r/leukemia • u/Ok_Inevitable_3640 • 12h ago
Is it normal for the oncologist to have you organise your affairs
My partner recently has been diagnosed with a aggressive form of leukaemia- we still are waiting one more genetic test to know just how much it has spread into his central nervous system.
The doctor came in yesterday along with a social worker and a clinical nurse and advised my partner he needed to complete a power of attorney form and also prepare his will and a justice of the peace came to the bed and officited it that day.
The doctors keep saying he will start a paeds protocol on Wednesday but we’re still waiting for that last test to know what “protocol” they will go down. Not one of these drs have said anything hopeful no talks of it being treatable or manageable just that we have to wait and see how his body will react to the chemo and that he is on the emergency list for a stem cell transplant if it’s needed.
The thing is he was healthy and fine last week. Yes on and off he had minor things come up health wise like a sore leg or a cold but we have children and everything was able to be put down to just life.
He only went to the dr and had the blood test done because he felt like in his words he was dying and well I was because the dr said if he hadn’t of come in on the weekend just gone he would be dead by now.
I get it if it quacks like a duck looks like a duck then it’s a duck. But I just don’t want to accept any of this.
Is this normal for a dr to be pushing for affairs to be in order before all the testing and treatment have even been planned properly?