Hey everyone! I'm a bi guy and I've known I'm bi for about 6 years now.
For a long time I didn't really have anyone to talk about this with, so finding this sub feels really nice.
I'm still figuring some stuff out and it's cool to see other people with similar experiences.
Glad to be here! 🦋✨

Ive accepted myself as bisexual only for a few months now, I’ve came out to a few people I care about but other than that I’m still new to all of this. So far I have only tried a relationship with one other guy and it went horribly wrong. Our conversations only led to link up and us doing…stuff. I kept telling myself to be happy for the experience but it was only momentary pleasure and then a feeling of being dirty I could not shake. I ended things thankfully but now I can’t help but feel that same loneliness I felt before. People keep telling me to go with the flow, trust the process, but i cant help but feel so alone. It’s gotten so bad I feel jealous of fictional characters with healthy relationship. Ive never felt more pathetic honestly I just don’t know where to go from here part of me wants to give up on it but another wants me to keep pushing I just don’t know how. All I want is a real relationship but not being completely out and living in the south doesn’t leave much option to find it.

Couple of weeks ago or should I say a month ago, I was chatting in my campus gay club discord server and I'm talking about me being a Christian and at the same time bisexual and I've seen a lot of straight Christian guys that are cute and it's hard to pretend to be straight. And I mentioned my friend and is name is Ethan, and I found him cute but I later clarified I don't have any crush on him, he's just cute. And my Christian club called me and they heard about that conversation, which I clarified I just found him cute, and I don't have any crush on him and no I am not gonna make him uncomfortable. And it seems like they reluctantly believed me. So, last Wednesday night, me and Ethan have this conversation, and I though he thought I was bi, but turns out, no he didn't heard anything about it or about me. So, I came out to him, I talked about my sexuality and I clarified to him that no, I am not gonna make him uncomfortable and I told him about it because we're friends and I trusted him and he told me, "You're chill", he just accepted me and he told me about his other gay friend and he respected me. And I am so glad our conversation went well, it's so refreshing and I like him even more

Because the BiTeens Discord server was archived, I wasn’t able to make this post there. I’m officially 20 now, which means I’m no longer a teenager. Not sure if any of you ever knew me, my name is Alice (used to be Jaden) and I was fairly active in the Discord server for a while. Anyways, just wanted to say my farewell to this wonderful community. I hope to see you in the BiAdults community when you’re all grown up!

No one at my school is attractive enough (in my opinion) or gay. I dont even know any other gay men. I want a relationship so badly😭

So, for context I have this friend online who is a girl. I like her and I mean genuinely like her, but we both live far away from each other. I have trust issues from my last relationship, but that's not the point. The point is that... I told her that I'm bisexual and she hasn't responded back at all. It's been hours since she looked at my messages. I know I should be patient. But, I genuinely do like this girl and want her. But, I also have to wait for her to get ungrounded and I also need to learn to trust people again - especially when people are saying things and I make it sound like they are lying to me when I know they aren't lying to me. But, back to what I was saying. I want to be with this girl once I do learn to trust people again, but I'm worried I ruined everything between us now that I came out to her as bisexual.

this guy is just amazing, one of their post was about making i guess their cat OC resemble HGBTQIA+ flags, even months later they still do it, and if you are reading this… they were amazin mate, have a amazing life and may yourself get blessed u/Chemical-Special-_- and where ever you are now, who ever you hope i wish you an amazing life :)

French translation :
Ce type est vraiment incroyable ! Dans une de ses publications, il/elle a créé un personnage original (OC) qui ressemble, je crois, à des drapeaux HGBTIQIA+. Même des mois plus tard, il/elle continue de le faire. Si tu lis ceci… il/elle était vraiment génial(e), mec ! Passe une vie extraordinaire et que Dieu te bénisse, u/Chemical-Special-_-. Où que tu sois maintenant, qui que tu sois, je te souhaite une vie merveilleuse :)

She’s so accepting and kind! We share a ton of the same interests and have a pretty similar comfort level. she is liek the perfect match for me. we just met at the beginning of highschool and I started to have feelings for her and apparently the same went for her. I remember I was telling her how I wish I had someone who liked me but didn’t view me as a boy and she asked to be my girlfriend. (She’s pan she so she’s cool with everything) she agreed to calm em partner instead of boyfriend. We’ve gone on a couple dates and shes jsut so amazing.

