A while ago, a friend of mine asked me about ONE of THE most famous adages (or proverbs) in Arabic literature: القَناعَةُ كَنْزٌ لا يَفْنى and I answered him that it translates into
"Contentment is a treasure that never fades-away"..
I was being too literal; but I had explained to him that TRUE treasure is having that 'peace-of-mind' inside your mind, inside your home and in all aspects of your life; and not constantly running-around after material gains exhausting yourself and exhausting everyone around you..
I wasn't 100% happy with that explanation, and I do not think that he understood the weight of that statement..
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I also told him that القناعة كنز لا يفنى is NOT a quote from prophet Muhammad ﷺ nor from the Quran; it is simply what people say since.. forever..
- Plato إفلاطون (the Greek philosopher) said "القَناعَةُ تُوَفِّرُ الْوَقْتَ لِلتَّمَتّعِ بِالحَياةِ Contentment saves time to enjoy life"..
- and Imam Al-Shafi'i الإمام الشافعي said "القَناعَةُ رَأْسُ الغِنى Contentment is the-chief-source of richness"..
and there are other similar quotes with the similar message from the Hadith(s) (from prophet Muhammad ﷺ) and from Imam Al-Hussain ibn Al-Imam Ali -- quotes that I did not know about them at the time, and only found-out about them much much later while writing this piece..
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He then asked me "when do people say القناعة كنز لا يفنى?"
When and at what occasions?
I told him that we say it to people who believe that "the grass is always greener on the other side" -- To remind them that true treasure is to be happy of what you have and of what you have achieved.. and that "Your grass gets greener when you water it, and when you take good-care of it"
Again, my explanation was too superficial, and it really DID NOT cover the true spirit of this famous famous famous proverb in Arabic..
I was not too happy with my own explanation, and he was not too thrilled either..
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Months later, he texted..
- I got it!! "Comparison is the thief of joy"..
and I thought about it for a good minute before I texted back "exactly"..
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"Comparison is the thief of joy" is a famous quote attributed to the former U.S. President Theodore Roosevelt (1858-1919).. In Arabic, it would have been something like "المُقارَنَةُ هِيَ سارِقَةُ الْبَهْجَةِ"..
and this proverb/adage is particularly more important today in the modern age of the internet, social media and streaming services when people constantly compare their own lives with other people's lives..
Social media makes life a lot worse because most people only share their best moments when they are happy, successful and "on top of the world!!", and they do not share their daily struggles and their lowest points, as often..
You are more likely to share your successes than your failures online..
and by looking at the other people's "happier" lives, it can make ANYONE fall into the trap of envy, and into the trap of having unrealistic standards/expectations for/from yourself, your spouse and the world around you..
It can make you a lot unhappier about your own life..
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ALL THESE QUOTES, they warn against measuring your own life, success and happiness against other people's apparent "success" - as it makes your own achievements feel smaller, less important or inadequate..
and it ultimately brings misery, restlessness, anger, resentment, cheating, divorce and all sorts of negative things into your life, and to the people around you..
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On the other hand; Having the peace of mind (being content of what you have and of what you have achieved) is the one true treasure that everyone should have..
Contentment is a treasure that never fades-away القَناعَةُ كَنْزٌ لا يَفْنى -- it is the true treasure..
Comparison is the thief of joy المُقارَنَةُ هِيَ سارِقَةُ الْبَهْجَةِ -- similar message but from a different POV..
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Peace y'all