r/BDSMpersonals • • Jun 12 '26

How to post UPDATED - Important - PLEASE READ NSFW

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We have now switched listings to be done via external website.

This signifcantly impacts the possibilities for spammers and scammers to post and it also leads to better, more structured listings. More info here: https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMpersonals/comments/1tv535g/big_changes_coming_up_with_external_personals/

Idea is that you can build a proper personal ad easily in one place, then submit the link here in seconds. No fiddling with automod issues or formatting headaches (there are plenty due to us having to tune security to max), and your ad lives on a site built specifically for BDSM personals AND it's linked to reddit so it gets the exposure reddit offers.

So, simple steps:

Create your ad at https://weheartbdsm.com

When ready click on "Open Reddit submit page" (shown on website when ad is submitted). It takes you to reddit with right title and link

Submit and you're done

That's it. No headaches with the title or proper formatting. However do note that your account HAS to be at least 15 days old in order to link to reddit. While you can create a personal on site immediately, if you do not have reddit account that is older than 15 days you cannot link it until it is at least 15 days old.

Your post title still needs to follow the standard Numerical age [Flair] #Location format so do not edit the title offered, and your post must be flaired to match.

Please note:

All accounts must be at least 15 days old to post here.

We do not allow posts offering/requesting/demanding financial compensation.

We do not allow users to request/demand financial compensation in DMs, private chats, etc.

We do not allow delete and reposts. One post per seven days only. If you delete your own post, we can not recover it, and we will not allow you to make a new post.

We do not allow multi-accounting. One account per person posting. Posting on behalf of another is also multi-accounting. Allowing others to log into your account and make posts is also multi-accounting.

ALWAYS REMEMBER:

NEVER EVER GIVE SOMEONE YOUR PERSONAL DETAILS WHEN THEY ASK THEM STRAIGHT OUT OF THE BAT, THIS IS COMMON SCAMMER BLACKMAIL TACTIC

BETTER BE SAFE THAN SORRY, IF YOU DO LEAVE PERSONAL TO REDDIT AND SOMEONE CONTACTS YOU, PLEASE BE CAREFUL (especially if you are a male looking for female and ESPECIALLY if you are looking for a dominant female)

USE COMMON SENSE

NEVER SEND ANY TRIBUTES TO ANYONE WHO IS ASKING IT FROM THE GET GO

Finally,

To make it clear: WeHeartBDSM is operated by members of the r/BDSMpersonals moderation team. Creating and linking a personal ad is completely free. Advertising, donations and optional supporter subscriptions to help cover operating costs, and payment never provides preferential treatment, posting privileges or any other advantage on Reddit.


r/BDSMpersonals • • 17h ago

Android App published (iOS in the works) NSFW

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Quick update about state of things and news about Apps.

So, first of all. App for Android is out, you can find it here: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.whb.app

It's still an early version and it surely has bugs, it will be having plenty of changes and features incoming plus what you're seeing now is just the main basic version that will be built upon.

As main features and which make the difference are absolutely:

  • Push notifications about new messages
  • Smoother chat experience on mobiles
  • Smoother experience overall

Since the last update, website has received tons of updates as well and it will continue to be developed and especially polished.

What's next? iOS app. Can't give a date and can't honestly even promise other than that I will try to get it published to App store. But it's in the works and I will update immediately when there's news about it.

Any feedback about the app, please use the website and it's support.

Thanks for reading!


r/BDSMpersonals • • 2h ago

M4F 37 [M4F] #LosAngele - Funny, fit, cute blue-eyed guy seeks sub-leaning, pretty, witty, smart, sweetheart, GF or exclusive FWB who's blessed with longer labia minora AKA big kitty lips; butterfly wings; tan meaty outies NSFW

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Please only reply if you read my full post and think you have personality and physical qualities I seek. I can provide labia examples I prefe if you like. Thank you.

I seek a sweet, smart, witty, pretty woman I feel romantic attraction to, from her mind, wit, humor, heart, to her eyes, smile, face, figure and naturally bigger sexy kissable lips on her mouth and on her pretty kitty. I'm talking about lovely longer labia minora, from medium meaty sizes to extra long. You likely know if you have the type lower love-lips I prefer, but if you're curious, I can share examples. It seems many wom6 don't realize how many men love and even prefer bigger longer labia minora. For me, they are the most arousing type visually, to admire, to play with, to pleasure with kisses, a treat to eat, to make love with my mouth and my member, to suck, fuck, lick and dick.

