She's cute, sexy, empathetic, present and has a great thick ass. I'm a lucky married guy

I have found no where to post this and am dropping it here. We're older, 66/65. I'm recently retired, after a very difficult last year in a high pressure job.

After this difficult year, where she supported me and my decisions, and treating me like an absolute king, I'm more in love than ever. I'm in absolute awe of where our relationship is now. My God, I wish we had been this wise, loving and committed to each other's happiness before. If you're thirty years younger, I wish I had a way to tell you to get here.

Our bodies aren't what they once were and that's okay, we love what we were and what we are. I'm more madly in love with my wife and what she is than I've ever been before and that's in no small part due to the way she loves me.

She's very fair skinned and has done a good job in protecting herself, no overly long times in the sun and looks at least a decade younger than she is, due to her self preservation. Of course, fair skin, means dry skin and she has always moisturized.

Due to the challenges of the last year, I've appreciated how much she means to me and was looking at expanding our intimacy beyond just the sexual. Yesterday, I asked to help her with her moisturizing. She agreed.

She had freshly showered and I had her lay on a pool towel, on her stomach on the bed. I applied the lotion, to her back, her arms, her butt and legs. I was easier to apply more when she was on her back. I could life each leg, each arm and rub the lotion in well. Of course, to her stomach and breasts and all her beautiful parts. This wasn't sexual but it was. I didn't rub it in her pussy as we didn't think that was what body lotion was designed.

It was just loving and pampering her and appreciating her and enjoying her and making her feel good.

We've made love, we've fucked, we've enjoyed each other for nearly 40 years. This was a different way of me loving her and an entirely new level of intimacy than we've ever shared before.

(40f) I’ve always wanted to go to a strip club with my husband. Tell me your experiences.

I’ve had many thoughts and fantasies of going. Watching him (and me, too!) get lap dances. And going to the back rooms.

Any former strippers want to chip in, how do strippers feel about couples going together? Anything particular you wish couples knew?

(FWIW, we are +40, chunky couple. That makes us a bit insecure in the lifestyle stuff. . The internet makes it feel like everyone is fit & buff)

I’m curious to hear from women in particular. Imagine you’re in a long-term marriage where sex has become rare or almost nonexistent, and the main reason is that you personally don’t feel much sexual desire / have a low libido. In that situation, if your husband had a sexual affair, would you be open to the idea of forgiving him? Under what conditions (if any)?
Would love to hear honest thoughts.

Me and my wife have been together for almost 9 years now. I’m 6” and a decent girth. Maybe just a tad bit above average. Recently, I’ve decided to buy dildos that are bigger than me and use them on her. 7” and a 8.5”. I didn’t tell my wife I was buying them. I was wanting it to be a suprise. Long story short, we tried them and she makes noises and faces that I’ve not ever heard before. Not like a scream, but softer moans and blushing face. Keep in mind, the only dick my wife has took, was me. She was a virgin until she met me. She seems very shy about it and never brings up using them during sex. It’s always me who initiates it, but when I do, it’s like she loves it. How should I feel?

Last night my wife was clearly in the mood, grinding against me, soft moans, but we both crashed hard.

She’s still asleep this morning. I want to wake her up and finish what we started.

How would you do it?

Newly married couple here. 27f 28M Wife complains of pain everytime I enter her (finger/ dick).

I would say I don't have a massive dick. Fully erect I'm around 5 to 6 inches. My wife is around 5'1 height and weighs 57KG. Whenever I try to enter her she feels pain down there. Lube has helped but not much. We do have good foreplay and fingering sessions.

I (44m) am trying to level up sex with my wife (44f). Over the last many, many years, sex had become very routine. Before kids we had great sex with varied positions and she always came, usually both of us at the same time. She’s conservative sexually which honestly is my preference. I’m hardly a kink. But she was always wet and quite often horny.

And then we had our first born who is now 15. She had a traumatic birth with significant vaginal tearing. Our son was not easy as toddler (ADHD, mild autism). We had a brief sexual resurgence during baby making for the second chip a decade ago. Then sex became routine again. We’ve worked from
Home together the last decade and sex was usually squeezed in between calls. Literally a minute of foreplay, a blow job, and then I go on top and finish. She doesn’t like oral and when she used to like a finger bang she doesn’t want that either. She never comes and almost did once when she was quite drunk. Then she had breast cancer (which is remission thank God), a mastectomy, reconstruction and then a full hysterectomy on top of it. Her body has been through so much that I honestly think most women would’ve tapped out of sex but we continue on.

I love her so, so much. I cannot imagine life without her. Multiple times a day I think about having vigorous sex with her but it’s been anything but. I’ve been grieving the loss of that time when we’re first together, really the first five without kids when we’d the sex was unhurried.

Despite my frustrations, I kept them mostly to myself although my wife would say her body has been through a lot which it obviously has. We have built such a wonderful life together but I started to yearn for that feeling of us being young and in love.

