As much as I love violet, which is a lot, I think she is a horrible girl mom.
We have watched this woman talk to her sons about pretty much anything, she confronted Anthony about having a mistress, also Benedict about him being a rake and how he should be careful about not getting any of his āwomenā pregnant.
And yet this woman, witnessed first hand not talking about sexual and marital relationships did to her first daughter, and how miserable she became and somehow ended up avoiding the talk with Fran in season 4, when Fran literally went to her mom, someone that she trusts, begging for help.
This woman has 8 children and we saw her finding some sort of pleasure with Lord Anderson, and yet somehow canāt get herself to talk to her daughter whoās in desperate need of some guidance after she already failed her first daughter (Daphne literally confronted her about it)
And she keep pressuring Eloise into getting married. Now Iāve read Eloiseās story whatsoever however we see how accepting John or Michaelaās family are of her decision to become a spinster, and while we know that thatās mostly because theyāre aware of her sexuality, why canāt Violet just listen to her daughterās for once?
Eloise also had crashed out in season 2 about how her rebellious tendencies arenāt just a phase.
And in Queen Charlotte we see that young Violet is such a fierce and logical girl, standing up to her mom about Lord Danbury, which again I understand that she was pure and didnāt even see where her momās rejection came from.
Still, I love love love Ruth Gemmell, and Iād love to see where Violetās avoidant tendencies started in her spin-off.
But I canāt help but feel frustrated and how she fails her daughters one after another.
Edit:
I understand the challenge of that time and era, and in no way I will imply that Portia was a good mom, however even Portia explained to her daughters how to have sex to get pregnant in season 3 after she realized they don't know what they're doing.
Violet witness Francesca's desperation and just blabbered some random words and moved on and never even asked her if she got her answers.
Even Penelope, a newly married woman whoās the same age as Francesca was worried and shocked when she realized someone who got married at the same time as her has absolutely no idea what an orgasm is.
Violet at the VERY LEAST shouldāve asked Fran if everything was ok at home and with John.
Edit 2:
It just feels like the show has this break out of jail key that is the ātimeā.
Whatever criticism that it receives is either met with āWell itās because of the time and eraā or āwell itās not historically accurateā whichever one helps the case.