I don't seek a random hookup fling thing. I'm patient to develop a connection, to desire monogamous, mutual deep sexy loving chemistry before being intimate. I want a woman who is my pleasure to please, making love, deeply and often, to enjoy talking, cuddling and simply eye gazing. I like all eye colors, though shape and angle matters, preferring upturned, positive canthal tilt, almond and fox/cat-eyes. I like skin tones from white to dark-tan, olive-brown. I like all-natural curves in the right places, a thin to thick body, average busty to extra top heavy, even very full figure hourglass, but not BBW.

I love showing affection, physical, emotional and intellectual stimulation, sharing fun, funny, interesting experiences with flirting building our desires to kiss. I want to explore romance, feeling our chemistry from talking, holding hands, massages, kisses, eventually developing into breast/nipple play, edging, oral worshipping and making love, satisfying you as often as you desire. Your lovely lips can keep me hungry and kissing, even for hours if you desire that during loving sexy sessions. And when we have time, napping together, holding you, then waking you with kisses to repeat the session, we can call it cuddlingus.

To offer this passion makes me seek someone special. I don't know what dating term is used for making love level pleasures, call it a partner, GF, a relationship even developing into long term. I may be open to starting as friends with exclusive benefits, maybe a pillow princess (which IMO, is still a form of relationship, but focused on your pleasures).

A goal is a healthy loving connection and safe, sexy pleasures without drama. I'm confident my loving skills can make a woman be exclusive with me. Though, I may be open to a bisexual woman, if you are very very selective about it, or even if you only enjoy us reading/watching about it, talking about your sexy naughty kinky desires when we're in bed and in that mood.

I know this is redundant but I've gotten responses that don't understand what I prefer. To clarify, the type of labia I prefer are actually common, the medium sizes to extra lovely larger longer labia minora, with colors from tan-pink, beige, to darker browns. I like them with textures I can feel on my tongue when sucking on them with your clit. I like them spreadable to reach your nectar like pretty pussy petals, butterfly wings, delicious dangling meaty outies, so a wide variety of kinds. This includes longer inner lips that may be hidden by fuller/puffy labia majora and only seen when you spread.

I also like those darker tan colors for your nipples/areolas because it makes me hungrier to kiss, suckle, including dry or wet ANR, ABF. I'm a fan of most classic sexy loving positions in bed and open to explore kinks, being vocal, roleplay, discussing our fantasies, daddy dom/sub switch play, reading erotica aloud and even writing stories to stimulate, arouse and help you cum better.

I'm cute, creative, fun, funny, hygienic, healthy, white with blue eyes, brown hair, full short beard, single with no kids. I enjoy reading, some writing, watching video essays, documentaries, podcasts, politics, current events, comedy, cooking, nature, walks, hikes, exercising, science, arts and creative pursuits. Keeping healthy is a passion of mine, including a plant based diet of mostly whole foods. I may be open to 420/drinks to enhance our loving sessions.

It would be fun listening to our favorite songs and mixes during loving sessions. For me, a variety of newer and older music genres, melodic electronic, ambient, IDM, soulful chillout, chillwave, future garage, down tempo, dubtechno, deep house, nu disco, nu jazz, indie pop, indie dance, synthwave, 80s bands, post rock, post punk, darkwave, britpop, dreampop, shoegaze. What are some of your favorite genres/bands? (No one answers this question)

I may be open to distance, but prefer a woman in Los Angeles, losangeles, LA, L.A. SoCal, CA areas.


r/BDSMpersonals • • 1h ago

F4M 39 [F4M] #sanfrancisco #ca #usa — Idk who the fuck I am anymore NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 9h ago

F4M 25 [F4M] #vancouver #canada — seeking long-term pleasure dom. NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 11h ago

F4A 19 [F4ANY] #online — Hoping to meet more kinky people:) NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 8h ago

F4M 22 [F4M] #canada — hi everyone!!! NSFW

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hi everyone!!! very new to this but I'm definitely curious and want to learn more about this world!! I´m not really sure what im looking for but i know that i want to find someone who i can be comfortable and explore (and older or with more experience) feel free to message me and we´ll see where it goes!!! ps. im really shy at the beginning but i´ll make sure to make up for it ;)


r/BDSMpersonals • • 15h ago

F4M 23 [F4M] #netherlands — Inexperienced sub looking for someone to explore my kinks with NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 10h ago

F4A 41 [F4M] #ky #usa — Little/Slave looking for Master/Daddy NSFW

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Hi, I'm Ribbet. Chaos gremlin, nurse, mom, modder, gamer, occasional slave and little.