How much does it suck to be single? There are days im okay, and days where im sad and lonely because everyone else is dating, but I still don’t. Its sad sometimes, and feels difficult to even have a interest in someone

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Hi everyone! I [16F] and my friend [16F], let’s call her Sophia have had a very confusing and blurred relationship from the end of year 10 to the beginning of year 12. In year 10 while I still had a boyfriend (yes, I know it’s bad) on two occasions we ended up kissing in her bed, with some under the top touching as well. We never spoke about it, though it was painfully awkward for me at least and felt wrong. In year 11 I would frequently watch shows with her in her bed, and she would touch me in sexual ways. We would be cuddling and she would unhook my bra, touch up my shirt, up my bra and touching my underboob etc. On one occasion she rested her hand veryyy low down on my stomach and moved it back after I told her to stop and move her hand away. Although we didn’t kiss at this stage, the touching was very sexually charged and made me feel strange and sad afterwards. Towards the end of year 11 we had completed GCSE’s and I went to her place with another friend for 2 days. The first night we all drank and it was fun. But the second night my friend decided not to drink, so me and Sophia shared a small amount of alcohol. We both became very touchy and clingy… Then I went to the bathroom with her to brush my teeth, while we were in there she told be to straddle her and she was touching my bum and pulling me into her. Then when we got back to our beds we started kissing and touching. Suddenly she put her tongue in my mouth, it caught me off guard because I had never made out before, but of course I continued. Note that throughout this whole situation I have been very terrified of making her uncomfortable, since I am the girl who has been out of the closet for a while and she considers herself to be straight. Every time I would move my hands up her shirt and inch I would check that it was okay with her. She ended up getting impatient and started touching my boobs and even putting her hands down my underwear and groping my bum. Our legs were also tangled so our privates were touching and grinding. Overall it was a VERY overwhelming experience… She then went to the bathroom and when she came back she said “I’m so drunk what just happened I don’t remember anything…”. I replied, “I don’t know..” then we both went to bed and didn’t speak about it in the morning. But let’s be so real 1 and a half buzzballs doesn’t make you lose your memory especially 2 minutes after something happened. The funny thing was that before this happened she was drunkenly complaining about me thinking she’s gay, I never said this to her but I’m assuming one of my friends told her. She was adamantly insisting that she is straight, but her actions said otherwise. I was filled with so much anger after that situation since she pretended nothing happened, also anger at myself for allowing this to happen for so long. The whole thing just felt like some dirty shameful secret since it only occurred at night. She was also very affectionate before and during, but afterwards she would suddenly become cold and distant which made me feel even worse.

I was just silently brooding over this situation until I mustered up the courage to ask my friend if Sophia had said anything about the situation. Turns out Sophia told her that I was trying to kiss her and being touchy, she also made it out as if it made her uncomfortable and I was being weird. Hearing this I alternated to feeling angered at this blatant lie, but I also felt very guilty. Maybe I had misinterpreted the situation and made her uncomfortable? I decided it was time to actually speak to her about the whole situation. And when I asked her about why she lied and how we have never spoken about it, making me feel used and experimented on. She started by saying it was just because she was drunk. When I brought up the fact this STARTED sober and moved on to saying “you’re very touchy with me, like holding my hands and hugging me, so it didn’t feel weird to do these things. It seemed platonic to me.” Platonic??? Platonic my ass. Holding hands and hugging seems to me very normal platonic affection, groping and making out is extremely sexual so it doesn’t seem to be a good excuse. When I expressed this to her you could see that she agreed in her heart but she continued spouting stupid excuses and lies. She claimed she didn’t remember lying to my friend, but later said to the same friend she lied because she felt embarrassed and didn’t want to talk about it. It just hurts that not only did she lie, but she also twisted it and made me look weird. She claimed that she’s not into girls and doesn’t know why she kept doing things with me. She then continued by saying she didn’t realise this affected me so much and she’d rather that we just forget about this and go back to how we were before. All of this just felt so outrageous to me, but it was exactly the reaction I expected from her. I said “I think I’ve heard enough.” and got up to leave. While I was leaving she said “what does this mean for our friendship?” I simply replied by saying “I mean it’s too late to change what happened.” I then left while she profusely apologised.

