The kind of affair where I actually want you, not just a body.

Tell me what you’ve been craving.

I’ve been reading this sub for a while and the same thing keeps jumping out. A lot of women here aren’t just looking for dick. They’re looking for the feeling of being genuinely wanted. The kind of attention that makes your stomach drop when your phone lights up. The texts that stay in your head all day. The way someone looks at you like they’re already undressing you in their mind and also actually listening to what you’re saying.

That’s what I want too.

I’m not here for a quick forgettable hookup or someone who just wants to get off and disappear. I’m looking for the woman who’s been a little neglected, a little restless, and has started fantasizing about something that feels wrong in the best way. The kind of thing where we both know the rules and still can’t stop.

I like the buildup. The flirting that turns into something dirtier. Hearing what actually turns you on instead of guessing. Making sure you come first and then hearing you describe exactly how you want it next time. The secrecy. The way it feels different when you know you’re both choosing it.

If that’s the kind of thing you’ve been thinking about, the attention, the tension, the sex that actually matches the fantasy in your head, tell me. What have you been craving that you’re not getting? What would make you actually reply to someone on here?

No pressure, just be honest, I read everything 😉

Austin, Westlake, Bee Cave, Dripping Springs, Lakeway, Steiner, and River Place are all great areas.

Words dancing around in my head that could best describe our needs: intensity, secrets, vulnerability, surprise, exploration, naughtiness, trust, lust, discreetness, fulfillment.

I'm so tired to a dead bedroom and ready to step out and find a woman on the west side of Austin who needs 1) the friendship and laughter connection on the front end 2) the knock boots, fog the windows, soak the sheets, blush later when you think about it intimacy and the 3) let's hang and laugh after care.

Let's limit hotels. Let's host when we can, play outdoors, play in cars, rent cabins and VRBOs. Let's be youthful again!

Not gonna lie, I can be naughty. Not gonna lie, am a total gentleman.

Tall, BWC, attractive and just ready to have my own secret, my own "thing", my own friend looking for the same thing.

I'm in a situation where I'm missing one of the best parts of being alive. I want to find someone I can share intimacy, excitement, and physical closeness with. I'm a tall white man with dark hair and eyes. If you think we'd be compatible, let's talk and see if there's attraction.

I'm sweet-natured, kind, and intelligent, and I'm looking for someone who understands loneliness within marriage. I don't see any other way to meet these needs except by seeking someone else, so I'm putting this out there hoping the right woman responds. I'm open-minded regarding attraction but hope this isn't your first experience with this.

If you've read this far, what's been on repeat for you lately? Men, please don't message me.

32, good looking, married dad. I’m tall, bearded, active, and have nice eyes. I work hard, hit the gym daily, run, love sports, enjoy reading, and am damn good in the kitchen. I’m a little old-fashioned, naturally more dominant, but definitely have a softer side. Just kinda a happy-go-lucky golden retriever kinda guy. Probably the guy you'd smile at during daycare drop-off and never expect to find here.

I miss having someone to look forward to hearing from. The good morning texts, random selfies, flirting throughout the day, and staying up way too late because neither of us wants to say goodnight. Just having someone who makes you smile at your phone like an idiot. \~

I'd love to meet someone kind, playful, affectionate, and a bit of a social butterfly. Someone with a little sass who can hold a conversation and isn't afraid to show she's interested. I tend to click with fellow parents and women my age or older. Emotional maturity matters more than age. And if you're religious, the irony isn't lost on me.

I'm not looking for a bunch of chats that go nowhere. I'd love to find one person I can laugh with, flirt with, open up to, and genuinely look forward to hearing from every day. I know what I want, and I’m hopeful you do too!

If you've been missing that spark too, maybe we should talk. Tell me a little about yourself. 🙂

I miss having that person you can talk to about pretty much anything. Someone to joke with, give a hard time, flirt with, and genuinely look forward to hearing from. That’s the kind of connection I’d like to find.