I'm looking for one person who wants to stay.

Someone to play games with, be silly with, go on adventures with, and build a life with. Someone who chooses me as deliberately as I choose them.

I like BDSM a lot, and submission is one of the ways I connect most deeply with someone. It's something like a love language for me, but please don't expect me to give that part of myself over easily. I've been burned a few times, as I imagine most of us have.

I identify as a slave, and I'd really love to find someone who wants that level of ownership, trust, and devotion with their person. Not just the title or the fun parts, but the responsibility and care that come with it.

Being a dork with me is important.

I like people who nerd out about things, who read, who enjoy escaping into fantasy worlds as much as I do. Weird animal facts, space, science, history, all the wonderful and strange things there are to learn about.

Do you love physics but you're really bad at math and feel a little sad about that? ME TOOOOO.

I'm not always the most intelligent person in the room, but I'm often the most curious.

I love exploring, museums, discovering little places, and learning things just because they're interesting. I want someone who will get excited about something ridiculous with me, who will listen to me ramble about the latest thing I've fallen down a rabbit hole researching, and who has their own things they're equally excited to share.

I'll keep my kinks fairly simple here, because I'm much more interested in building something with a good person than finding someone who checks every box on a bedroom compatibility list. That's something I'm willing to explore and build together.

I identify as:

  • Slave
  • Little
  • Monogamous
  • Masochist

I enjoy:

  • Structure
  • Restraints
  • Impact play
  • Ageplay

My career is important to me, and I'm pretty good at passing for vanilla when I need to. I'd like to find someone who wants BDSM threaded naturally throughout our relationship in a way that's safe, sane, sustainable, and meaningful to both of us.

I'm not interested in performing a dynamic for the sake of having one. I want something real, with someone who understands that the relationship matters just as much as the dynamic.

Please only reach out if you're genuinely interested in getting to know someone and have the time and emotional availability to do that consistently.

I don't expect constant attention. I do expect honesty, effort, and communication.

Please don't waste my time, and I promise I won't waste yours.


r/BDSMpersonals • • 3h ago

M4F 36 [M4F] #denver #co #usa — Experienced Dom. I’ve done it all, but I don’t need it all. I enjoy helping my partner take their next step. It’s wonderful. Don’t be shy, DM me. NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 5h ago

F4M 22 [F4M] #boston #ma #usa — Boston’s Tallest Little Princess NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 18m ago

F4M 35 [F4M] #online/SoCal Amazon position please! NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 4h ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #online — Dom looking for a dynamic based on trust, structure and care NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 22m ago

M4F 22 [M4F] #regina #canada — I want a fucking GF right now, no one is loyal these days can't a guy just find a woman to fucking love and cherish while still spanking and abusing them (with consent) NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 25m ago

F4M 21 [F4M] #sacramento #ca #usa — 21F Punjabi/Sikh Brat Looking For Long-Term NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 1h ago

M4F 25 [M4F] #online — Hoping to find the right dominant female NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 1h ago

M4F 27 [M4F] #Mumbai #India — Looking for a Sub/Painslut/Masochist who yearns to be used/trained/owned NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 1h ago

M4A 27 [M4ANY] #vienna #austria — Sorry, but could I borrow your hands? NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 1h ago

M4F 36 [M4F] #atlanta #ga #usa — Dom/Daddy/Sir seeking a LTR with a Submissive/Little/Slave NSFW

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Looking for a LTR only, see details on my values, interests, personality, and bdsm/kinks, on the link in this post, which also contains my fetlife.

Look forward to hearing from you soon, please be safe and smart everyone.


r/BDSMpersonals • • 1h ago

F4A 40 [F4A] #FortCollins #Colorado Submissive masochist looking for "impactful" experiences and connections NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 8h ago

M4F 35 [M4F] #usa — Naturally Dominant Seeking Sweet, Curious and Submissive NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 2h ago

M4A 35 [M4ANY] #losangeles #ca #usa — Submissive looking to enjoy another's company NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 3h ago

M4F 38 [M4F] #northsandiego #online— Just a hopeless romantic looking for his kinky partner NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 3h ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #Germany #Online - Erotica Writer looking for Longterm Connection NSFW

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r/BDSMpersonals • • 3h ago

F4F 27 [F4F] #online — deranged denied porn addict goonette looking for a cruel twisted dommy NSFW

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