Since then I haven’t been speaking to her at all. At first she tried to make small talk and pretend that everything was normal, but when I acted cold she began to realise I wasn’t going to try and ignore what happened. It’s common from her to pretend everything is fine during conflict, but I personally felt over such a serious thing it’s better to not try and be super amicable. It has been INCREDIBLY awkward since we are in the same friend group. Everyone is thankfully on my side after how she responded. I forgot to mention on the same day I confronted her she came and apologised to a few of my friends crying and saying, “I’m really sorry I’m just confused…about everything. But I’m still the same Sofia I don’t want this to change how you see me.” To me it seemed that she was more concerned about her image rather than the actions she did and how they affected people around her. She then came to speak to me again a few days later. I was incredibly upset still and couldn’t even look her in the eyes. It hurt that I had began to develop feelings for her after all the things we did but it didn’t seem to affect her in any way. Her response was a lot better the second time around, but she still emphasised how she thought it was platonic. She did open up more saying how she regretted it every time and didn’t know why she kept doing it because she’s straight and has never been attracted to a woman. I urged her to do some careful introspection, because it makes no sense to keep doing this while having no ounce of attraction to women. She claimed that she wasn’t experimenting or using me, but I just can’t understand her intentions at all it’s so confusing. She really just repeated a lot of the same things and I couldn’t really respond well because I was so upset and she left after I had no response to her final comment. Since then the past few weeks have been insanely uncomfortable. I haven’t spoken to her at all and my entire friendship group of around 6 people feel incredibly awkward too. She has still been eating with us at lunch but less frequently. Most of my friends still speak to her, which I have no issue with of course, but the way she treated me was the breaking point for one of my friends and they are not on speaking terms either.

I just feel really conflicted on what to do next. She is willing to repair our friendship, so it’s really up to me on what happens next. Being strangers is so upsetting and terrible. Being FWB would be a disaster. Dating is absolutely off the table, I wouldn’t want to and of course she is straight (?). But being friends seems to be too difficult. It was easy to try and act normal when we hadn’t spoken about it at all, but now that we have I’d feel awkward doing incredibly normal things like holding hands and such. The way she responded was just so hurtful and unforgivable in my opinion. Do I even want to be friends with someone who lied about me and tried to understate what happened? I really need some people’s advice on what to do next regarding our friendship. I also would love if people have been in her side of this situation before, I have really been trying to think about how she is feeling in this whole situation, buts it’s hard when her actions have hurt me so much. I am really unsure if she is straight or if she is actually confused/closeted. It just seems ridiculous to me that you can continue with this for a year and a half while being completely heterosexual. Any advice would be much appreciated! Thank you for reading this far, sorry it’s so long!

Okay so, I'm Mexican, Bisexual, 18 and A top student.

The thing is that my parents are somewhat conservative and my Mom got in fights with my mom because my dad's family thinks Im gay and My dad he is very Close minded and Im afraid I do not know how they will react. I am in that middle ground between the Accident and golden child what should I do?!?!?!

Long story short: I realized my friend likes me so i started flirting with him and he started flirting back too. We were so damn cute together until i decided to call him and tell him that i liked him

He said he wasnt gay even though i knew that was bullshit (im pretty sure he’s bi, like me) so i asked him if we could talk

After that, he has become so petty and distant towards me. He has this attitude every time i try to talk to him normally and i’ve just decided to move on