I didn’t know what else to do other than to dial back the clock. I started to compliment her more, such as her outfits. More goodnight kisses, more I love yous, more me scheduling date night rather than her reminding that me we need time out together. And I have to say she’s reciprocated and the last two times we had sex were still hurried (we still have kids in the house after all) but she was more comfortable in her body. We also switched from daytime work from home sex to evening sex that usually follows a date or us sitting on the couch connecting with each other. The sex is so much deeper and she was definitely wetter. Dare I say she was moaning even just a little.

And now suddenly I have developed the butterflies around her. I want her constantly but giving lots of physical connection without the expectation of sex and I feel like this is going somewhere. Maybe, just maybe we can get closer to that version of our old sex life.

Or maybe I’m just being naive and too hopeful. But I’m curious whether anyone on this sub has tried this approach. Where did it lead your sex life?

For those of you who had to learn how to do it, do you have any advice? Materials for reading you’d recommend??

I’ve asked my husband to be more vocal in the bedroom because it turns me on. He’s trying but it’s… bad… and part of it is because I can hear the lack of confidence in his tone. I don’t know how to give him positive feedback, so in the moment I ignore it. I’d like to have a conversation with him and see if he is open to educating himself. I really don’t want to tell him what to say to. That takes the fun out of it, IMO.

I need some advice. My wife has expressed that she would like me to be more dominant and use her in the bed for my pleasure. We basically practice soft free use, but she would be full free use if we could. She has mentioned that she wants me to just take control and do what I want. To fully dominate her. She wants to be treated like a slut but she doesn’t want to be degraded. She wants to be dominated but still treated with respect. She wants some BDSM added as well.

I have started to incorporate some more force into sex. I’ve been pulling her hair aggressively when in doggy, face fucking her until spit runs down her face, and I’ve added some choking. I haven’t really got the commanding talk down. She doesn’t want to be called a slut or whore. She doesn’t want me to slap her or spit on her. Pretty much anything else is free game. So where do I go from here? I’ve always treated her like my queen and never disrespected her. But I’ve slowly started to add some to our play. What are my next steps? How do I treat her and talk to her? I haven’t done all the dom stuff at once, just here and there. I want to give her an entire session of just dominating her and using her like a cheap whore to make her happy and give her what she wants. This is all very new for me. So please guide me basically.

Wife was open to the idea out of nowhere. We tried a decade ago but I was inexperienced and did not know lube was required

My wife was able to have multiple anal orgasms for the first time in her life and performed oral sex on me with a simultaneous prostate massage. It was my first time experiencing a prostate orgasm as well.

I

On Monday, he ate me out, fisted my pussy and spanked me.
On Wednesday, I sat on his face, rode his tongue and came a couple times.
Last night, we played with toys and I was DP’d by him and a little dildo in my ass.

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Happy Friday!
We’ll see what happens this weekend!

🤤

Hello I F35 would be interested in purchasing my fost sex toy and I have no idea what to look for. Can you recommend something small to be easy to hide form my kids and beginner friendly?

Thank you

We are looking at a few nights away with the little one and enjoying new years eve away at an air b and b then we can have a nice walk New Year’s Day.

im trying to think of a way I can suggest or ask my wife to dress up for new years eve make the night sexy. but I respect her body and that she may not want to do this. she has dressed in the past but I want her to dress sluty if that makes sense and that’s not really easy to say that to her.

Have you ever asked your wife to do this or as a wife have you done this for your partner and did he ask?

I know it’s about communication but often my wife just thinks that’s all I want is her dressed up and that’s not the case!

I don't know what I'm looking for in this post. But my wife and I have always had a really good sex life. Freaky stuff and plenty of wild past experiences. But after having kids, things have gotten increasingly more difficult to get intimate. We just had our third kid and the doctor cleared my wife for intercourse, but we can never get a couple minutes to break away for a quicky. I know things will get better as the kids get older, but I'm having trouble at the moment. I'm sure other people go thru the same thing, but I can use some words of encouragement.

My wife and I are married for almost 15 years. Sex has been always good, but somehow we have reached a sort of script. We have busy working lives and manage to have sex once or twice a week. It always goes on like this: she loves to use her clit sucker while l penetrate her, she cums, then l she asks me how I wanna finish…

I tried to communicate to her my kinks, buy new toys, tell her how much I find her hot. She is more shy but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t look for sex, it is not always me who have to initiate. She says she is lazy and wants to do things that she knows will get her off and it is for me to come up with ideas, etc.

I have been thinking about revisiting some things we tried in the past, like couple card apps, etc; but l am not sure.

Dear Redditors, any ideas and suggestions? How did you overcome a similar situation?

Is it something that happens rarely or often or maybe never in your marriage? If it does happen, what is the method or position that’s most successful for you two? Did it take you a long time to figure out how to do this together or did it come very natural to you?