A little about me: I’m 42, born and raised in Texas, 6’1”, around 230 lbs, with brown eyes, salt-and-pepper hair, a trimmed beard, glasses, and two tattoos on my left forearm. I’m no gym model, just a regular guy who’s a work in progress and comfortable with who he is.

I’m married, and I’m not looking to change my situation or yours. I’m hoping to meet someone who wants a connection outside the usual day-to-day routine. Something that starts with good conversation and a little flirting, then grows into something we both look forward to. The inside jokes, random messages, and occasional butterflies when their name pops up? Yeah, I’d like a little of that.

I’m easygoing, affectionate, sarcastic, and probably more of a softie than I let on. I also have a confident side and a bit of a dominant streak, but I’ll let you discover that for yourself. When I’m not working, I’m usually into camping, fishing, swimming, sports, cars, movies, or getting hooked on a good TV show.

Who am I looking for?

A woman between 25 and 59 who has a sense of humor, enjoys a little playful banter, and wants more than a few messages that go nowhere. Married is preferred, but I’m open to someone in a long-term or open relationship. The U.S. or Canada would be ideal, and CST is a plus, though time zones aren’t a dealbreaker.

Tattoos and piercings definitely catch my eye, but they’re not a must. A woman who can make me laugh, give me a little attitude, and flirt right back has my attention.

To give us something to talk about, here are a few questions. Pick a couple or answer them all when you reach out:

1. What’s something a man can do that immediately catches your attention?

2. If you could disappear for a weekend and forget about real life, where would you go? Can I come along in that daydream?

3. What’s something about yourself you find ridiculously attractive? Don’t be shy!

4. And just to mix things up a little… bush or bare?

I’m not here just for naughty pictures or a quick thrill. Attraction matters, of course, but I’d rather find someone I genuinely enjoy getting to know and see where things go. Ideally, it’s something consistent, mutual, and fun for both of us.

If you’ve made it this far, why not take a chance and say hi? Tell me a little about yourself, answer one of the questions above, or just start with whatever comes to mind. You don’t need a perfect opening line; a little personality and genuine interest go a long way.

Who knows? We might just end up being each other’s favorite notification.

I’m a 46-year-old white male in Central Texas area, standing 6'1 feet tall, with a beard, a chubbier handsome man.

I’m comfortable being myself, I enjoy a good conversation, and I’m at a point in life where I’m looking for something a little different.

Let’s be honest: I’m in a dead-bedroom situation, and I miss the excitement, intimacy, flirting, and connection that come with having someone special to share those things with. I’m not looking to change anyone’s situation or turn anyone’s world upside down. I’m hoping to find a like-minded woman who wants a friends-with-benefits connection with mutual respect, discretion, chemistry, and absolutely no pressure to be anything other than what we agree on.

I’d love to find someone who wants more than just a random hookup. Someone I can talk to daily, share the little details of life with, laugh with, flirt with throughout the day, and build a connection that gives us both something to look forward to.

Physically, I’m definitely attracted to a woman who’s thick and curvy. But attraction is about more than looks. Confidence, a playful personality, a good sense of humor, and an open mind are all incredibly sexy.

I’d love to meet someone who’s adventurous in the bedroom, curious about exploring her desires, and comfortable communicating about what she likes. Maybe you already know what you want, or maybe you’re curious and just need the right person to explore with. Either way, chemistry, comfort, consent, and mutual enthusiasm matter.

I am open to women of all races, and location is flexible and something we can discuss and makes a fun roadtrip.

I’m looking for consistency, honesty, communication, and someone who genuinely wants to make time for a connection. I don't expect constant attention, but I do appreciate someone who follows through, enjoys checking in, and wants to keep the spark alive outside the bedroom, too.

Tell me a little about yourself, what you're into, or what your ideal road trip soundtrack would be. Bonus points if you can recommend a great movie or challenge me on sports!

Let's see if we click, take our time getting to know each other, and see where the chemistry leads.

