhaiya, he is teaching good. Also doing Physics classes from Udvash HSC27 AC Course.

Please guide me how to study, where to study!!🙏🏻


r/Dhaka • • 8h ago

Seeking advice/পরামর্শ মাইক্রোওভেন।

1 Upvotes

আসসালামু আলাইকুম।

আমার একটা মাইক্রোওভেন প্রয়োজন যেটাতে

\-রান্নাবান্না,

\-খাবার গরম,

\-কেক, পিৎজা বানানো,

\-গ্রিল বানানো সহ যাবতীয় সব কাজই করা যাবে।

কেনার পর যাতে আফসোস না হয়।

বাজেট: ১৫ থেকে ২৫ হাজার।

(প্রয়োজনে বাজেট ৩০ হাজার করা যাবে)

Thanks in advance


r/Dhaka • • 8h ago

Seeking advice/পরামর্শ Reviews on Workout Club Mirpur DOHS

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Looking for user reviews from The Workout Club Mirpur DOHS. What's the equipment like? Good vibes all around?

Open to suggestions for other gyms in the area.