For my wife and I (46F and 47M) I will confess that this has never once happened for us in our 24 years of marriage.

We have a regular sex life it’s just that we always kind of “take turns” cumming. Usually I cum during PIV and she cums from my hand either before or after PIV.

It sounds really incredible to build up together and explode together, so I am definitely very envious of any couples here who can actually achieve this, and I’d be very curious to hear more from anyone willing to share.

I have question for the folk how do you guys feel about pegging? My wife want to try which I’m willing just unsure. Thoughts and opinion are appreciated

I just want to have sex with a horny woman again. My wife is in 2+ years of perimenopause and she could not care less about sex. Shes on HRT which has mostly cured her other symptoms, but in her own words she has less than zero libido. She has brought this up with multiple docs and has been prescribed a T cream with no change. I’ve suggested many things to her that I’ve read here and been recommended, but it’s come to a point where I don’t think she cares enough to put in more work to resolve it. If you never have a horny thought or craving, why would you care?

Please don’t respond here with suggestions of what she needs to do. I’ve received a lot of those over the years which I’ve relayed to her. It’s up to her to want change in my opinion.

My balls are aching for release. She gives me duty sex when I ask but after 2 years I’m yearning for more. Our sex life was so amazing up until the last couple years. I got a taste of how incredible sex can be and now it’s gone. We are best friends in every other way.

We are nearly 50 and I feel this ticking clock on my own sexual experiences. I feel like I may only have so much time left and my best friend doesn’t want to experience it with me. It’s the most lonely I’ve ever felt in my life yet my life is filled with so many amazing friends and blessings.

Unfortunately I’m now going down a rabbit hole of porn that I know is not good for me, searching for satisfying release. What a mess.

I’ve read a lot of other posts like this over the years and thought it sounded terrible, not knowing I would end up experiencing it too.

My husband has recently gotten exceptionally good at giving head. Cunnilingus has historically not been my favorite thing, and he’s the first partner who's ever made me crave it. So, of course, now he needs a partial glossectomy.

Basically, he has to have a small part of his tongue removed because he has a premalignant plaque and a family history of oral cancer. I'm very much in favor of the procedure, but it's like rain on your wedding day, etc. It feels like a cosmic injustice. 

His surgeon is phenomenal and says everything should go back to normal afterward, but my husband hasn't asked him specifically about oral sex. He’s dreading the procedure and wants to do the “watchful waiting” thing. I’m very attached to him, so I’ve vetoed that. 

I’m afraid to venture into the relevant medical subreddits, but based on my conversations with AI, the best case scenario involves about two months without oral sex. I also think it would be naive not to consider the possibility of some permanent loss of tongue mobility or sensation. 

Between now and when I drag my husband into surgery, I foresee a lot of 69. What else should be on my cunnilingus bucket list? We’ve never tried facesitting, but a lot of people seem to love it. 

And if anyone has had a partial glossectomy, please tell me about it. 

Hi all, I’m 33yo and married for almost 10years with my lovely wife (35). Every year for Xmas we give each other two types of gifts. One is what we call the normal/Xmas tree safe gift. The other is the bedroom/x-rated gift. I would love to have your ideas and help for this second type. For background, we started with this second type of gifts, as we noticed things were getting too scripted and routine. For instance, last year l gave her an Advent’s calendar type with a number of toys, etc. For this year, l was thinking about an upgraded version given how much she enjoyed it last year. Yet, l’m afraid of coming across as uncommitted with our idea, which l am totally onboard! So, my dear Redditors, can you help me? Thanks!

What’s the one picture that gets your partner that gets you off the most. The one that will make you have a great cum session.

Mine is an old picture I found of my wife. It was from before we were dating. I found a picture of her giving her ex head. Every time I beat off I use that picture.

What are yours?

My (f24) husband (m28) has never been the most sexual person. We have a very normal sex life, I would prefer higher frequency but I take what I can get. I have a disturbingly high libido but I don’t allow it to hurt our relationship. I am happy. However, I do wish we would get kinkier and explore other things than just oral and PIV.

The other day, I was giving him a blowjob per usual. I am an oral addict and I could strictly give blowjobs and be satisfied. I love the feeling of my mouth/throat being used. For the first time ever in 6 years, he grabbed my head and fucked my throat aggressively. Exactly what I had been dreaming of for so many years and asking for whenever it felt appropriate. Immediately following he seemed to feel bad as if he hurt me. I doubled down and said how hot it was and how I wanted that more. We have not had any sex in any form since and I’m worried that somehow I handled the situation wrong? How do I lean into this and continue to push the exploration further. I always talk about anal, him using my throat, and mention that I am always down to try ANYTHING no matter how weird or intense it may be. I am trying to handle this gently without pushing him away, but also trying to encourage it so I don’t lose momentum.