Are you also stuck in a marriage that died years ago? Situation not changing anytime soon? Live as roommates and you’re tired of just existing? If that sums up your everyday feelings, then let’s change our perspective together.

I’m 45, Hispanic, and life North Fort Worth. I’m short and I think I’m average to below average in looks. I know attraction is important but I also do not want to mislead anyone.

I have a pretty flexible job so I can accommodate daytime meetings. Looking for someone I can get to know and give them the attention they’re not getting at home.

Talk to me about music, movies, books, 80’s, science and engineering. Hope to find someone that is willing to give someone like me a shot.

​Hey Reddit,

​Putting myself out there feels a bit vulnerable, but I am looking for a real connection with someone who balances the realities of life with a desire for genuine excitement.

I am 35, married, and have kids—so things are happily busy, but I am missing that extra layer of personal connection. I am not looking to upend my life, but rather to find someone special to share laughs, deep conversations, and new experiences with.

​When I have downtime, you will usually find me unwinding with video games, watching anime, tinkering with my 3D printer, or playing flag football. I am naturally curious and love hearing about what other people are passionate about, even if our hobbies are completely different.

​I value a few key qualities in a connection:

​Discreet and understanding, given our mutual circumstances.

​Intelligent, engaging, and able to hold a great conversation.

​Kind, empathetic, and grounded.

​Adventurous in spirit, whether that means exploring new ideas or finding joy in the everyday.

​If you are in a similar place and looking for someone who appreciates nuance and good company, send me a message with your favorite song right now. We can start online and see how our vibe develops, with the possibility of meeting up down the road if it feels right. Looking forward to hearing from you.

In a cold bed marriage. Looking for physical connection and more. Not looking to change mine or your situation.

About me. I am 6'2", have an athletic build, large shoulders; white guy, laid back, calm disposition, patient, experienced, have a vasectomy, discreet and very kink friendly.

I am looking for a curious girl with the potential for an on going arrangement is preferred. Please be between 24-50, hwp and DDF, friendly, laid back, kink friendly and discreet.

Looking to get together the first weekend in November. My pic is on my profile. Hope to hear from you.

Heading to Austin for a mix of business and pleasure from 11/15 to 11/19, and looking for an attractive, like-minded female around my age to share an incredible getaway.

I’m 34, fit, and looking for strong chemistry and mutual sexual attraction. It’s more about the sex and the scenery than traditional travel. Sure, during the day we might be exploring the city together—that quick butt grope when we hop on a ride or that stare across the table right after dinner. But at night, our room is filled with nothing but our moans and raw, passionate lust for each other, sliding back and forth as we kiss. I'll have business obligations during parts of the trip, giving you plenty of independent time to relax or explore on your own.

What’s Included:
Hotel: Fully covered.
Flights: If you're traveling with me from the Bay Area, your flight can be fully or partly covered.
The Extra Perk: As a major bonus, I am trained in professional, sensual, and deep massages (Swedish, deep tissue, aromatherapy, and custom sessions with essential oils) to keep you completely pampered in a clean, private, zero-pressure, and discreet space.
Looking For: Someone attractive, around my age, a great conversationalist, and genuinely excited for this kind of FWB dynamic.

If this sounds like you, shoot me a DM introducing yourself with your age, location, and what excites you about a scenario like this.

I’m a 37 year old married man that is looking for women that are maybe looking to get rid of any used bras that they have that are either too old or don’t fit anymore. I’ll just cut to the chase and say that I like getting off into bras especially bras that aren’t my wife’s so I’m hoping to find a match. I’m able to meet up during lunch breaks if we are able to find a spot that makes sense for the both of us. I understand Houston is a large city. I hope to hear from any ladies soon!

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Hello, I am always horrible at writing these but here it goes. Im a married man seeking a married female to escape reality for awhile with. Id like to chat during the day either while working or when we can sneak away and make time for each other. Im hoping to find someone who wants to put in effort with chatting on discord or telegram. Voice notes or voice calls to talk about our days and really build the connection.