I turns 20 tomorrows

So me and Bodhi have been friends for a year or so and omg he is so fine. I catch him looking at me, he catches me looking at him, he stands next to me alot (like at school when he walks over to our group he usually walks straight to me and stands next to me and stands in the "gay stance" where he leans on one leg), we like play fight near everyday. But the bad signs are that whenever i go to talk to him he sometimes says "shut the fuck up loser" (dw he doesnt hate me or nothing ts is js what he says he actually likes me as a friend) and like alot of the time when i say something it's either him ignoring me or him not hearing me im not sure but yeah i get aired. I really want to ask him out or at least tell him i have a crush on him but like idk if he'd even say yes cos of the homophobs in our year (year 9). WHAT THE FUCK DO I DO RAHHHHHHHH. Both 15m btw. Oh also a few days ago when my muscly friend aaron flexed i saw Bodhi staring at his arms a lil longer than everyone else after he stopped flexing so maybe he likes boys (no diss i stare at aaron all the time) and one time when i was daxed at recess or lunch Bodhi was staring at my downstairs a lil longer than you would normally (if you catch my drift). But like omg his brown eyes>>>>>>>>>>> his ahh>>>>>>> his thighs>>>>>>>>>>> his dih(he's informed me of the length, never seen it tho😔)>>>>>>>> HE'S SO FINE OMG I WANT TO MARRY THIS BOY I'D BE HIS GOOD BOYWIFE FOREVER

Edit: gang idk why i was so freaky at the end i'm sorry

If so, this track should be it (or the original Blur - Girls and Boys).

So im a non binary he/thay bisexual but i noticed i fell sexual attraction to all genders i only fell romantic attraction to more masculine people i know about the term minsexual and was wondering if minromantic was a term in use for people like me if not im coining it

Should I ?

For context, I'm a closeted bi man

At first when classes started, there was only this guy I started talking with from day one that I found cute, and I quickly had the confirmation during a conversation that he was gay, which fueled my expectations.

We have been seeing each other pretty often at school but only with other people of his class, and honestly, even I appreciate this time, he has been showing not so much interest and I sometimes felt left apart in the group. He also have some red flags according to me (like being wayyy too long to respond on messages).

Then, I think 2 weeks ago, he started talking about a guy he has a crush on. I don't really know what he expects from this, if he will give it a try (I personally think the guy he has a crush on is straight but we never know), but the fact he could talk about it freely when around me, and the way our shared friends where contributing to bringing back the subject was a bit disappointing and made me think I should definitely stop expecting something for now.

That's when I started addressing other possible crushes I had in mind, and that I hadn't considered before due to my expectations with the first one, and I talked to my best friends about them, which make 3 other crushes. I know for sure the orientation of only one of them.

I started trying to create opportunities, and I have messaged all of them (not in a row 😭 but in a pretty short amount of time) and started trying to flirt... that also when the first guy started to show a bit more interest which simply made it impossible for me to completely give up on him...

The feeling is more or less there with each one of them, and since I'm closeted, I have to judge whether there is really something possible romantically and show my interest clearly. But I honestly don't like doing that...

I feel like I'm just desperate for a relationship and, even if there's nothing really serious with any of them for now, I can't help but find that somehow disrespectful. I'm also scared that if there's actually something more serious with more than one of them, I'll have to end expectations I initially started... I hate playing with people's feelings, I don't want to be this type of person..

Any advice, or experience to share ?

Hey so im having some trouble figuring out my sexuality, im 16 f and I've had crushes on men only so far but im also like "women are hot" but i haven't been able to imagine myself dating a woman but I think it's bc I haven't had a crush on a specific woman so I wanna know what other people think

Pretty new her but yeah, gonna be fun meeting people here :3

Also im sexually queer so im a boy not knowing If im gay, pan, bi, straight etc. So you can say whatever you want, but straight i dont wanna be called straight so yeah ;3

Is he staright?

So for context we are both males and I’m bi. I moved to a new school and he is my upperclassman. No one besides 3 other ppl know that I am bi at this school.

I joined my schools marching band and he was one of the people in my section. So at first he tried talking to me a lot like just asking about what school I came from, my grade, my age, and just some basic stuff. After he stared at me during rehearsals and we would just stare at each other just locking eyes. Also, both of our 7th periods are in the same building so we would look for each other then locking eyes before we went to our 8th period. Recently he stopped looking at me but will still strike a convo sometimes. He also asked if I was going to HOCO and my relationship status.

So do you guys think he is straight and if he likes me.