Im hoping to find someone who doe st mind falling for each other or atleast has some feelings for something longterm. I do like to flirt and tease and I hide your ok with that as well. My home life is pretty boring, dead bedroom. Im not looking to change our situation but keep this our little secret.

Im 6 ft i like to run and workout and its ok if you dont. I have blonde hair blue eyes and currently growing the beard for winter. Don't worry its a full beard. I do e joy the outdoors and good music, I would like to share songs with each other to reflect on when it comes on the radio. Let's create our own world and have fun doing it.

Anyways message me your favorite band or song.

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A little about me:
- Married, very involved, dad of 2
- Tall, muscular, well-kept beard, nice eyes, and naturally a bit old-fashioned and dominant, and attentive. I’d say I’m attractive, and have been told as much.
- Driven with a great white collar career
- Hobby-wise, I enjoy reading, cooking, and taking care of myself. Have always played sports, so still try to remain active with pickup basketball, pickleball, or similar.
- I work hard, so I tend to enjoy the finer things in life. I don’t see anything wrong with having expensive taste
- Haven’t been super happy in my marriage for awhile, so I know what I want and what I’m looking for.
- Not the best at talking about myself, so please feel free to ask all the questions you may be curious about!

What I’m looking for:
- Age doesn’t play a big role for me here. If you’re mature and know what you want, then that’s what I want.
- Would prefer you’re also a parent, but not the end of the world if you aren’t
- Personality matters a lot to me! I want someone who is excited to talk and get to know each other.
- Looks aren’t the end all, be all for me, but I’d prefer if you were also someone who enjoys looking nice and enjoys taking care of themselves. Confidence in your own skin is attractive! Bonus if you also enjoy the finer things in life.
- I don’t want someone who is just looking for a fun fling. I’d like something longer term and real.

Drop me a chat and tell me about yourself and what made you wanna reach out. I am comfortable moving off of here to Snap or Telegram after we chat a bit.

Looking for a woman in the Houston area that's 40 years or older. I feel we would have more in common and more to chat about.

I'm married and 6'0", have a dad bod and have been told I'm handsome. I'm sweet and down to earth, if I had to say anything negative about myself it would be maybe I'm too cautious but with the right woman I'd be comfortable.

Physical traits don't matter as much to me, I'm more interested in personality, although attraction is important too.

Looking to chat and get to know each other than maybe meetup and flirt or go on walks and maybe more if there's chemistry but mainly just wanting something simple to pass the time.

If that sounds like fun and you're in that age range send me your age and part of Houston and let's chat!

41, married, and looking for that little reason to sneak away, check my phone, and smile when I see a message from someone special. I’d rather leave some things for us to discover through conversation instead of putting my entire life story in a post.

A little about me: I’m a dad, a great communicator, a movie and music buff, and the guy friends come to for honest advice. I have a dark sense of humor, enjoy a good back-and-forth, and appreciate conversations that can go from playful banter to something a little deeper. Physically, I have a solid, sturdy build—not a skinny guy, but a well-built man with some natural thickness.

I’m pretty available and willing to put real time and effort into getting to know someone. I’m drawn to confident women who can make me laugh, aren’t afraid to be themselves, and have a curious, adventurous side. A little teasing, genuine chemistry, and conversations that make us lose track of time are always a plus.

I’m not looking to change either of our situations. I’m looking for a connection that adds something to them: excitement, affection, laughter, meaningful conversations, and that little spark that makes an ordinary day feel different. I’m not afraid of feelings, and I don’t think genuine effort or emotional connection should be something we shy away from.

If you’ve made it this far, tell me your favorite movie when you message me. It’s an easy conversation starter, and I’m always up for a good movie debate.

34 Hispanic male looking for a lady friend to drain my cock my sex life at home is dead but I love to have sex I’m in the galleria area